my childs father asked me to an event.I agreed to go.Well he has treated me like [ure sh*t while pregnant.We agreed 2 work on us and he apologized for the treatment.He barely take care of his resp.So I made the choice to move to another state to better myself & my children(he said we would be a family but now has all of a sudden he's not ready)so since I dont have to wait for him I want to take the help I have.He is pissed about the choice for me to move and starts being mean.So our child has to go get shots and he arrives.(its raining outside)He was supposed to take our child & spend time with her.So he says to me "my mom said it wouldnt be a good idea for me to take her today b/c she's gonna be running a temp.So I said fine.So He brings up the choice to move and starts insulting me & telling me Im running away from resposibilty! So I went OFF! I told him to go to HELL b/c he promised a family he's not ready for & I have to pick up his slack! & I will do it the best way know..........
2006-10-28 15:09:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so if the best way I know how is to move and better my self then so be it.So he states that he was going to put me out of his car.So I told him I dont need you .You dont do sh*t as it is and I'll show you I dont need you.So once we arrived @ the doctor I made a phone call and had a friend come take us home.I then told him you dont have to take us home and he gets mad and leaves the doctor and hasnt called since.I need him outta my circle.So thats another reason I chose to move.He was mad that I found another way home.Why????what do I do from here.I decided not to except any phone calls until he can talk to me with respect and like an adult.When he realizes that respect and being her mother goes hand in hand then I will talk.
2006-10-28 15:13:42 · update #1
I would say good for you, yes you did the right thing. You can do bad all by yourself. Get your self together mentally, set some goals and go for it. If he is not going to accept his responsibility, why would you want to keep dealing with him and his promises, of doing the right thing only to be disappointed. The argument that his daughter was going to have a fever; so his mom thought is was best he did not have her. Hello-this is his daughter, he should be able to care for her in whatever condition she is in. You need to move forward; if his attitude is that you are running away from your responsibilities, what does he call what he is doing. And staying with him and he is acting the way he is, this is not a good environment for your daughter to grow up in. He needs to grow up and man up, he is now a father. If he chooses not to do so, do not allow him to hold you back. You keeping him around and in your life is keeping the door closed to someone who may be more responsible, you now have a baby and he needs to realize it is not about him anymore. You cannot keep giving someone chances and nothing is changing, that is a waste of precious time and energy. he needs to grow up. I say good, good luck and God bless
2006-10-28 15:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definatly did the right thing! He commited to a responsibility and therefore he should stick to it no matter what. A child isn't a pet, or a possession, it is a human being who should be cared for by loving parents, not parents who arn't sure what they should do. You sound like a good mother, so either leave him, or make him be a good father.
2006-10-28 15:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl he sounds like a prick that will eventually become abusive towards you and the kids getting out now and cutting ties may be the best plan of action heres hoping you have family to turn too. God Bless and may everything work out for you the kids seriously it sounds like he just want's you to do it all while he sits back and relaxes that crap.
2006-10-28 15:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And YOU chose to MAKE a family with him. You had better seek legal counsel if you plan on taking your child out of state without the father. He may be able to have you charged with kidnapping if you do.
2006-10-28 15:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A man knows what he wants, without you always having to argue at him about it. If he could get you pregnant and not marry you, take the hint. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. I know from experience that it hurts to accept, but do it for your kids. He is just stalling. You do you!
2006-10-28 15:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you do that?! lol It's really good, I'm asking the same questions Jill is:) why would this man cheat on such an amazing woman?
2016-05-22 04:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the rest of your lonely complaining life
2006-10-28 15:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hes jus buggin coz he thought dat u couldnt make it without him.hes jus playin wit yo head girl u dnt need his sorry a**
2006-10-28 15:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by ignob 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all if he was in love with you he would do what it takes to be with you and specially with his daughter
2006-10-28 15:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by dartsrez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋