We have been hanging out for more than a year now and we do a lot of things together.. a lot. People would think that he's my boyfriend. I am sure he's my best friend and I dont want to think that I am special to him. We've never talked about what we really feel for each other or why we do things for each other. One time he told me he is not ready for a relationship, but his actions are so confusing...I dont know..I must be making a big deal out of it.
2006-10-28 15:43:45 · 19 answers · asked by hapi2bm3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You probably shouldn't consider him your boyfriend just yet
He can be considered a best friends or a close friend but as you said, he did tell that he is not ready for a relationship
Don't attribute any logic to his actions, I'm sure he is just as confused as you are
I would advise talking to him about the way you feel for each other
just straight up asking him out or asking him if he like you would not be a good idea
your both confused and the best direction to take would be to work towards a long and happy relationship
if you instantly become boyfriend and girlfriend, then you can break up just as fast
JUST RELAX AND ENJOY YOUR FRIENDSHIP
2006-10-28 16:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by pigsonthewing6 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please listen'a me...
I have been courting this girl for almost four months now. That was after being close friends for quite some time back then. People would think we're already going steady everytime we go out because we hold hands, we talk of a lotta sweet nothings (which, honestly mean a lot to us two) to each other, and I hug her tight even in front of my friends (who don't mind it because they think we're already dating!) This is so because she told me that she wants to live single life to its fullest first, and fix some mess she got put into before committing to me. I understand what she's trying to point out an I said I am going to wait until the time she's completely ready for a commitment. And as days passed, everything changed little by little (but for the better). We got to know each other a whole lot deeper which drew us closer at the same time. People still mistake us for an officially-dating couple but we don't mind since we know to ourselves that it's the lower level around.
Think about it, girl. Just base on my experience and you will easily figure it out since your guy and I almost share the same actions, beliefs, and conditions. Talk to him about it. And if you find what you suspected to be true, then that's it! But don't make the first move. Let him do it.
I hope I answered your query, and I also hope that you will benefit from this one. Have a nice day, good luck, and Rock on! Ciao!
2006-10-28 22:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Grifter Heavenspike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he's a friend who happens to be a boy.If he has stated that he isn't ready for a relationship, believe him.Think about it , a guy that's ready for a commitment is clear most of the time, be it a look, a touch or with actions. Just consider him a friend you spend time with. I think you should give him space and see if he misses you when you aren't there. Then ask him to tell you how he feels about you. Absence does make the heart grow fonder..
2006-10-28 22:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in your situation once. I finally realized I shouldn't be with my current boyfriend because he was "good enough" and gave it a shot with the friend. I ended up marrying the friend. Follow your heart. Maybe your friend isn't ready for a relationship because he's waiting for you. You'll never know til you ask. Good luck.
2006-10-28 22:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by tossingcoconuts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you first cant jump into conclusion that youre in a relationship. your in some type of pending relationship. confusingly a close friendship, or a friendship leading to a relationship which hasnt clarified. has anything happened yet? like kissing. you both have to tell how you feel or tell him how you feel. a year is way too long. anyway, you gotta clarify things first, ask him how he feels of you. because you both may like each other but one of you might have to break that ice. that way youre officially together.
2006-10-28 22:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by funky_homosapien 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not making a big deal. you obviously have feeling for the guy. so tell him. it'll kae things wierd, but it is best to be straight up wiht him. he might feel the same way you do. or the exact opposite. you'll never know till you try. i know its scary, but go for it.
2006-10-28 22:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by demosthenes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
really I don't think that a guy who hangs out with a gilr like that constantly doesn't have feelings for her, therefore he likes you, if you like him then make a move..maybe when he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship yet is beacuse he didn't want you to know he likes you
2006-10-28 22:47:26 · answer #7 · answered by All Of the Above 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i woild say you shoouldnt ive had the same problem i have some experiance exept little diffrent becouse we kissed today so i know its a relationship but you shouldnt and if you do not believe me you should sit down with him and actually talk becouse if you do think he is and he gets freaked that could be bad
2006-10-28 22:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by kasuma_101 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U really should talk 2 him about it if its killin you. afterall, its about u and him, no one could understand better about him except you!
my best shot: u are someone special for him, but not the 'one' he's really looking for. he's holding on for you, but when someone better comes along, he might leave u... but again, thats what i think.. u know him best
good luck!
2006-10-28 22:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by tiiista 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask again. His answer might be different this time 'round. I know he wants you.
2006-10-28 22:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Question 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋