What's the appropiate way to behave while going to dinner with my boyfriend's parents?

Question

Tomorrow I'm going out to dinner with my boyfriend and his parents. I've met them before, but really never got to sit down and get to know them (the purpose of this dinner). So what are some do's and don'ts? My boyfriend is trying to scare me and say they ask very personal questions and are going to grill me. It's kind of embarrasing because his mother always sees the hickeys I give him, and caught us making out. His brothers also tease him in front of them and make comments on how we always have sex. I'm pretty much screwed, so how do I save face and come out an elegant lady.

P.S -- One good thing is that his mother calls me "future daughter-in-law" ;)

Answer 1

Don't go into little giggles and do the exaggerating eye rolling thing. Act natural, respectful, courteous, and most importantly, be yourself. Have fun and enjoy yourself, because if his mother is already calling you "future daughter-in-law" then it isn't going to be all that bad.

Best of luck :D

Answer 2

Are you going to their house or to a restaurant? The teasing may be embarrassing to you but think about it this way.. they aren't angry about it. This is their way of dealing with their boy growing up too. Don't get flustered when they ask personal questions, but don't answer something you think is too personal. Answer honestly, they will appreciate it. If you tell a little white lie now, imagine what it could snowball into later? Or NICELY, abstain from the question. Put your napkin on your lap, say excuse me when you get up from the table, the usual dinner manners. If you are in their home, don't just offer to clear the dishes. When mom gets up to clear the dishes, get up and help. Not in a 50's woman-in-kitchen way, but this gives you a chance to talk with just mom and not the brothers or dad or boyfriend. She might open up to you. Stand your ground but be gentle about it. Hope you have fun. Becky 25 FL

Answer 3

This is a prime time to go out and get that dress that costs way too much! Go get your hair done professionally, even if it's kind of short! Put on every expensive piece of jewelry you can borrow. The best perfume, if available get a pro to put on your makeup. Make sure your b/f knows that he is to pull your chair out and sit you! Also if you get up to go to the powder room, he must stand up too! If only for a moment. This will make the other guys do the same things and make your potential Mom-in-law want you around all the more!!!

Answer 4

I think you have already blown the "classy title" what with the hickeys and all. Just make sure you bring up the fact you are "just so silly and absent minded" that you don't take the pill correctly. That will be a sure way to win them over.

Answer 5

just dress up nicely ask them questions give nice comments to the mother like oh your dress or hair looks really nice!...sit up properly and try not to snuggle to much with your boyfriend...have fun answer questions properly and joke around a little! well have fun hope all goes well!!!!

Answer 6

Just be yourself but in the future I'd cool it with the hickeys, they are so tacky.

Answer 7

don't try to over impress them and just try to be yourself but respectful and courteous in everything you say and do but not to the point that they feel like you are artificial and overacting, just be yourself and very respectful and courteous, familiar but not too intimately familiar, address them like mr. and mrs. or sir and ma'm, don't worry about what they heard about you and incase they do ask you about something very personal, just respectfully say i'd rather not talk about it or say it's too personal, would you like to talk about something else. always remember be yourself and respectful and courteous, good luck!

Answer 8

be polite and smile but be yourselkf say please and thankyou and have fun