I'm in a long distant relationship and it's not by choice. My husband is currently serving time in prison for drug procession.This is his 7th time in prison. We been toghther for 15 years and have 3 kids toghether. He say he will change but every time it's the same thing. My question is, do I stay in this relationship and give it another try? I'm i stupid for staying this long? I already started talking to someone else, but how do i let go of my marriage?
2006-10-28 16:51:05 · 12 answers · asked by jazzy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really need to move on with your life without him. You have given him "seven" times in prision and still he has not changed. I don't think this life style is good for you and especially is not good for you children. I don't want to say your stupid, your just confused. File for divorce while he is in prison this time, so you can move on with your life an be happy. He's just not going to change and you deserve so much better than a life of crime from him. Bless you.
2006-10-28 17:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girrrrrrl!!!! SEVEN times!?!? That is no kind of relationship, much less a marriage. His actions and lack of responsibility are evidence enough that he does not have the best interest of his children or you in mind. For the sake of your kids, move on with your life. File for divorce and consider it as "abandonment". Yes, change is scary and things will be momentarily turbulent. But in the long run, you and your family will be better for it. Stop doubting yourself, you are on the right track. Leave him.
2006-10-28 17:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven times is rather a lot. It seems to be like that he's not going to change but doesn't wanna lose you. I would tell him that you are very serious, that the next time it happens you really are going to divorce him. Thats not good for you or your kids. Maybe you should move on now.
2006-10-28 16:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to move on. You know it deep down. It will be for the best. There are nice men out there that will treat you like you deserve to be treated. What kind of example are you setting for your kids? My advice though..don't leave just because you are seeing someone else. Leave for the right reason: your long-term mental health and happiness.
2006-10-28 16:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't let go of your marriage. Your husband did 7 prison terms ago. I'll admit you are definately a slow learner, but, I think, it's time to move on.
2006-10-28 17:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by dulcrayon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on, for you and your kids' sake. You're not stupid for staying in a relationship with a man you love and have children with, but it's time to think about what's best for you.
2006-10-28 16:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in an prolonged distant dating now. We communicate extensive-unfold. yet to be elementary, i'm shifting closer to my Love next month. i don't be attentive to how long we ought to have made it long distance. that's fairly difficult. I propose which you talk including your companion approximately getting mutually interior the destiny. You dating might stay to tell the story it understanding which you are going to be mutually interior the long-term.
2016-11-26 01:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are a patient person for still giving him chance after chance. Don't tell him you're talking to someone yet. You need to tell him that you're sick of giving him chance after chances. Work on the divorce first before getting hook up with someone.
2006-10-28 19:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if he has not learned by now LET GO.do not waste your life away,you deserve to be happy too.do you want to teach your
kids that it is ok to put up with that kind of life style?if you are asking this question...you are not in love wih him any more,but you still care.god will help you give your love to the right person ,who will treat you right and not leave you and your kids.
2006-10-28 17:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by wndy_soto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so much better then that if you are already talking to this person then try and see how far it might go. let your husband go. tell him its always the same stroy and cant keep going emotionally with it.
Good luck
keep your head up
2006-10-28 16:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by aint_ez_lovin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋