2006-10-28 14:58:04 · 16 answers · asked by c254_111 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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2006-10-28 15:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by answer annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my gf got pregnant, my wife you kill me...lol
Seriously, before I was married, I'd answer this one of two ways, depending on where I was in my life.
1. If it was a gf while I was in college, I always spoke with them (before our relationship turned sexual) and had them agree to not name me as a father until I finished school. Not because I was being selfish, but rather so I could get a job that pays more than minimum wage and do better for the mother and my baby (this never happened)
2. After college, I could afford child support anyway, so pregnancy wasn't as big of an issue. None of my gf's ever got pregnant, but if they did, I think it would have been a happy event.
If you did get a girl knocked up, just have a plan and agree on it between you and your gf. Having your first baby is petrifying (whether you are married or not). You will come to find out that a baby is really a blessing (I'd go as far as to say a gift from God).
Personally, I'm pro-choice, but I'd personally try to opt for adoption over abortion if we didn't want the baby for some reason. There are many people who can't have children that would do anything for a baby. I'd personally rather give the baby and a deserving family a chance.
2006-10-28 22:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Slider728 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like this, you are responsible for your actions. You know the chance that getting a girl pregnant is very HIGH!! So if she is pregnant, then I suggest you get a job, start saving cause you are about to be a dad. Don't put all the responsibility on her because IT DOES TAKE 2!!! So if she is pregnant, get ready to enter the realm of parenthood. No partying, no going out, just you, girlfriend, and baby. You gotta accept responsibility!!! Point blank. Not to get on to you or anything but this is the real world.
2006-10-28 22:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...I am the girlfriend who got pregnant (20 weeks on monday) I am 19 now (just turned 19 October 21) and my babys dad is DONT JUDGE PEOPLE...16..he turns 17 in December and yup...I am pregnant with his kid....we broke up three weeks before I found out I was pregnant....talked off and on for 5 months and just got back together on October 18...I am due March 19 and were having a baby....which tends to happen if your gf gets pregnant lol
2006-10-28 22:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then u have a big responsibility... the best thing to do is to be there for the baby...its gunna hurt knowing that ur babys gunna grow up w/o a daddy and it also hurts the kid.
u know what happenes when ppl have sex and a baby isnt a bad thing...u may think so now but its gunna be soo wonderful once it comes into this world!
2006-10-28 22:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you support her in this situation that you had a big part in creating. Talk to her and let her know that you're there for her no matter what she decides to do. It's her body and her decision to make. I guess you're gonna be a dad so, you need to start being responsible and start saving that money!!!! Good Luck!
2006-10-28 22:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you have the responsibility of being a father. If she is pregnant please stand by her. I hate to see single pregnant women. I am pregnant myself and it would be so hard if I went through it without the support from my boyfriend.
2006-10-28 23:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by jessica_peare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm and help her through it don,t back down 50 percent of the responsibility is yours. there are places that will help you trough it. Just stay calm cause if you love her you alway,s will that wont change. It may be tough but once the baby is here you"ll see you will love that cute lil baby on sight.
2006-10-28 22:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out what your needs are, hers, and then make the right decision. Hers will win out though. If she keeps the baby, support her, and love the extension of yourself, even if you two are not married, or do not plan on getting married.
2006-10-28 22:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Serious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
support her . love her let her know you be there for her and the baby..
dont let age or money be a reason to bail.. Anyone who is old enough to decide they can have sex is old enough to accept what happens after.
People only decide they are not ready out of selfishness...no one is ever ready..
2006-10-28 22:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋