All my husband does is pay the video game or get on here and look at porn or mess around with the games on here. Therefore, I get on the computer more to try and show him how it feels. He hardly ever spends anytime with me. It seems like all I am is a bedwarmer and someone to have sex with. What should I do? I have even tried seducing him and he pushes me away or tell me later or hang on a sec. He stays up until all hours of the night which makes it hard because I have issues with sleeping without him. When he finally does roll into bed he either wants sex or goes right to sleep. I just don't know what to do anymore.
2006-10-28 17:26:22 · 19 answers · asked by babygurltexas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't. Here's what you do. Tease him. Get him Horny and Leave him horny....then you go to bed. HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA I know I'm evil. Don't give him any until he pays attention to you.
or
Ignore him for a day or two and see what happens, see his reaction. I know he will pay more attention to you because he's going to think your trying to leave him (but your not) thats the trick
†heaven/hell¥
2006-10-28 17:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children? If not don't have any I am not sure that he is actually married to you or if he thinks it doesn't matter if he ignores you for the rest of your life. I think he needs a wake-up call right now or you can expect this treatment for the rest of your marriage. I am not sure what I would do but I would do it sooner than later. Maybe he needs to think you are someplace else where someone is talking to you not ignoring you. If that does not wake him up I would find out if he is taking dope or what? and leave him. I know it sounds drastic but if he is not shocked into believing you will leave him you will be the lonely wife always ignored and hating it.. I have seen it before. and it only gets worse.
2006-10-28 17:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don'tnow your age but from all you said he has little to no respect for woman. I assume you fit in that category. It is not normal for a man to look at porn especially when your around and I can't believe you allow it. It is also not normal to slam, bang, thank you mamm. The more and longer you allow this behavior the more he will do it. It will just grow to a point leaning on mental abuse. If he has no redpect for himself at least have respect for yourself. Marriage is a two sided relationship, not one. Seek help immediately starting for yourself then when told to let him in on the big picture and see if he is willing to accompany you there's hope on the oyher hand if he does not want to go with you for help a light should go off in your head. and tough decissions will have to be made. Just remember you are not his fantasy doll to get his pleasure as he pleases, you are his wife and besides all the good things he should offer you should start with respect. He has apparently lost some feelings for you of he's looking at porn. In no way should you allow that to happen in your own home and put your foot down as to whay he wants, YOU or porn.
2006-10-28 17:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him about it. He might be having a lot of stress at work which is why he's finding these ways to work them out. He also might be addicted to the computer games, which is more serious and needs professional help. What you can do the best is to talk to him, tell him how you feel and tell him that this is not what you expected out of marriage. Tell him that you love him and you miss him...pay more attention to yourself by dressing hotter, taking care of your body and being more sexy...it might work but the best thing you can do is to open the communication channels with him...otherwise marriage counselling is the only way to go.
2006-10-28 17:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When he leaves the house, take the video game system and hide it...take it to a friends house or something...then as for the computer, turn it off, take away all the connective wires so he can't turn it back on...once you have his attention that way, sit down with him and tell him how you feel and look how far you had to go to get his attention on how much this is effecting you and your relationship...hopefully that'll work, if not, couples therapy. Good luck
2006-10-28 17:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jaybird 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him. Ask him what he needs from the relationship that he isn't getting and you tell him what you need that he isn't giving you (affection besides sex, etc.). Communication is the key! Playing games and trying to 'show him how it feels' or with-holding sex as punishment will only create more problems. If all else fails, try counseling to help you guys sort out your issues.
I wish you luck.
2006-10-28 17:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Miss D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was that way...The wife told me the way she felt...and I proved to her I did not need the computer...plus when she goes to work or hits the shower or fixs dinner...thats my computer time..
...and if I was on the computer and she said I'm taking a shower out loud meant she wanteed me...I shut it down fast.....But I never pushed her away...SEX never came in 2nd place to the computer .
2006-10-28 17:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he came home from work he would find his precious computer and video games GONE....MISSING. At which time you could lay down the ground rules of what you need and expect and if he does not heed them he does not get his stuff back.
2006-10-28 17:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have NO idea who he is. THAT is your problem! You don't know to turn him on as much as a video game does.
Think about what that says about you. Or how much ability you have to excite him.
Sounds like all the initiative has to be with him, and that gets tiresome for men. The other answer about not sleeping with him, will only worsen that. It'll make him sleep with the video game and he won't miss a thing.
2006-10-28 17:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
first you need to relize that this is his issue and not yours. There is a reason he pulls away. You need to ask him to go to counseling. You can't live like that forever. Tell him how you feel that you feel used and neglected.
I am sorry you are going though this. I just pray that your marriage gets back on the right path.
Blessings to you
2006-10-28 17:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by rebeccalynn_dj 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋