I've been seeing this guy for four mths. now. we are in our early thirties so we've had a decent, mature relationship. I just broke up with him because honestly I got jealous. He and his ex-girlfriend have a two yr. old daughter together. They go to the fair together and all sorts of stuff. I never said anything b/c I didn't want him to think that I wasn't understanding of his daughter. But, lately his ex calls him about everything and he runs to her, breaking plans with me, and so forth. I feel like I'm an outsider. When I broke up, I just told him that he was too busy for me and I played it off really cool. He tried twice that same day to get back together but I was firm. Now, I feel I made a mistake because I miss him so much. He hasn't called back and I'm wondering if he will???
2006-10-28 15:57:25 · 7 answers · asked by precious girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's been one day since we talked.
2006-10-28 16:01:09 · update #1
You probably did the right thing to hold of for awhile. let him figure out who he wants to be with for a little bit more time. While he is doing that play the field and you may find the right "right" one.
Good luck
2006-10-28 16:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres alot of unresolved stuff here, and sure it hurts you when he chooses them over you. we can't chage others, we can only change how we will react to the advirsities that come up in our lives. it sounds as if he has feeling's for the mother of the child, and unfortunatly children always come first before anyone else. and i quite agree with you and think you did right in this. what you choose to accept in the beggining of a relationship will continue, better to confront the issues now than wait until you married the man.
2006-10-28 16:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta make up your mind and be strong... it is never too late to talk and to express what you were feeling, you may eat a nice healthy serving of crow but if he means alot to you tell him, however set some ground rules and boundaries for your relationship. If he can't balance the two and make commmitments I would say see-ya. Just don't be codependant!!!! you can do it, be strong...
2006-10-28 16:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by TriDad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey GF wake up, if he is not calling back,he does not want to talk to you. I have recently come out of soemthing somewhat similar to yours and I have been knocking my head against a wall waiting for something that is never going to come back. It['s hard and it hurts. He has moved on, nad now must you. It's not easy....but don't call him.
2006-10-28 17:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by desertskieswoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will probably try to find out what happened, but it sounds like you made the right decision. This ex of his seems determined to spend lots of time with him. Good for you for seeing that and getting out of there!!
2006-10-28 16:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to the daughter , you should be unstanding and that is the only time you should have to step back. he should let go of the ex and let her see what it is to be an ex now. let him come to you and if he don't , well guess you could blame the ex for your break-up.
2006-10-28 16:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of two things could be happening:
1) he still has deep feelings for her, besides with his daughter
2) she's using the daughter as a weapon to control him (refusing visitation).
be straight forward and ask him which it is and what is he going to do about it.
2006-10-28 16:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by oldguy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋