everyone says that they started masturbating when they were like 8 or 9. i'm turnig 12 soon and my mom doesn;t want me to know what it is. if she hears it on t.v. or something she runs over and changes the channel. why does she do this?
2006-10-28 14:34:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she's afraid of her little girl growing up. do me a favor though and save your virginity until you can afford to have a baby because people like me really want children and have an awful time getting there because of health reasons while young healthy ones like yourself who are "experimenting" end up pregnant and have no idea what's happening to them. You are going through a tough stage right now and it doesn't get easier but trust me from experience the guys really do appreciate you more when you wait. And your husband will feel honored if you wait that long. I believe you need to talk to your mom let her know the truth about everything and ya'll will get along just fine and she will be of good help in the future if she knows she can trust you.
good luck!
2006-10-28 15:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by brittney 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because masturbation for women is considered a bad thing. Girls are supposed to be good and not do that but it is ok for boys. In some Muslim countries they go a step further to make sure their girls do not masturbate and mutilate the female genitals to discourage it such as sew it up or cut the clit off. Sad but true. In ancient times there was this thing called a chastitiy belt to keep people pure. Masturbation is still kind of considered a taboo thing for women to do but for men it is accepted as just a "boys thing"
2006-10-28 14:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants to keep you innocent from that and doesn't want to expose you to those kinds of ideas.(that's exactly what happened to my friend,her mother did the same thing to her)
so relax she is just trying to protect you
and if you really want to know why she does what she does ask her
ask why she changes the channel every time that they talk about masturbation on t.v!!!!
good luck
Manda <3
2006-10-28 14:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people still think sex is dirty, kids will explore their bodies early in life and continue to do so in later years. Some believe that masterbation is a sin, some say its a relief, either way it would be up to you to decide what or how you feel about it. Your mother was probley tought that it was dirty and a sin. And she's trying to protect you, maybe she don't want you to grow up yet.
2006-10-28 14:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by pixalated2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she probablly thinks u r to young for that stuff. i'm 12 and when i was watching a show once and this kid's mom who is a doctor started talking to him about not to have sex my mom just went out and said "Don't do sex and if u do use a condomn." and i was like "mom do u really have to tell me this!" because i really want to be a doctor so like all the t.v. shows i watch r like untold stories of the ER and ER shows or shows about sergons and stuff so i see ppl getting told about it and also about ppl getting aids or stds in their mouths so my mom knos that i kno about these things. but i guess ur mom thinks u r to young to kno these things but the reality is that kids r getting younger and knoing about sex so ur mom is really nervous about this and she does't want u to be one of those high school girls at ur prom and in ur prom picture u r pregnant because that is getting more and more common these days so ur mom is just worried that's all.
2006-10-28 18:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by &hearts * RBplayerkelcie * ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may not want you to be exposed to things like this early. It's normal. My friends mom did the same thing. You know that your mom is just trying to do what she thinks is right. That's parenting for you.
2006-10-28 14:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by otter7 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all I think you should learn about masterbating. It is the safest form of sex. I am in NO way saying sex is ok, but if you want to explore your sexuality, feel free to masterbate. I can't say I ever masterbated that young. I think I was 15. It is YOUR body. I am not saying to abuse it or use it in a wrongful way. Masterbation is natural. It is a well to explore yourself safely.
I think in our society today masterbation has been looked down upon. I really don't know why. It is really shameful. I hope your mom comes to her senses. Masterbating is the safest form self exploration. She should embrace it.
2006-10-28 14:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Summer H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Shes just tryin to protect you..
your SO YOUNG!.. & she doesent want ANY guy taking advantage of you.
or you giving yourself to men that dont matter..
YOU SHOULD WAIT TILL MARRIAGE!!
i kNOW YOU prob here this all the time but you should deff wait!
Its worth the wait!!
i lost my virginity at a young age and I WISH!!!
OH HOW I WISH I WAS STILL A VIRGIN!!
PLEASE LETEN TO YOUR MOM!!.. SHES RIGHT ABOUT EVERYTHING!!
PROB NOT EVERYTHING..
BUT THE MOJORATy SHE IS..
when i was younger my parents would BUG THE CRAP! out of me..
about havin sex & waiting.. & drugs & not to listen to what every men told me..
i NEVER listened to them.. && NOW I WISH I WOULD HAVE! one day when you have your own kids the things your parents said to you.. your gonna say to your kids!
2006-10-28 16:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most grownups don't feel comfortable talking about it because it's something that we are taught to be ashamed of - like picking your nose... Nobody talks about picking their nose, right? Usually, people don't talk about sex because it's something you do in private like going to the bathroom or cleaning your nose, your ears, or your butt - We all do these things but the topic is pretty much off-limits because it's private, (or just plain gross). Human sexuality, though, is different because there are things we NEED to know; While sex is still a very private matter, it's a lot more important then whether or not we have boogers.
Historically, people thought it was so wrong to talk about sex that even mothers and fathers didn't explain it to their children. This, however, caused a lot of problems - especially for the girls when they grew up. Often, a young woman wouldn't find out about sex until it happened to her - usually on her wedding night. Then, because nobody had told her, she would feel confused and victimized - developing fear of her new husband instead of love. Also, because she had never heard of this happening to anyone else, she would feel alone and ashamed and not want to tell (or ask) her best-friend, sister, or even her mother about it. Therefore, she would spend the rest of her life experiencing very complex feelings of fear and alienation in her own home.
Thankfully, various generations in various places (you've heard of the hippies in the sixties, right?) all over the world began to question the rules and behaviors of society. In the 1960s people started what we call a "sexual revolution" which was where they began to raise public awareness of the problems associated with keeping sex a secret and, therefore, shameful act. They argued that human sexuality was normal and that people - especially young women - should know that it's a very healthy and loving act - not a violent demoralizing attack - between two people who love eachother. This "sexual revolution" helped young women to understand what was happening to them and enabled them to become willing participants instead of brutal-assualt victims. It also helped men to better understand what women were experiencing. Also, because people felt more free to discuss such things, parents were less ashamed to talk to their own children. Then, teenage girls learned why they had menstrual periods and how to take care of them. Teenage boys learned about the strange things that happened to their bodies and how to control them. And, very importantly, boys and girls both learned about human reproduction, (ie., how babies are made).
Throghout your life, you'll probably notice that some people are comfortable talking about sex and others aren't. That's because we are living in what's called a "progressive age". That means we're living in a time where different people start to identify, understand and accept new IDEAS (also known as "progressing"), at different times... You know how sometimes, you might be afraid to wear a new style of clothes so you wait until everybody else is wearing it before you accept that it's a good idea? Well, it's kind of like that but, when it comes to clothes, you're just afraid of being a dork and, when it comes to human sexuality, most grownups are afraid of being "wrong" - not because people will point at them and laugh but because being wrong about sex can hurt a lot of people. So they like to wait and see how it turns out for the families of other people, (namely, their children) before deciding whether or not they should "open up" about sex to their own kids. And, to answer your question: masturbation is a VERY complicated aspect of human sexuality and, knowing what you do about how uncomfortable people feel about discussing the general aspects of the subject, you can probably figure out why your mom turns the t.v. channel when such things come up. She doesn't want to talk about it and she doesn't want think that you do either.
The point is, while some people are comfortable talking about sexuality and others aren't, you'll have to decide for yourself,(better to wait until you're older), whether or not you want to be "open" or "closed" to the subject.
*** Nobody should ever touch or talk to you in a way that feels "wrong" or "dirty". If that ever happens to you or one of your friends, be sure to tell a responsible adult (a parent, teacher, or police officer) who can do something to protect you and other kids like you from the same thing, or worse, in the future ***
2006-10-28 16:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by CH 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to protect your innocence. You need to tell her you know about masturbation and other things about sex. She'll want to know where you learned about it. . . . so tell her the truth. I would imagine you picked up the information in school.
2006-10-28 14:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by snddupree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋