ok so we meet like a year ago. i was an exchanged student to her school, and all the people there were well preps and posers! so i met her. we get along great and she is like the coolest person i've ever meet. well i am what the world like to classify as punk, i wear alot of black, listen to rock music (which is stupid cuz i dont like labels, so i am myself) and she was a girly girl, preppy, cheerleader, pop sinsation princess. so once i started hanging with me she slowly started to change into a rocker chic, until she met her boyfriend named jay. that's when she turned emo (yes sucidal). well her mom is completely convinced that i am the cause of her change from prep to emo! the other day i asked her to go with me to somewhere and she didnt come. it turned out that she ditched me to hang with her boyfriend jay. well that night her mom called my mom and she said that she didnt want me to go around her daughter ever again. she said that i was a bad influence. what should i do?
2006-10-28 15:04:22 · 10 answers · asked by SaDiE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my frind name is sarah by the way. well her mom blaims me for her going all dark and emo. which it is not it is all jay's doing. she doesnt know about jay. i dont want to tell her about him cause i dont want sarah to get into trouble. i dont know what to do. should i try to get our friendship working again or just give up? yesterday she i saw sarah at the mall and i went to talk to her. well later on that night her mom called and told me if i dont stay away that she was gonna get a restraining order put against me (sarah dad's a cop). i really dont wanna lose our friendship because she is the only true friend that i have. well the only friend i have
2006-10-28 15:10:24 · update #1
Like it or not. You have to leave her alone. The fact is "when things change, then things change" And things have changed. The sooner you can accept that, regardless of if you like it or not, the better off you will be. It may be painful that the friendship has changed, perhaps even ended. Nevertheless, you have to understand that people are going to do what they think is best for them. And if you try to prevent them from doing what they think is best for them, then you become a part of the problem rather than part of the solution.
I understand it is her mother who is taking the lead in determining what is best for her child and you may believe the child may have another option. Nevertheless, that is what good parents do. They act upon what they think is best for their child.
Also you need to know that "nothing draws two people closer together than a common enemy" Hence you do not want to talk bad about her mother. It will have the opposite effect and actually turn your friend against you if you make verbal attacks towards her mother.
I'm sorry. I know this sucks. Good luck. Hope you found something in these words that will help you in this situation.
2006-10-28 15:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by quarterton2001 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, if your best friend is suicidal you have to talk to her mother. Tell her that you know that she is concerned about her and that you are too. You have some information that she needs to know to help her in a serious situation.
If that type of conversation is not possible because of her fear of you, then have your mother tell her mother. They will both respect you for doing the right thing.
Another way is to talk to a counselor at school.
You just cannot ignore this.
Now I read your second part and I say Wow.
Your dear friend IS in trouble. If this guy is bringing her down that much, you have got to know that something is wrong. He is a piece of the picture that needs to be brought to light. Not to get her in trouble for sneaking, but to get her out of trouble of a destructive relationship.
A benefit will be that your friend and her mother will see how much you really do care about her welfare and what a good friend you are to get her help.
2006-10-28 15:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if your friendship is worth causing problems for your friend & her mom. If you truly care about your friend you should back off for a while, of course talk to her at school, but just stay out of sight as far as her mom is concerned. Let things cool down & let her mom see that she has changed & it's not because of you.
2006-10-28 15:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
call her mom and tell her all of this. i had a disagreement with one of my friends mother's in high school too. the woman was like 40 and bad mouthing me. so i sat down with her and we hashed it out. her mom might not even know that she has this boyfriend and if she really is suicidal she needs to know.
2006-10-28 15:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. However, you did influence her daughter to change and then she met a boy who is really no good. That whole goth look is bad news. It ruins kids' live.
2006-10-28 15:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a new friend. You deserve better.
2006-10-28 15:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
punch the sh!t out of your friends mom
2006-10-28 15:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave your friend alone.
2006-10-28 15:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the mom.............The truth will come out...............
2006-10-28 15:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by ginny3282 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋