suicide trouble?

Question

thers a guy (im serious, its a friend not me.) that ive been really good friends with that ive fallen in and out of "love" with, so of course i care about him. and a few days ago i found out thats hes been cutting himself and then only an hour later he tried to kill himself in his house.
i want to help him i have no clue how! please help?!?!?!

Answer 1

you MUST TELL SOMEONE ABOUT THIS. Get to a parent or a teacher a priest the cops someone. You are his friend, then help him get the help he desperatly needs. You are not being a snitch or betraying him but you might be a life saver. Do it now Tell someone, tell everyone untill someone does something. Your friends life might just be in your hands.

How are you going to feel if he does kill himself and you did nothing. Get off the computer and get on the phone and tell someone. tell your parents, tell his parents but for his sake and yours TELL SOMEBODY NOW

Answer 2

hi,
This sounds very serious - you cant deal with this on your own. If your a good friend, does he talk to you? often with guys, they dont talk about their emotions so he may resent you wanting to help. maybe get some books/leaflets on depression and put them under his nose - he may read them in his own time - also, helplines - give him some numbers to call (like the samaritans) for when he's feeling depressed. Suggest him going to his GP, and maybe being referred to a psychiatrist.
you may also want to tell his mum or dad if he has a good relationship with them.
overall, make it clear you are there for him.. but dont feel full responsibility for him, try and get some professionals involved.
good luck : )

from reading other people's answers: he wont go to jail, but going to the police wont be the best idea, as they cant really do anything - though im not sure what country you're in. In australia and england, the police cant really do much in these cases. He needs a mental health professional like a community psychiatric nurse, psychiatrist - again get him to go to his GP or if he's reluctant, ask your own - they should be able to refer him to the community mental health team who can visit him in the safety of his own home and do an assessment.

Answer 3

Was he taken into protective custody (in California, this would be a 5150 [3-day hold] or a 5250 [2-week hold])?

It sounds as though he will need (and probably will receive, whether he wants it or not) quite a bit of professional help.

Let him know that you care about him and ask about small ways in which you can help. (Maybe, for example, they gave him one of those revelatory tie-in-the-back nightgowns and he would appreciate someone's bringing his pajamas from home. Or he's overwhelmed with dealing with heavy stuff and would appreciate a good dumb book or a silly greeting card.) If you get the phone number of the nurse's station, you might ask them about things which are and are not allowed as presents.

Answer 4

talk to him and tell him all of the good qualities that you see in him. Explain to him that the world and especially your world will be alot darker without him in it. If you are willing to then tell him that you will help him through this rough time and go with him to get counseling. There are plenty of places for peple to get free counseling if he does not have insurance. Cutting is a sure sign of some deep emotional issues and the best thing that you can do for your friend is be a persistent friend until he gets the help that he needs to guide him through this terribly emotional time.

Answer 5

black beard: If you really have a genuine desire to help your friend, then, MAKE SURE HE GETS PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!
Suicide attempts (or threats) are serious business - BIG time !!! Once he is receiving professional help / counselling, be a friend to him. Don't "judge" him for his suicide attempt - but lend a sympathetic ear to him. Life is full of downers and we do not know how we will respond to the ones which will try us. Go easy with him and cultivate a relaxing atmosphere when you see him for a chat. All the best to ya !!!

Answer 6

The first thing you can do is tell his parent.............. they need to know. They will have to get him treatment as soon as possible. The only thing you can do as a friend id to let him know that you are his friend and that you care about him and you dont want to see him waste his life away. Tell him you will always be here for him and he can talk to you about anything at all. But the best thing you can do right now is to let his parent know that you are concerned about him and tell them everything you know. It si for his own good and I know you know that. The choice is yours to make, you dont want that kind of guilt on your concious if he actually succeeds, do you? Nah, I didnt think so.

Answer 7

well 2 ppl gave the guy who answerd u to read him some scriptures from the bible to him! there idiots who ever did it! i would read him a little of the bible 2 tell him how much u care for him and that if he needs to talk about anything u will be there for him all the way!! tell him he needs to seek out help also and that if he wants u to be there in the process u will do it for him! i hope he doesnt do anything bad though:(

Answer 8

cutting may not be a sign of suicide, it could be a cry for help or a personal release. as for him trying to kill himself he should be institutionalized! only a professional can help him but he could use your support, if he is bound on killing himself their is really nothing can do. so don't take thing to heart if he is successful at his attempts.

Answer 9

Does he live with anyone? His room mate or parents need to know about this right now. They have to look out for him and get him to the hospital ASAP.

Notify the police if he calls and says he is going to try it again.

Answer 10

Does he know you love him...tell him...maybe that will help :\
when people are depressed they feel locked off from the rest of the world...like they're in a plastic bubble....comfort him..i don't really know what to tell you...just be there for him