My wife has a victimization abuse addiction. She has told counsellors, friends, police, and everyone believes her. What can I do to protect myself?
2006-10-28 16:53:33 · 20 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, if you are truly not abusing her, divorce her now and stay away from her.
my dad has put up with the same crap for 32 years. my whole life i watched my mom yell at him and pull knives on him, slap him and kick him. he would eventually walk out and go for a drive or walk. but he would never leave her because he didnt want my sister and i to be left alone with her crazy a.s.s. she constantly called the police and accused him of hitting her and even sexually abusing me! my dad is a good man and would NEVER do such a thing, but he was accused of it! she has sent him to jail for the night a couple of times. 32 years of this, and she is still the same, if not worse.
so if you are serious that she accuses you of things you are not doing, my advice is to get the hell outta there as fast as you can, and dont look back. she is not worth the hell she will put you thru!
2006-10-28 17:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell away from her as fast and as far as you can. If you don't she can have you put in jail as a abusive husband and the system is set up to give her all the support she could ever want while screwing you over. I know, I am going through the same thing right now. My wife attacked me in April , then had me arrested because I put my hand on her shoulder to stop her from hitting me a FOURTH time. If you do not have a good sum of money stashed away for a lawyer, you are SOL because nobody wants to defend a wifebeater, UNLESS YOU HAVE THE MONEY UP FRONT. Even the police acknowledge it is unfair, yet they enforce it to the point of NOT noting damage TO YOU that might be used to defend yourself later. RUN do not walk, and get an injunction against her for your own defense.
2006-10-29 01:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by georgd58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You state that everyone DOES believe her? Police and counselors do not JUST believe someone without evidence! If you have been arrested, restraining orders would be in effect. So unless this is what is happening, I think you need to rephrase your question. If this is what really is going on, than I say, stay as far away from her as possible, the new Domestic Violence Laws are so serious, you may be spending a while in the slammer.
2006-10-29 00:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My second wife was that way. It was alright for her to call me cruel names but if I defended myself with a verbal response she made herself out to be the victim. I went to the cops and explained myself and the situation and was told that this is a very dangerous type of woman/person. I divorced her and I was really careful when I started dating again to not date a liberal woman, there seems to be a connection in some cases. When she starts her rant leave immediately without saying a word...I've found thats all you can do.
2006-10-29 00:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree w/ the 1st person get a lawyer and divorce her and make the police take a lie detector test of her. If she has problems the police may be able to get her records released for her doctor that states that she has a problem. You may also show them this page. :) good luck ...run away from herrrrrrrrrr
2006-10-29 01:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by xratedmami05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Sheeet a man getting abused first time see n this kind of question..who knows ive had abuse all my life and im not a b i t c h or a faker..I dont really know..guess get a divorce and find someone else..
2006-10-29 00:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce. Until then make certain the two of you are never alone together and when someone is with you two that it isn't a friend of hers.
She'll probably end up getting all of your assets by pretending to be the victim.
2006-10-28 23:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WALK AWAY!!!!!!!!they will lock you up in a heart beat..the police do not play when they get a domestic call..if you got time to sit in the county jail watching cartoons all day until the judge figures out who's lying...then stay..leave and count your blessings.
2006-10-29 00:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to seek immediate help.
This happened to my uncle and he was locked up many times.
Honestly, the best way to protect yourself is to find a new wife.
I'm not saying this as a joke. It ruined my uncle's marriage, even though he loved his wife.
She messed up big time.
Good luck.
No matter how many times he proclaimed his innocence, they always sided with his ex-wife.
2006-10-28 23:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her as soon as possible before law enforcement gets involve. Has a man in this society you can be really screwed even if you are as clean as a whistle
2006-10-29 00:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by roydono 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋