I was adopted at a later age, so is it weird that I would rather change back to my birth name? I just prefer it, I had been using it much longer than I've been using this one, I prefer to be called by it, and I am not close to my adoptive family
2006-10-28 13:35:02 · 8 answers · asked by sonechka5749 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your birth name is who you are. Who you identify yourself with. Of course you don't like the fact that your name changed. You should change it back if you want to.
2006-10-28 13:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some cultures they believe that a child calls out their name before birth. This is why a parent should let a name "come" to them instead of looking for one for a baby. Maybe your birthname is something special to you because it is really all you have from your birth parent. Such a gift.
But know that your adoptive parents have also given you a gift in a name to love and honor and hold on to until you are old enough to choose what you wish to be called by. It is quite alright to have a few names...Many families have nicknames for family members and then outside family and friends called them by their birthname.
Perhaps you are at a point in your life where you want to connect with your birth parent (s) or you are at a stage where you have certain feelings about your adoptive parents. I don't know your situation.
Certainly being adopted at a later age you were use to the name you had previous.
Why not look at your new name as a chance to reinvent yourself into anyone you wish to be and then if that doesn't work know that when you reach adulthood you can change to any name you wish!
Happy to know that you have found a home with adoptive parents there are so many in need of this in our world!
I wish you well.
2006-10-28 13:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by Coco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird at all.
Some adoptees grow very close to their adoptive families and prefer to keep that name because it has fond memories and good relationships.
If you don't feel that way with your adoptive family, then you can do whatever you wish with your name. (as long as you're 18 or up)
Your birth family must have some fond memories for you to want to honor them by using their name, I think it's a very nice gesture.
I know a woman who lost a husband in a car accident and went on to marry another man who was horrible to her and she ended up divorcing him, putting him in jail, etc.
At the divorce she decided to go back to the last name of the husband who died because she really never stopped loving him.
p.s. my younger brother and I both have had ideas of changing our last name because the one we have brings such bad memories. We both independently wanted to change it back to it's original, instead of the americanized version.
2006-10-28 13:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by kreative_ily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may legally change your name when you are 18. It will cost you at least $500, but if it is important to you - go for it.
2006-10-28 13:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes sense to me - if you feel that is who you are then do it! My husband is called by his last name. I didn't know his real first name until after we dated! lol Just be who you are and take what name you want! Best of luck!
2006-10-28 13:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU'RE 18 AND HAVE THE MONEY YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR NAME
2006-10-28 13:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead its not a bad idea really
2006-10-28 13:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by dreamz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋