Am I right to think bad of him for this? All he says is he "doesn't want to get involved" yet won't give a straight answer as to why. The case is to get access to my 2 boys who've always regarded him as an uncle & he's seen them since my ex started refusing me access when she moved her new guy into their home. I respect his wish not to testify for either side, but why can't he be honest & upfront about the reason why?
2006-10-28 15:46:47 · 18 answers · asked by Mark K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is NOT the "new guy" but I have a gut feeling that something has went on between them. Not that it matters. This ISN'T a divorce case... me seeing my kids is at stake, and with him being "uncle" I would've thought he might feel some kinda loyalty to my side of things. Am I wrong to think that?
2006-10-28 16:25:38 · update #1
Two thoughts - either he wants to be friends with you both and really does not want to get involved, or he has had sex with you ex wife and does not want it coming out in court.
2006-10-28 16:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by ricmau35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he's has developed good relationships with the both of you, and in the end he doesn't want to be known as the one who split you guys up either. But I believe you should try to ask him again about it. And if he refuses to give you a straight forward answer, then you by all means should just respect that.
2006-10-28 15:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by ladymember 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not want to as he might think if he sticks up for you that your ex might do bad things to him. NO....he was never apart of the relationship...and its the manly thing to do.....marriage is a private affair. Is Hs The New Guy? If Not Proberly The One Before The New One, Certainly In There Somwhere I Mean Com'On Truly Think About It.
2006-10-28 15:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tennis_Ace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you mate is right to get involved as he is friends with you both from the sounds of it, and if he did testify then one of you would be upset. It's likely that your ex would turn against him and i think he is trying to avoid an unplesant situations that could arise.
I think he is finding it hard to be upfront about why, as he does not want to upset you by telling you he is friends with your ex
2006-10-28 16:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by grizzlybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't want to get involved because he feels part of both yours and your ex wives life and he doesn't want to hurt either of you. If this is the reason then it might be a bit hard to explain it to you.
2006-10-29 01:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK
From what you say he's also a good friend to your ex.
If I was in that situation I wouldn't want to get involved on one side or the other either
2006-10-28 15:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
without knowing the true situation, and only using what you have just asked, i would say he is a tad more on her side of the divorce but doesnt want to take sides because he doesnt want to let you know how he really feels.
2006-10-28 15:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by fn_49@hotmail.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it make a difference if he gives you a reason, he is still not testifying.. just let it go.. It is better that he is not testifying at all, then it would be if he was testifying for her.
2006-10-28 15:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he did may be he is friends with both you and ur ex why don't men realize that there friends are also the wife's friends,he don't want to get involved because he likes you both
2006-10-28 15:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably does not want to jepardize the friendship with the both of you . because you two divorce does not mean he has to give up friendship to the both of you. And it's a privete matter of the divorce
2006-10-28 15:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋