I am in school and am very busy studying. I have no time and he works opposite of my shedule so I never get to see him. I love him very much but he always wants more attention and questions wether I still love him. He reads into everything and gets hurt easily. How do I make him understand what I am goig through,. How can I fix the problem and let him know this is only temporary.Help
2006-10-28 14:23:44 · 17 answers · asked by nim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your boyfriend is an immature idiot find someone who understands you.
2006-10-28 14:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give your ages but he sure seems to be insecure. Tell him that you love him and see if maybe you could set a time once or twice a week to spend a couple hours with him , let him know how important your education is to you for the future, and if he is to be a part of that future he should want you to be as educated as you need to be to earn a good living together . Maybe he hasn't got goals set up for himself and in my book that is very important for some one to have . With no goals you can not be sure of some kind of decent future. Make sure you and he are compatible in what you both want out of life. Good luck . and keep up the good work.
2006-10-28 14:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this sound familiar -
If he is unwilling to work with you then you probally need to move on. No relationship is normal there is always ups and downs - Take your own advice!!
Really you need to organise a special time with him each week - it only needs to be an hour, but make sure it is your time. You need to know that if you are stresing about him and the relationship your schoolwork will suffer. If he is still too demanding on your time - split up.
2006-10-28 16:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by ricmau35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make time one weekend to sit down with him and have a chat. Re-assure him that you do still love him (if thats the case), but due to the way things are it is hard for both of you as you get precious little time together and when you do spend time together you fight.
All i can say is be open and honest if you dont talk the relationship will soon turn to hate and you'll be fed up with his constant mood swings that it will all end in tears
2006-10-28 14:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by grizzlybear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe anyone answering this question has been in the same situation. if you are still at school and he is working, he should appreciate what you are going through, if you have explained your education is important to you then he should understand if not he is being a tit. he wants control. i should know, i did, i lost a great relationship because of this.
if worst comes to worst, then there is the old saying 'a good chess player knows which pieces to sacrifice and when'
2006-10-29 01:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by hicapaul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well find a day wher ur both free an spend it togetha turn of mobile phones an house phone, an cook him a nice meal let him no u still appreciate him
an try an do tht every week wher its jus u 2, tlk bout ur problems with him dont criticise hiom, explain t him ur gettin an education so u can betta urself, but u still love him
2006-10-28 14:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by kelly_louise_88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt bother as if he is reacting this way when you are trying to do the best you can at school then he will most likely never change. Your education is more important than any boy could ever be and if he is still there when you have finished it, he may be worth hanging on to.
2006-10-28 14:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you guys need to find some time or else one of you are going to start looking for the attention elsewhere, I understand what your saying about being busy but you have it fit it in somewhere
2006-10-28 14:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Shanana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very insecure. Are you sure you wanted to worry about his hurt feelings for the rest of your life? It could get very old, very fast. I had a guy like that once and I couldn't take it for too long. I eventually moved on.
2006-10-28 14:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jules 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be jealous of your life away from him. Childish, but understandable. You need to sit down with him and let him know where you are in life with your schooling. Instead of jealousy he should be proud and supportive of you. Let him know how important he is and ask him to please be patient.
I wish you both the best, dear one.
2006-10-28 14:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO way you can ..you done the explaining before and it didn't work ..
Take time out from him until you finished your studying ..then check him out if he is still interested in you ..you can't do both successfully
2006-10-28 14:44:22 · answer #11 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋