It all started when my uncle died last Monday and I had to go to Colorado Springs for his funeral. I talked to my best friend that I could trust with anything the day before I left. I've been having problems at school with this girl who used to be my friend but when she said that I should just kill myself and no one would care, that's when we weren't friends anymore. So anyways, she was giving my "best friend" a hard time. She said that she was going to go to the conselor for the problem when I was gone to sort it all out. Well when I came back my "best friend" didn't go to the conselor and she had made a new best friend when I was gone. Now she has been avoiding me, not calling and talking to me everyday like she used to, and she's also been ignoring me. Like if I try to talk to her she'll just call her new best friend over to talk to them instead.
Is there anything I can do to be best friends with her again?
2006-10-28 14:13:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think if you look at this situation you ex best friend can only be friends with one person at a time. I would move on and find a friend who would actually care about your friendship, and actually be there when you got home from a death in your family with the concern she should have had for any one who just lost a member of threr family. You I hope are a much better person than that. You don't even want a friend who is that superficial. How long were you gone? How can she forget about your friendship simply because you were gone for a couple of days. With friend like that you would never be able to even be sick for a day she would forget about you. Move on and remember you can't expect to have friends if you aren't a friend. Be kind to everyone and it will come back to you. I promise.
2006-10-28 21:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. (Sorry about your Uncle too).
I think what happened while you were gone was that your new "Best Friend" buckled under the peer pressure from people like your old friend, & dumped you so that she would get the approval of the ones that she thinks will meet her needs to be popular at school.
This is in no way a reflection on you, or your considerable value as a person. It instead reflects on her, & her character as a friend. Obviously, she is not a true friend, & puts her own needs above all others in a crisis. Therefore she is not worth your time to try to recover her loyalty, because she clearly doesn't have a loyal bone in her body.
She treats you in such a hurtful way when you try to talk to her about it, because deep down she feels really bad about herself for betraying you, & if she can make you feel bad about yourself, then maybe she can somehow feel that it's OK to treat you in a bad way, because you might come to believe that you deserve to be treated that way by her. It's kind of hard to understand, but weak people like her don't have much strength to draw from, so they tend to take what they can get.
She may not reveal it to you, but you can really reach her heart by going up to her one day when she's alone & can't run to the shelter of her new "Friends" & tell her in a kind & caring way that you really understand why she did what she did to you, & that if she ever wants to talk to you about it that you will try to listen, & then just calmly walk away. She may snap some angry words at you, but don't let the words hurt you. Just know by her response that she heard you, & will remember what you said for the rest of her life.
2006-10-28 21:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship has to be mutual, if she doesnt want to talk to you and be your friend then there is little you can do about it.
2006-10-28 21:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to her if she dont answer find a new freind.
2006-10-28 21:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by buble c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋