I'm divorced and my ex and i have 3kids together and I still think about him although I divorced him.Sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing sometimes I feel I did the right thing because he told me he didnt want me anymore but than I think he said this because he was angry.
2006-10-28 15:11:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes it is,you spent a big part of your life together,you had three children together,in time it will decrease and you will be able to move on
2006-10-28 15:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
`This is normal, what you are going through. I did the same thing when I divorced and for a little more than a year. Did I do the right thing, Maybe I should try to get back together. Then my oldest daughter would remind me of all the crap that my ex put me through and then I would return to reality. Now it has been over 5 yrs and I have been dating and have actuallly met that one person that I know is the right one. Of course you are going to think about him, after all you have had 3 children together and I am sure that you had some really great times. Besides, angry or not, to tell someone that you don't want them anymore is really callous and malicious. You have to put your emotions in check and get along with your life. Good Luck..
2006-10-28 22:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by Al s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him having second thoughts is another subject.
You are thinking of him. That's normal. The was a big part of your life just as your parents are/were. Your kids are a constant reminder of him. It's NATURAL. But now you have a new life. Find new interests or old interests that you gave up. Start thinking of him as "The father of your CHILDREN", and not your ex HUSBAND's kids. He will be around because of the kids, but you have a new life to find.
As for your husband saying to get out because of being angry... If after a seperation and process of divorce and being divorced for 7 months... I'd say that it has a ZERO probability of wanting you back, unless he got donkey kicked in the head to realize what he lost.
Best of luck!
2006-10-28 22:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you acted in haste, or for spitefulness, you apparantly now regret it. Not knowing the full situation, perhaps the first thing you need to consider is what you really want at this point. If it involves him. Then maybe the next step is to see how he feels.
Afterwhich a decision is in order, and a strong desire to live by it, whatever the decision may be.
I'm sure you've heard the saying....$hit or get off the pot!
2006-10-28 22:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your feelings are very normal. It usually takes a year or two to let go of the feelings we have left from a broken relationship, married or not. The only thing that will help will be time. Be patient, take care of yourself and your kids. Be kind to yourself, and know that there will be a day when you can honestly tell yourself that these feelings are behind you.
I know, I have been there....
2006-10-28 22:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were together long enough to have three kids, then you surely would be thinking about him. I was single with three young kids and how can you NOT think about him with all the stress of parenting three kids by yourself? My feelings would shift daily several times from how much I hated him to how much I missed him and our life together. Give yourself some time and be good to yourself. Focus on your kids - it will help you be strong and you give yourself some time. Best of luck, what you are going thru is not easy by any means!
2006-10-28 22:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months & u r still thinking thinking,well this is normall as time passes by things will chang. he told u that he dosent want u anymore, wheather he hv said in anger or not, he should not be saying anything like that. what u did was right and if u did not things may be worst...... all the best to u.
2006-10-28 22:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by harry d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't doubt yourself. You did what you felt was right at the time, and most likely, you were right. He's bitter and will say things to hurt you because you hurt him, that's normal. Move on and be confident in your decision! You know whats best for you, don't question yourself! He's hurt, let it go.
2006-10-28 22:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart he is playing while you are taking care of his children. Wish you were closer, I would bring you into our group. We ( as mother's without appropriate help). Help each other.By the way , what state do you live in currently? We have been known to make a "road trip"?"
2006-10-28 22:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal, especially since you have three kids together.
i would not regret the choice, though. when\ we look back into the past it is easy to remember all the good times and why we miss someone, but we often forget about the reality of why it didn't work.
2006-10-28 22:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by Tom O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋