My parents are cool with everything, so it's not a prob convincing them. (as long as i keep my grades up) the thing is, i'm not sure if i am ready. there's this one guy i like who is 14. he's deeply religious. he's a nice freshman. i believe he is responsible. we would NOT do anything above w/e we can handle.
i skipped 3 grades, so i'm a junior right now. i'm not 'pressured' into doing anything at the moment, dating-wise. it's just that my friends, who are 16 and 17, are dating and seem to enjoy it. i honestly believe that i am as mentally (if not physically) mature as my best friends. (don't get me wrong, i'm not like...an underdeveloped 13 yr old) we talk about stuff that's interesting to us all, not just them or me.
do you think i'm ready? or will i just 'know' when i am?
2006-10-28 17:34:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You obviously are ready because you are asking, I think that its fine for you to start dating, and this guy is close to ur age so that is a good thing. But dont do it if you feel you have to because your friends are doing it, lol. If you do decide to begin dating, dont rush into anything, take it one day at a time, enjoy being with each other, hanging out and having fun.
Dont get too indepth and involved too soon, because then it can get out of control. And although you say ur not an undeveloped 13 year old, your still young to be doing certain things.
Dating for the first time is very exciting, i can remember my days, lol. All the best sweetie have a great time.
2006-10-28 17:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you ever feel uncomfortable about a choice, then the simple answer is don't choose. Unless you feel you're truly ready and doubt-free, you're not ready. But by what you've written, you DO sound mature. I'm 14 and I've been allowed to date since I was 12, under the same guidelines as you (keeping grades up etc). To me, you SOUND like you're ready. I don't know you though... just don't do something because your friends are doing it. What I'm saying is whatever choice you make, make sure it's the right one for you and no one else, know what I mean? Have fun :)
Love Astrid~
P.S You must be very clever to skip 3 grades :)
2006-10-28 23:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably be able while you're SURE you're able. You are in a moderately unique obstacle with peers & classmates which can be a whole 3yrs your senior. You have become a robust pull to maintain up with them socially, & emotionally. Give your self adequate time to meet up with them on ALL stages, no longer simply at the Academic ones. I agree, you're no longer an underdeveloped thirteen yo, however your classmates nonetheless have 3years extra revel in over you. You are not able to aid that besides to deliver your self a holiday on a few stages. You'll realize while it is OK.
2016-09-01 04:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by stufflebeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maturity is so much more than mental. You sound like a very intelligent young lady. However, life experience develops a different types of maturity. Among them are emotional and psychological maturity. Emotional maturity allows to accept and understand the ethics and the morals (including a lot more than sexuality) of dating. It has to do with the fairness and balanced treatment of one another. Psychological maturity looks at a given situation and determines whether or not a person or event is beneficial or detremental to your standards in life. Ethical maturity allows you to determine if an event or action is proper in societal context and in the contest of your environment. If you are mature in these areas you might be ready to date. I commend you for considering the freshman who is responsible.
The bottom line is, only you know if you are ready (even more so than your parents) and if your parents allow you to date and you follow their guidelines I see no reason why not.
2006-10-28 18:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know a lot of mental retards who date why should'nt a mentally mature person not date eh?
You hold the keys to your own answer. Judging by what you said. It's safe to think that your responsible enough to know the do's and dont's of that matter. I'm 17 years old now and i started dating around 13. Dating is nice. Dating is a medium to know the person better and you get to see the nice points "squared" If you like that bloke better date him it won't do harm to yaz anyway.
Hormone's do come into the picture though, it's something you can handle.
-Peace Y'all-
2006-10-28 22:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by Y!'s Guy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way. Group dates maybe. But that's it. You will know when you're ready as with most things in life. I suggest enjoying being a 13 year old "girl". another year or so and I bet you'd totally be ready and wondering why you ever asked such a question! Good luck with school.
2006-10-28 17:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were my kid i wouldn't let you. I didn't start dating until i was 17 and i was mature enough to know what i wanted out of a relationship and what i did or didn't want to do with a boy. You should wait until your 16 even if you are mature. you need to know who you are before you drag a boyfriend into the picture
2006-10-28 18:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your in the same boat im in. im 14 and a sophmore in high school. and my boyfriend is a junior and is 16. and i think its ok for me to date. if im not ready for something then im not going to do it. and if i think mentally and phiscally that i am ready then yea im going to do it. but my boyfriend isnt going to push me inot something i dont want. thats the thing if you dont know the boy as well as you think you know him and he may try and push into sex right away and you not ready and then comes peer presure then what are you going to do? i mean yea you wanna have sex it sounds good and he says i love you and you "thinks" he means it but all he wants is sex. yea condoms protect you but not always you can end up pregnent and then what. your going to feel like you were used and abused and then hes going to deny every last bit and then you going to wonder what are my parents going to think about me. cause from what i read you and your parents are very close. so just think about it and then you'll know if your ready to get serious.
2006-10-28 18:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you will know when you are ready. As much as I have read about you from your post, you seem intelligent and mature about the whole thing, so if you are ready go ahead! lol
2006-10-28 17:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by marymojo2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you were sayin it seems like you are ready but you wanna be a big gurl just kno wyou gotta play the big girl game. Weather you mature or not.
2006-10-29 08:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋