We've been married for 8 years, and I've grown into a minimalist as he has become more materialistic. He's a good person, but living with him is making me miserable. I've been contemplating divorce for the last year and a half. I'm very confused.
2006-10-28 16:58:06 · 12 answers · asked by Tammy B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Baby let's sell your diamond ring, buy some boots and faded jeans and go away."
I love Waylon Jennings (and Willie and the boys...) and you just made me think of that song "Luckenbach, Texas". I rarely listen to country music, but you need to hear that song. It will lift your spirits, maybe.
You can't be something you're not. Nip it now, or you'll just be miserable, but mind you... you might miss a few things you've been accustomed to. I wish you all the best.
2006-10-28 17:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through good times "&" bad richer or poorer. I am sorry if this is not what you "want" to hear but marriage is not all about your feelings alone. Bailing out should not be an option button you push when things are not comfortable for you. It is the last & lasting,,, desicision when all else has failed. What have you already tried but failed at with helping your relationship with your husband? I feel that maybe this has more to do with his attention paid to his obtained objects over you, then simply he keeps to much stuff. Surely if your willing to die for someone you love you can put up with some stuff in the house. If your willing to leave him,,,forever,,, how much can some counceling hurt. Tell him he is a good person but your not happy,,,
2006-10-28 17:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Turtle1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get a complete picture of the marriage by what you posted. However I believe a marriage is sacred and should be continuously worked on. However if its to the point that you have exhausted all possibilities of working out the problems (such as therapy, counseling etc) then a divorce may be the best thing.
Good luck
2006-10-28 17:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by vanessamustteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get counciling. Sorry :( Materialistic people truly aren't happy somewhere inside, and they're thinking buying things make them a better person, or soothe some pain. They're looking for something else, and feel inferior, but feel that things can help them. Of course, when the newness is gone, they need something else to soothe them. He needs to figure out what's nagging him and learn that it's not where he's at, or who he is, but learning to be at peace with himself. Personal beliefs and values are very important to our well-being.
2006-10-28 17:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are so on target with your feelings- how can you say you are confused? I think you should let him know what his choices are. Sounds like he is making some bad choices and its pushing you away. If he keeps spending and buying and making his life about stuff then you need to move on.
2006-10-28 17:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by jeweledfruit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always say there are three keys to a good marriage. Love, respect and shared life goals. If being with him makes you miserable, then separate yourself from him.
2006-10-28 17:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him why you dont want him to be very materialistic and deliver your message in a nice and soft tone.
2006-10-28 17:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Go For Broke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As they Girl time to hit the Road!!! Get out before you both end up hurting each other!!!
Waho
2006-10-28 17:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy, get out. He's not going to change, and you, or anyone else is not going to either.
2006-10-28 17:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Brendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats the way you feel then maybe you should take it to the next level and address your feelings too him.
2006-10-28 17:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by aint_ez_lovin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋