my husband asked me what i wanted for mothers day scrambled or fried eggs and doidn't cook me breakfast at all. Same thing on my birthday . Then on our anniversary he went to a bar b que at his brothers for 6 hrs. he is a good husband in other ways and in general but ifeel like he doesn't love me because he never does anything for me on the holidays and he knows it is important to me so what should i do is a divorce ridiculous?
2006-10-28 13:56:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Different people express love differently and then they expect love to be expressed in the same way. He obviously does not express love by doing things for you. He has a dofferent way, you just have to figure it out. Try "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. Read the book together or go to www.fivelovelanguages.com
This is a workable issue, each of you just need to work together on it!
2006-10-28 14:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sit your husband down and have a talk with him. Tell him what you told us, tell him that you cant believe what he tells you anymore, and how it makes you feel. Include the part about him being a good husband the rest of the time (dont just start in on him), then express how important these special occasions are to you. Yeah I'd say a divorce over this would be ridiculous, unless there is something a lot worse you're not telling us, because this is one of those problems that can be worked out or overlooked, if you really love each other. (Thats what you have to do in a marriage either overlook something or work it out with the other person... both people have to give more and take less in most cases. Please don't get a divorce over something as benign as this--while I can certainly understand your frustration; and he is the one who should give more in this instance; it's not worth losing him is it? Talk to him!)
2006-10-28 21:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by cartmansmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes a divorce is ridiculous in this case.I understand your feelings are hurt,but in case he has always been that way you shouldn't worry about it and much rather accept the way he is.Some men have problems showing their emotions and if he's always been that way then you should just let him be.After all you knew about that when you married him.If he JUST STARTED acting that way,sorry girl but then you do have a serious problem and your old man has either an affair with someone else or there's other problems you guys need to work out.
2006-10-28 21:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by natashabrenda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a real *** hole to me. he does not do any thing for you b/d or anniversary or mothers day you spend the other holidays alone you don't feel like he loves you.BUT OTHER THEN THAT HES FINE. the only thing more ridiculous then a divorce is staying with him. ever one keeps saying " you just need to set him down and talk to him " i bet you have talked to him about this more then once. i don't mean to be so harsh but you could do a lot better then what you got...........
2006-10-28 21:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you think of divorce you need to talk to him. Give him a chance to explain himself. He may not even know he has hurt you. Men don't always think and they aren't always sensitive like woman. I know mine isn't but I ouldn't trade him in for a new one. Just tell him how you feel. If he loves you he will listen to what you have to say but do the same for him. Love is a two way street. Take care.
2006-10-28 21:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a divorce is extremly ridiculous!!! Just talk to him and let him know how you feel about this. Let him know that he needs to remember and do more for these days. There really important to you!!
2006-10-28 21:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by **What??** 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it'll be ridiculous to file a divorce just because he didnt cook for you at your special times. Yes, I know that can be really distressing, but..just ask him right away, "why?".
2006-10-28 21:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by qi-li-xiang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and tell him how you feel. Some men are different than others. Maybe he will listen to you and cater to your needs. In the mean time he will never know how you feel unless you let him know.
2006-10-28 21:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very bad,bt a divorce is nt an option.u need 2 sit him down an tell him how it hurts u dat yo special day is un important 2him.ask him y.mayb he jus has a bad case of memoryloss.
2006-10-28 21:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by ignob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt divorce him I would tell him that your not happy and you feel like your not even in a marriage at times because he is not thinking about the silly things that make you happy
2006-10-28 21:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Shanana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋