im so depressed .my husband wont change he hurts my feeling and my kids.i have noone but me and my kids .?

Answer 1

Stop crying victim and do something about it. Plenty of women have left abusive men with "no one" to help them. What if he dropped dead tomorrow. Would you fold up and die, or loose your children because you can't take care of them on your own? I think women who complain, whine, and cry about things they're unwilling to do anything about aren't really in such bad relationships. They're just sympathy-seeking drama queens.

Answer 2

There must be someone in your life that you can turn to, even if it's someone that you haven't seen in a while. Reach out to a real person for support. If your husband is abusing you, even verbal abuse is harmfull, especially to the children.
One of the pathological things abusers will do is to try to isolate their victims from the support of family & friends. Is this what has happened to you? If so, you may not know it, but you could possibly have family members, or friends, waiting in the wings for you to come to your senses.

Staying in the relationship & doing nothing will only exacerbate your depression, & make it even harder for you to make the break from this pattern in your life. You are being abused, but as long as you stay in the relationship you are a contributor to the harm that is being brought on to your kids, as well as yourself, & they ARE BEING HARMED BY THIS ABUSE.

Look for a shelter if you want to get out, or go to a family member & take the kids. If your husband won't change then it's up to you to initiate the changes, & the only person that you can change is you.

Answer 3

Watch the Video on ABC

http://abcnews.go.com/2020/

Violence Strikes Every 15 Seconds - October 28, 2006

and
Abuse Behind Closed Doors - October 28, 2006

Then ask yourself where do you fit in the picture?

Answer 4

You are not as alone as you think. Please let someone know how you feel and get some help. You cannot change your husband, but you can change how you react to his negative attitude. Talk to your pastor, a friend, a neighbor, or call a hot line to talk. Reach out and someone will be there to grab your hand and pull you up.

Answer 5

You need to find yourself a hobby and meet other people. Stand up for yourself. When he's home, go out and get some fresh air - without the kids. You need some time by yourself - we all do.

Answer 6

I'm sure you have friends and family that loves you a lot. Talk to them and take their advice.

If you need someone to talk to you can talk to me about your problems. Don't worry I'm a female. I know what its like when someone you love is putting you down. I went there done that and the only way I forgot about the situation was the help from my loved ones.

Answer 7

how does he hurt you? My advice to you is if it gets bad, leave. you only live once and make the best out of it. You shouldn't have to spend your days being sad. Find someone else that's going to love and respect you and love and respect your kids.

Answer 8

You need to leavehim becuse the more he brings you down the worse your going to feel and thats what he wants the power to control your life open your eyes

Answer 9

get some professional help to see why you continue to be in a relationship that hurts you. NO man is worth the heartache.

Answer 10

i know your pain me too just myself kids and disabled brother.And he doesnt beat me he just cheats doesnt help out stuff like that i wish i could find someone to help me stand because i feel i can't do it myself that's how i feel but what i dont understand about myself i didnt use to be this weak when i was dating if we split up that was that but now its like i'm stuck let me know how things turn out take care and good luck i'll pray for you you can contact me if you want to chat