Just my daughter, son-in-law, granddaughter and a gift for each other?
We have parents on my side and siblings, nieces and nephews on both sides.
2006-10-28 14:55:11 · 13 answers · asked by DeborahDel 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Well, of course, it's OK. The only exception I would make would be to include the parents. The others might benefit from your example of making Christmas gift-giving a very personal tradition.
Celebrating the season as a family is always a good tradition, and can include visits and gatherings, where the value of the family is emphasized. Remembrances of time spent with loved ones last so much longer than material things that either break, wear out, or become out-dated.
Personally, I think gift-giving has reached a point that needs to be reined in, so it's refreshing to see the suggestion of limits. Besides, the giving of a gift should be from the heart, not from a feeling of obligation.
You can still give the gift of your company, your interest, your concern, and your love to those who touch your life in a less immediate way. The gift of time, of conversation, of a kind word, or a selfless act which helps someone...many things that cost little or nothing to give are among the most cherished.
2006-10-28 15:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would perhaps tell your brothers and sisters that this year you would like to forego the gifts. Maybe they haven't done shopping yet. The reason I say this is that my brothers have both apparently decided not to do birthday gifts for our children, but never informed me. So for the last two years I've bought birthday presents for EVERYONE (six nieces and nephews) and my kids haven't gotten a thing from either family. It's irritating, is all. I feel like they couldn't even be bothered to tell me that we weren't doing it anymore.
2006-10-28 22:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's ok. What happens if you absolutely cannot afford to provide gifts even for your immediate family? Are you going to steal? People have to understand that times are getting harder & harder, and that others can only do so much. Over the last few years I have changed to giving gifts to only the children in the family, at holidays. Birthdays arrive at different times of the year and that's more manageable than trying to provide gifts to everyone & friends. Do only what you can manage.
2006-10-28 22:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by somebrowning 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but let everyone know well in advance. Write them a nice note or call them and tell them that the gifts have just gotten out of hand and you will be sending just a card this year and expecting the same. I'll bet most of them will be relieved.
I do think you should still buy your parents small gifts, though.
2006-10-28 21:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely ok to get Christmas presents for those who you choose. One might choose to give to the poor, as opposed to having a Christmas with gift exchange. The important thing is the Christ that Christmas was meant to celebrate. Other elements are mere "icing on the cake."
2006-10-28 23:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Margaret G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was young my folks always bought everybody a gift. But then it was talked over and then it was just my brother and myself mom and dad and my grandparents.
Now that I am older (wiser?) it is my husband, our son, his girlfriend and myself. I do make little things from crocheting or cross stitching to give to friends.
But I just don't believe in going in debt at Christmas or any other time.
2006-10-28 23:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vote no gifts for anyone you're not married to, and they only get one. Now that would mess up the whole economy for that time of year.
2006-10-28 22:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by Nc Jay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what we do. When we all get together we draw names. This has worked out very well.
2006-10-28 21:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's okay but just make sure to let everyone know.
2006-10-29 01:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas should not be about materialistic items. Yes, you can.
2006-10-28 22:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋