I am a married male with kids and a great wife, except my sex life is dismal at best. I don't want a divorce and don't want to destroy my marriage. I want to know what I need to do, if there is anything I can do, to suppress my unfulfilled sex drive. Is there a medication I can take? Is there anything I can do to stop the constant cycle of anticipation of sex and denial? Please help, its driving me crazy!
2006-10-28 17:28:11 · 13 answers · asked by want to stay married 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-10-28 17:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 2⤊ 10⤋
For what ever reason, human males were blessed with an over active sex drive. A sex drive that far exceeds what would ever be needed in the animal kingdom.
So there is nothing you can do to reduce your drive (you are normal). Just find acceptable ways to channel it. I assume you have no problem taking matters into your own hand. Chat with your spouse and see if there is a way to increase the amount of sex you are currently having.
If your spouse seems not too keen on having sex, maybe try and find out why. Most men I know think they are pretty good lovers, and yet in my experience, they really aren't. And it isn't that they don't want to be! Most of the time no one has ever taken the time to educate them on the subtlies of the female anatomy. Those men who are willing to learn from a woman what works become such good lovers that their spouses want sex much more often.
My experience only. Ahhh.
2006-10-28 17:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation, except I'd be grateful for an-y-thing. Haven't had traditional sex in over two years. And about the whole masturbation thing... Should I wait one more night to see if we can get something started before I "take care of my own business"? One more night turns into two, then three. Then, the night you finally cave because you feel like you'll explode, she wakes up (after having gone to bed at her traditional 9:00) and wants to give you a hand job 30 minutes after you've done your thing. CRAP! I wish there were a magic pill!!!! ARGHHHH!!!!
2006-10-28 18:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually you both have problems with your sex drive because she has too less and you have too much...that means it doesn't match. But divorcing is not the solution. What you need to do is talk to your wife, ask her why she's not interested in sex as you are...is there anything you can do to pleasure her more? Maybe you're not paying much attention to her orgasm or foreplay so she feels bored with sex and doesn't want it at all. Maybe she's overworked with the kids and not able to relax enough to have sex. The best thing is to talk to her, help her around the house, listen to her needs during sex and get her in the mood with candles, music, a babysitter, a weekend getaway etc. if you want to improve relations with your wife.
2006-10-28 17:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Ditto
2006-10-28 17:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by elpackage 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Dude a strong sex drive is a good thing, why would you want to stop that? Are you cheating? Can your wife not handle it? Whats the problem???? I wouln't take anything or try to stop it... I'd work on the reason that you want to stop it.
2006-10-28 17:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 3 · 3⤊ 6⤋
well. control man. control urself . after all -- thats what life is about- your control on yourself.
you do not need any medication. but determination to be able to control and adapt to the situation.
is it so hard???????
try it a couple times and u'll know how easy it is to control urself.
2006-10-28 17:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dude, we are in exact the same situation...I will wait for their answers.
2006-10-28 17:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by alandicho 5 · 10⤊ 0⤋
masturbation doesn't help! you need to speak to your wife about it! being honest with her about it should help!
2006-10-28 17:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by Never learnt a thing! 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
You and your wife need to have a frank discussion about this. You may find it advantageous to involve a trusted clergy person or counselor.
2006-10-28 17:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by jejordan 2 · 5⤊ 5⤋
Masturbate more often. . . I'm not sure there is a way to reduce your sex drive.
2006-10-28 17:30:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 9⤋