We have known each other only for a few days, but I have made up my mind to ask her to marry me. Here's the plan: I have a house under construction and it's nearing completion. I haven't told her anything about the house. I am thinking of taking her to the house, have her open the front door, show her around, ask her if I can hold her hand and propose.
Ques:
1. It will be around the middle of December that I'll be taking her to the place. Is 2 months of knowing each other a little too early?
2. I went through a lot of difficulties during the process of house construction... loan approval, land acquisition, etc, and I didnt borrow a single penny from my Dad or my friends. I cut down on my personal expenses, lived on a strict budget, and it has finally paid off. I wish to share this with her when I am showing her around the house because I want her to know. Will it sound like I am bragging or is it alright?
3. Should I keep the ring box closed or open when giving it to her
2006-10-28 15:57:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first 2 times I asked this question, I got answers with respect to western lifestyles and practices. I am from Chennai, India, a very conservative society. Dating/Hanging out much is ruled out. I dont know how many of you are familiar with the concept of arranged marriages in India. I know it sucks, but thats the way it is. Divorces in India happen but are not common, maybe about 2-3% tops. You can google it if you dont believe me. Main reason is fear of society's remarks and limited scope of finding another life partner. Perhaps, its just the Indian way of learning to live with whatever you have and get.
2006-10-28 15:57:49 · update #1
Goodness you have two different ways of looking at things...one soooo well thought out and planned and allll that...your house....Then, there's a gal youve known for two days and youre ready to propose? Either you feel youve got a bad personality and you have to 'sell' yourself through your house or youre very eager to marry and dont care what stranger comes your way.
Really, dear, you need to step back and find out about her and her friends and family and even if you like her that much to marry her.
Fine fine, go ahead and make promises and then find out later that you dont like her all that much, then she starts having a dream and you end up breaking her heart. Take some more time to think it all out. Dont be in such a hurry.
Good luck. I hope she turns out to be the one for you.
2006-10-28 16:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the woman also Indian? 2 months is a little early for a proposal, but only you two know how serious you are about eachother. Do not tell her all the crap you went through to get the house. Be proud of your achievement, but keep it to your self. The only thing I think you should mention, is that it's paid off. That there in itself would be "Wow" enough. Keep the ring box closed, till after you're done asking her if the diamond is small. If it's big, open it right away. lol, I don't think it matters either way on that one.
2006-10-28 16:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a different culture in India therefore, asking to marry her for only 2 months of knowing her is a bit early but if you have the same belief especially in religion and culture, it's fine. You've worked hard for it and few good men would do things like this. I would keep the ring box closed. When she open it, then you pop the question. And tell her how you would like to share your life with her in this house you built and have a family..
2006-10-28 16:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. if you feel that you really love this girl and do not want to be forced into another marriage with someone else, then 2 months is not too short a time. just make sure she likes you too.
2. you can say that you paid for the house yourself, but don't go into detail or it will sound like bragging.
3. wait until she is looking at the box , then open it for her. it is much more dramatic!
i hope this helps you out!!
:)smile and have fun!!
2006-10-28 16:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by gurlcatz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is from the same society & have the same beliefs... yeah go ahead and propose marriage. You can explain the circustances of difficulties during the process of the house construction at a later time. As for the ring... Give it to her with the box "OPEN". Good Luck in life!!!
2006-10-28 16:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds beautiful very romantic and hand her the ring box closed and then you can watch her face as she opens it. No it won't sound like your bragging at all it will sound just what you are a great guy! She should be just as happy as you are now. Don't let anyone spoil your moment! Too bad we can't pick a best question on here cause i would pick yours for sure.
2006-10-28 16:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by sammy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. If your families know each other (and her) and approve, then it should be fine. Your parents should know of her and of her background. If not, they need to find out.
2. You should mention that your house is completely yours, when you tell her how you will be a strong, trustworthy provider.
3. Open the ring box
2006-10-28 16:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby & I only knew each other for a few weeks before we were ready to marry... been married 6 years & still going strong.
I think it's alright & great that you want to share your accomplishments with her.. it's something to be very proud of.
Keep the ring box closed when you give it to her & watch the expression on her face as she opens it... because it can be a very special, memorable moment.
2006-10-28 16:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think go for it ! You done well geting this house done and your not married yet ! Many people don't get it done when they are married . yes there is a little bragging in voled here , but why not ?
giver her the ringbox if you are sure about her!!
I got married after 4 months of knowing my husband and worked out well !
Congratulations on your love ,your house and life I wish we could have more of you sensible guys !
Good luck!!
P.S. don't forget the flowers!
2006-10-28 16:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is so sweet! It sounds like your pretty sure if you knew within a few days, and i think that two months would be good, because thats when you will find out the most about here, i say go for it
2006-10-28 16:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋