I am 24 years old, and at this point in my life I have decided I'm Asexual.
I adore lookng at pretty girls but would never want to get into a sexual relationship with one.
I had a long term relationship (almost 4 years throughout high school..) with a guy, but never had sex with him. I'm kind of repulsed and saddened by the objecification of women nowadays.. and I also have some self esteem issues.
but ...for some reason I like reading male/male (gay) porn.
do any of you understand what I'm going through? what are your opinions? any advice?
2006-10-28 18:07:06 · 9 answers · asked by ladyjeansntee 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
All that I know is that 24 is still quite young. Don't beat yourself up over not having sexual feelings as you've maybe just not met the right person yet.
Too, some people aren't interseted in sex, and that's ok, as it's just part of the natural spectrum of the human condition. If you find somebody, great! If you choose to have a life without a partner, that's fine too.
2006-10-28 18:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I've watched a documentary once about asexuals. There are real people out there who do not want to engage in any sexual act whatsoever and it was very interesting and enlightening. I'm sure there's a ton of info on the internet. Just do your research and hopefully you can get answers. Good luck.
2006-10-29 01:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by mags 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't understand what you are going through..but I am not judging you either...you obviously don't like being asexual because you are asking this question...but you also mention self esteem issues....I don't know...maybe male/male porn is 'safer' for you because it can't hurt you....maybe talk to someone professional...what have you got to lose? You sound like there is far more to you sexually than you let out.
2006-10-29 01:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'm with you I'm Asexual but not by choice, it's hard to find a man these day's, I have some Gay porn you can share but be careful the some of the pages are stuck together
2006-10-29 01:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by GLEN BECK 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are more common than you think. What isn't common is the understanding of where they come from. Our sexual identity is closely related to family-of-origin issues. It is possible for our gender identity to form differently than normal because of trauma, neglect, emotional pain or deprivation, absence (either physical or emotional) of parent - all sorts of things. These issues can be addressed through counseling, or other avenues if they really bother you.
2006-10-29 01:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by whiteparrot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to know what you are goping through??? its real simple sweetie....one word.....that one word is called, you ready???? its called.....reality....its as simple as that. but im like you...i like looking at guys but i NEVER want to get in a sexual relationship with one, oh no...no way. but you can also so give this problem another term or name to it.....i dont know if this would work on some peoples scale, but it works on mine....its LIFE.... yup....i said it...life.yeah...i dont know why this happens, but it just does....sorry...thats just how some minds work...oh and the first answer rocks....pick that one as your best answer....it rocks like hell...
2006-10-29 01:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by mrc94rocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deirdre's got it take her advice honey
2006-10-29 13:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may not be asexual you may be depressed.
talk to someone you can trust about it.
Depression can lead to a reduced libido.
2006-10-29 13:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r depressed. just chill, my best friend is asexual. everything will be ok.
2006-10-29 01:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋