Funny thing is, he's nicer to me now. But, when he calls, all he want's to talk about is all these web cam girls and online women that he's talking too. Then, he goes on about the girl he met at the bar and what she was wearing and that she is coming over to his house. Then, he'll call back the next day and go on and on about how it went, usually great! WHY is he calling me and telling me this stuff after two years??? I don't just sit and listen. I ask him why is telling me this and he says that he doesn't know, he was just thinking about it. Other times, I just say I have to go, but he continues to call back another day. What is he doing?
2006-10-28 14:15:14 · 18 answers · asked by precious girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And that's nicer to you?
He's messing with you. He wants you to know that he doesn't need you. Tell him you don't want to hear it.
2006-10-28 14:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get caller ID and when he calls don't answer the phone, or, get an anwering machine and turn the ringer of the phone off and let the machine pick up your calls. Call those people you WANT to talk to back and delete his messages. OR call your lawyer and tell him your ex husband is harrassing you...that is against the order of the decree of divorce (check your paperwork), As your ex husband he should only be allowed to call you if you have children and it pertains to their health and well being, if you have financial assets still tied up. If someone in YOUR family passes and he calls to give you condolences. Otherwise there is no reason for him to keep calling you. Your lawyer can have him charged with contempt of court, and if so charged might wind up in jail.
2006-10-28 21:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to be your friend and make you jealous at the same time. He obviously realized he made a mistake when he lost you but now their is no going back. Just tell him you feel uncomfortable talking about the women he dates. Afterall, you used to be his wife. Ask him if he would want to hear the intimate details of your dates. Tell him if you are going to be friends there are boundaries that have to be respected. If that doesn't work then just tell him how good it was in the sack with your last date. Maybe he'll get the hint then.
2006-10-28 21:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
jnny: Firstly; he's checking up on you to see whether or not you have someone in your life now. I know you don't, by the fact that you allow him to continually contact you. Your husband is playing games with your head and you give him permission by answering his telephone calls and listening to him talk about his web cam porn queens. Get yourself serious, purchase an answering machine ( if you don't already have one), now ... screen your calls. The ol' ," I don't want her and I don't want anyone else either, to have her" applies here, in your case.
2006-10-28 21:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being a jerk. Do not answer his calls. He'll stop calling. I don't consider it nice to you when he's bragging about all these girls he's with. I think he is trying to make himself look like he's a wanted man to everyone but you. Everyone wants him, except you, so the problem with the marriage was your fault. Do you see? I don't think he's being nice at all. You have closed that chapter of you life. Keep it closed. If you meet a man, what do you think he will think about you husband calling and trying to make you jeolous or feel bad. He won't like it at all. In fact, he may not stick around at all. I hope you have a lovely day!
2006-10-28 21:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get caller ID and don't answer when it's him! Don't know how long you were married, but if I divorced, my husband is who I'd want to keep in touch with as a 'best friend'. Your ex just hasn't gotten the CLUE yet since you keep answering the phone...... UNLESS you WANT to be talking to him and staying in contact with him also....
Your call and your choice. (If it's something really important... he can write.)
2006-10-28 22:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to make you jealous. My question is why do you keep answering the phone. I'd block the number. Turn the table by moving on with your life.
2006-10-28 21:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Your MOM 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is an easy one, but it'd be good to know whom broke off the relationship. I think he's trying to make you jealous by using the women he is seeing to make you jealous. maybe he still wants you and he wants you to take initiative, he probably doesn't want to make the first move, then again maybe he just thinks your on the "back-burner" for him. Best advice tell him to move on, sorry, and make him feel a little jealous!
2006-10-28 21:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that he's testing you watching your reaction or he could be trying to make you jealous. As I see it he wants you back. He has so much time on his hands and it could be that his life has no focus right now.
2006-10-28 21:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Ai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is trying to show you that he is still hot and that he can still pick up women even though you left him, let me guess you divorced him due to cheating.
2006-10-28 21:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by Shanana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he is lonely and sad that you are now divorce and separated and he is trying to compensate for it by telling you stories of his adventures and gallivanting either to make you jealous or hurt your feelings, if i were you next time try to tell himstories too of some of your date and gallivanting too, if you don't have any try to invent something believable and tell it to him before he start to say anything, let see how he would feel about it!
2006-10-28 21:20:49 · answer #11 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋