My step mother and i have never really seen eye to eye, but today was the last straw. OK, first off im gay and 17 years old. Now tonight my stepmother call being gay un-natural, and the my choosen holloween costume flaunted my "gayness" to the entire world. My holloween costume is of a greek gaurd which means a skirt with it, when i bought it i had no entention of flaunting my "gayness", i bought it because i liked the outfit. Why is she so ignorant, and what should i do about it.
Im thinking of just calling our relationship over, but my dad says that will not teach ignorant people a lesson.
2006-10-28 18:20:34 · 31 answers · asked by Doug 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have a stepmom for the past 20 yrs.....the biggest royal " B " you can imagine. So much so every friend I have uses her as an example of other *******...her name is June so every says..."man...that guy is a June Jr" and such.
Well after head butting with her for years someone gave me a piece of advice I laughed at, but desperate I tried it. It worked like a charm after time and today she has no ill words to my face and goes out of her way to ensure she is never in my presence if I show up for a visit. She'll leave or make sure she's working.
Be overly nice to her.....so nice, sweet and kind that it makes you ill. Now being gay you can even go farther than a straight guy can in the department. I mean really pour it on.
When she says something nasty, like that outfit just shoes off your gayness. Be like....
It will bewilder her....and they normally have no idea what to say. People like her and my stepmom are negitive types. They thrive and feed on someone fighting back, they want you to fight back. To not fight goes against what they are trying to accomplish and after time they give up trying to start fights with you.
Try it....in a few weeks you'll be amazed at how much she'll stay clear of you or just not say anything.
2006-10-28 18:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The toughest side approximately such a lot stepmoms is that they do not detect what YOU are going via. They consider it is ok to proper your habits simply as they could their possess baby, however you would've been raised otherwise. And to the above poster, this stepmom would have such a lot to deal with, and he or she would have well cause to get disappointed, however that during NO means offers her any cause to make the stepdaughter wish to transport out. This is a thirteen yr historical woman we are speaking approximately-- of direction she would come throughout as immature, however she's proper in her emotions. She's needed to watch her dad get married to any individual she certainly does not like, with that got here four stepsisters, and a pair of extra toddlers. Wouldn't YOU get disappointed in case your lifestyles used to be on a curler coaster trip like that? I consider sure.
2016-09-01 04:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by stufflebeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being gay or buying a costume that has a skirt in it. just umm plz dont where skirts out in public. Now what to do with your evil step-mom. Hmmm...well there isnt anything you can do. Just don't talk to her leave her alone. Avoid her at all costs. And if you don't want to do that then talk to your dad about it and have him talk to her about it. Thats what I would do. And I know what you mean about having people call you names just becuz you seem different to them (however you are not). Im not lezbain but i have friends that go through it and I get my dad calling me goth and emo all the time. I ahve learned to not let it get to me. People put other people down because they are trying to be cool or live up to an expectation or to make themselves feel beter.
and yah gays are awesome and usually very hott!!!!!! I luv gay guys oh Im a chick
2006-10-28 18:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by KelseyKatastrophe. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being that she is your step-mom it is gonna be hard to block her out of your life. It will be difficult to live life with her ignorant comments and there will most likely be the chance that she will never accept the fact that you are gay and she will most likely continue to irritate you for as long as she is with your father. However, you must feel good about your self and learn to ignore her attitude. What is most important is what you think of your self. Make your goals a reality. Go off to college and do always what you want and what makes you most happy. Don't let her ruin your days!
2006-10-28 18:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a blog and log all the funny or rude things she says (don't tell her about it though). This would be a good creative outlet for you and a way to process the frustration you must be feeling. You'd probably be surprised at the number of people in similar situations. Good luck. Remember, you're 17, so you can move out on your own soon and not have to deal with it in your face as much.
2006-10-28 18:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jon M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flaunt! She only lashes out at you for something she cannot understand. Overlook it. Be proud of who you are. If you are at peace with yourself that is all that matters. There will be many times in your life that you are juged. Take pride in yourself! Listen to your Dad. If you call off the relationship, that means she wins. Don't let her get under your skin, be the bigger person! :) Good luck!
2006-10-28 18:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing to do to a person is to laugh at them. If you CAN manage it, just laugh at her. Say something like, "You think it's too gay? Cause I had this Liza Minelli costume, but I thought too many people would be wearing it this year..."
I'm sorry she doesn't give you more respect than that. It sounds like a great costume btw! (And if she thinks greek guards are "gay", make her read about Sparta)
2006-10-28 18:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
aw honey, people like that can be frustrating. it's your life choice and she has no right to critscize you. tell her that. if you're happy with who you are that's all that matters. you can't make everybody happy, but she has to learn to respect others especially if she wants to have a relationship with you. show her that being gay isn't unnatural at all, that in fact it's very natural for you and should have no bearing on how she sees you. you deserve all the love and respect she should give everyone else.
give her a hug and tell her that you respect her and her choices and that one day you hope she can do the same for you.
2006-10-28 18:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see your point of view but you have to remember, you are a minor and I assume you live in her house? It's her (and your dad's) house so it is their rules, not yours. Once you move out on your own and start paying your own bills, you can do whatever you want, within the law. I know it doesn't seem fair but that's the law.
2006-10-28 18:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by pleeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you live with your dad and stepmom? if so you should keep the peace. perhaps you could give her some materials on pflg, if she still refuses to accept you screw her, don't decalre open warfare just cease to acknowledge her at all. be pleasant, answer if spoken to directly but don't try to enlighten her anymore. we all have choices in life, hopefully she'll make the right one, but you yourself should choose to be a happy kind enlightened soul no matter what happens..........i wish you the best
2006-10-28 21:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋