he says i need to just let it happen naturally?
2006-10-28 15:00:00 · 14 answers · asked by trailsend 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all it's not you it's him. He's stuck in a rut and he's depending on you to get him out of it . Only he's not letting you. My personal opinion(and out of experience with my own man) Ignore him sexually. Instead of coming on to him do the opposite for a while. When he wants affection again and he will play hard to get a little bit (don't over do it) eventually he'll realize that your might not be interested anymore and he'll initiate something. However, if a month has past and nothing... he's probably getting it from somewhere else.As hard as that is to take it;s usually the reality. Your only other option after one month is sexual therapy for couples. Tell him it's necessary at this point since he won't talk to you about it. If he refuses counseling I'm sorry but it's time to move on . You deserve a happy married life not one that is other wise happy but unsatisfying. You deserve it all.
If it doesn't work out with hubby don't despair there is someone out there for everyone. Just please for your sake try out my theory then you can see for yourself where this marriage is going.
2006-10-28 15:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should be natural. What he said to you wasn't right though, that would be enough to make me not want to have sex with him again. Try putting small dirty letters in the pants he is wearing to work so he can find it later and it will get him thinking about the sex all day, by the time he gets home he should be all over you, that's if he is a normal man. Foreplay is another thing, there should be plenty of it and never ever ask if he wants to have sex, that's a turn off at least my husband says it is. Try new things as well, sex shouldn't be the same each time. New places in your house, new positions, etc but don't let the bedroom be the only place it happens.
2006-10-28 22:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is full of it. Guys want sex all the time. Just wear a rain coat with nothing on and say you need him now.
Call him and say how you are thinking about him and you want him. If that does nothing to him, He has the problem not you.
2006-10-28 22:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Cy Gold 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he has a problem and is blaming it on you...nice guy you've got there...He should be looking for an answer to HIS problem, not blaming it on you. It's been my experience with men, there isn't a one, can't be turned on within minutes. Unless they have some sort of problem, which obviously he does. Research is the answer.
2006-10-28 22:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to sit down and discuss the things you like sexually.
2006-10-28 22:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes that is the case but it wont hurt for him to let you know what he want of you. You should just do what comes to your mind and see how he respond es to it
2006-10-28 22:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he says to let it happen naturally that just means when he's in the mood! tell you what girl, use a vibrator in front of him and see what happens...good luck!
2006-10-28 22:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Natural is good but its unnatural not to have sex.
So find a lover that will give you what you need.
2006-10-28 22:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by r g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you married a dud..
Divorce him at make a better choice next time..
2006-10-28 22:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
meet him at the door with his favorite desert all over you that should get his attention
2006-10-28 22:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by dartsrez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋