Been w/ my guy for 2yrs & we have a 16mth old baby. He's always been good 2 me b/c I've never been in a relationship where a guy whos actually taking care of me. There is one problem tho, I am never satisfied with him. I am the type where I liked to be told "I love you", go on dates and stuff. We used to until the baby came & all we do is work &I go to school & work. He's 27 & I'm 25. He almost always go out every Sat. night with his guy friends.(clubs) Even back then when I was prego. I'd stay home & wait for him. I hate that we dont go on dates, see a movie, or snuggle up. I start to ignore him & don't want him to touch or kiss me. I"m at the point I dont want to have sex with him. I feel & think that he's cheating on me & when I ask him today " How come you never invite me out with your friends or go to their party?" He says " why are you starting an argument?" I just wanted to be included w/ him. I used to be in a abused relationship. I know I'm insecured. What do U think?
2006-10-28 16:40:20 · 9 answers · asked by khmer_gurl_336 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He always watches wrestling,football,& play video games those NFLs. Anyways, I guess I'm at fault to cuz all he ask from me is to help him clean up the house. I admit I hate cleaning and when he comes home to a sometime dirty house it upsets him. He said if he has a clean house thats all it really takes him to be happy. $h!t, I dont know. I'm very stubborn and can hold a grudge for a long time. He also told me that Sat is the only time he can take a break from work and family. Everytime I come home, he's always home everyday. Its' just that one day out of the weekend I want it to be family time or just us. Am I too selfish? I just need some advice.
2006-10-28 16:44:44 · update #1
i think he is ignoring you It is possable he is messing around when he is out. as for me if you are in a relationship you need too spent time with your girl and child
2006-10-28 16:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by me too 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
humm, I can understand why you feel the way you do. YOu also work hard and need some quality time with your man. Talk to him honestly with out putting blame or arguing. tell him exactly how the current situation is making you feel and you would like to spend soem quality time with him. He can help you clean the house adn he can invite you once in a while to hang out with him and his friends. Good luck and no you are not beign stuborn or insecure.
2006-10-29 00:12:55 · answer #2 · answered by vanessamustteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when a guy has a girlfriend who is never satisfied with him, insecure, ignores him, doesn't want him to touch or kiss her and doesn't want to have sex with him, you can expect some problems.
Rather than saying "How come you never invite me out with your friends or go to their party?"
why not tell him you're going to plan a night together and get a babysitter. Then go on a date, see a movie and snuggle.
Stop nagging and start being pro-active.
2006-10-28 23:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think what you are feeling is perfectly normal. i am also in a similar relationship. and my BF says the same thing. i have to talk to him while he is slightly distracted, on the computer, or watching tv. i know it sounds bad, but those are the only times i can get through to him. so try that, and if that dosnt work try another way like instead of saying 'how come you never bring me out with you' let him know you need him, and let himknow you also appritiate the small things, like when he tells you he loves you. try to get sentimental on him.
2006-10-28 23:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u have a perfect reason to be upset and possibly worried. he is isolating you and making you feel like you are the one with the problm. dont take his crap. tell him that he needs to start respecting you and treating you like he loves you or things are going to get bad. tell him exactly what you want and DONT back down. you dont have to show anger, just tell it from the heart. try not to get too emotional or he may try and turn it around on you. be yourself. practive in front of the mirror. tell him if something doesnt change bad things will start to happen and you are a good catch to many others out there. he is taking you for granted. i know its hard for you to get out with baby. but if you have friends with kids try to go and watch movies at their houses on the weekends. start hanging out with real familiy types and you will start to see how ou deserve to be treated. good luck! please dont stick around for too long if this keeps going on. give him a time frame, but tell him the changes need to start immediatly or you will be able to see yourself falling n love with someone who really will treat you rght. that should open his eyes...if not he is not for you. get yourself situated and hav e abackup plan dont be afraid to leave if he treats you bad but be smart and get prepared ahead of time. good luck!
2006-10-28 23:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your friends on sat. night, get a babysitter, Go have fun. You might meet someone new. Just like him. That is what he is doing looking for someone else.
2006-10-28 23:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by dontknow86 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you made a baby and both of you should take care of it. its unfair that he gets to go out and have a good time and you dont. if you ever make threats to leave him you need to carry through with them and stand by them so be careful. partners do things together, yeah ok, its good to have sometime alone but it sounds like you havent had couple time either. re-evaluate your situation, talk to him and clearly tell him how you feel with no contradictions, no "you" language just "i" language.eg. "i" dont feel we get to do anything together anymore. "i" would like to make a special time for us to be together etc. notice how i used "us" and "we". stay calm and in controll of your mood and thoughts.
2006-10-28 23:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out by your freinds, too !! show him if he didn't respect you and his relationship with you, then same would happen to him, by you .
2006-10-28 23:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by farshicago 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are you not married.....maybe that is the problem
2006-10-28 23:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋