I slept with this guy about 4 weeks ago who, ever since has been quite cold towards me. When we're alone, he's very nice and flirty but when we're with friends he flirts with any other girl around, which really bugs me!! I do have feelings for him even though he hasn't treated me all that well.. the thing is, now i think i may be pregnant.. my period is over 2 weeks late, i've been feeling really run-down and tired lately and for the past few days i've been getting sick quite regularly. I'm terrified i may be pregnant, and have been putting off doing a pregnancy test just on case it comes out positive. I definately don't believe in abortion and if i were pregnant would probably decide to keep the baby.. i just need to know...if u were in my position, what would u do??
2006-10-28 16:21:55 · 17 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
1. Get a pregnancy test. Start with a home pregnancy test. If it comes back negative but your period is more than two weeks late, go to a doctor for a blood test.
2. Think about whether you would keep the baby for yourself or put it up for adoption. Think about open adoption or "closed" adoption. If you're planning on keeping the baby yourself, are you ready to raise it ON YOUR OWN? Because if you're expecting the support of the father (who has to give you money but isn't required to give you time or effort) or your own family, you'd better tell them ASAP so they can start making decisions for themselves.
3. Tell someone who will support you. Then, tell the father IN PERSON.
4. If the test comes back negative and your period returns, go to your doctor and get a prescription for the birth control pill. Buy some condoms too. Then, next time you want to sleep with a jerk (been there, done that) you won't have to worry about getting pregnant.
5. In three months, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER OR NOT YOU ARE PREGNANT, go to the doctor and get a full STD test.
2006-10-28 17:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jetgirly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are surley pregnant and if you dont beleive in abortion then you are going to have the baby. I dont see how i can give you advice on that. But in terms of the guy, i would tell him about the baby, after all he has a right to know. But i would not get too involved with him. It is likely that he will jump in to affection as soon as you told him, and you will feel good about that. But keep a clear head, down the track those harmless flirtings with others will manefest into a serious problem. I have seen many ill-matched people forced together from pregnancys.
The first thing you need to do is get a pregnancy test, or see a doctor. Because if you arent pregnant and your symptoms persisit then you are sick. But it is most likely you are pregnant.
Make sure if you have family include them and friends, they can make pregnancy and bringing up kids a whole lot easier.
Goodbye and Good Luck
2006-10-28 16:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by cokie_999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that every woman sometime in her life has experienced this with a guy. I would not let this bother me. When you slept with him he may not know how to act, he is thinking the same thing you are: If I act to excited she will know how I really feel, or he scared because he doesn't know how he feels. I would not tell him I thought I was pregnant I would first take a test and then confirm from a Doc. Then I would go to him with the facts facts stand up with a man better than faith. Abort no way I have raised two children on my own and went to college its hard but there is a way. So don't worry until you have the results. As for your man give him about oh say another week or so and if he loves you he should start acting like his old self again. God Bless.
2006-10-28 16:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by 33kasper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u need to take a pregnancy test. If you are pregnant you and this guy need to sit down and talk about your relationship. If you guys decide not to stay together make this man pay child support, to help you raise your child. I am telling you from experience. Some men have a tendency to walk off and leave you when you need them the most. Be prepared for anything sweety. I wish you the best.
2006-10-28 16:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't believe in abortion, you will have the baby anyway. Nothing you can do. But if you are asking about your relationship with your boyfriend and the baby, you can either 1. try to work things out with him by asking him and telling him about the stuff you don't like him doing, 2. tell him, and observe how he acts from then on, or 3. if worse comes to worse, dump him. Hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-10-28 16:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by George 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a test!! So i know how to take care of the baby growing in me!! you need medical attention when youre pregnant. I'd sit him down and tell him he's going to be a daddy. Also if you are not pregnant.. get as far away from as you can.. that whole 'lets be secret lovers is BULL. The only thing he will be good for is child support.
2006-10-28 16:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the test. It gets things over with. If it is positive, you can get on to thinking what's next for you to do and how to tackle things. Don't go through the agony of waiting and speculating. If it is negative (which i hope so much it is), you will be so relieved. Your period can delay due to stress, worry, medication taken in the past couple of weeks. If it turns out negative, drop the guy, please! You sound like a nice girl. Take care!
2006-10-28 16:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay what u need to do is nbr 1 get a pregnancy test and find out.. if you are you need to put that boy in check and let him no.. girl you not supposed to let boys do u like that.. your pusea is a reward.. this aint no hit and run, and good dont get an abortion. they are wrong, and girl if i was in your shoes i problatly would have been actin like a dang fool right now.. lol, but nah girl do that and write me so i can know whats up... im prego so u can ask me anything that u need to know im here for you... pray... god will be with u all the way!!!
2006-10-28 16:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by [38 wks] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was a teenager I was around plenty of guys that were so sweet when it was just us and a dick around everyone else, you need to tell the guy u think you are pregnant and do a pregnancy test and if you are he probably will deny it most teenagers do they dont want the burrden of a baby but maybe everything will work out for the best first you need to take that test, another way to know if you look around your nipples and they are turning a darkk brown color or a reddish brown color you are
2006-10-28 16:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by church_gore 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take the test....before you worry yourself to death, then you will know what your options are....as for myself I don't believe in abortion either, for myself,....so if it were me I would discuss it with the man once I knew I was pregnant for sure and have the baby....I am raising my son on my own...the father is not in the picture by his choice not mine...and I'll tell you some days are really rough....but that little smile you get makes things all worth while....I don't know how I lived without my son....so raising a baby on your own can be done....but it is your choice to make.....I am glad I made the choice to have my son...
2006-10-29 00:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋