my husband never wants to spend time with me he only wants to work on his truck or other vechiles, i cant get him to do anything with me EVER! what do you think this means?
2006-10-28 13:32:27 · 16 answers · asked by ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
weve been married 3 years
2006-10-28 13:44:12 · update #1
you need to sit him down and have a serious talk with him about how you feel. thats step number one.
2006-10-28 13:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tina H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I have learned is that we have to literally tell the man what we want. So go for that. If that hasn't worked then you have a serious problem, obviously you know that. Yes show a bit of interest in what he is doing but he also has to step back and look at his wife. If he can't and don't show any improvement then you may have to take drastic measures. Which ever way you need to get his attention..I'm sure he married you because he loves you so don't doubt that, it is something you BOTH are gonna have to work at.Good luck....L
2006-10-28 20:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd venture to say he has no idea you feel this way, and if he were to loose you he'd be totally crushed. He's just content and doing his thing while you do yours. What did you used to do? In what ways did you get along w/to begin with? You could try like taking a beer and the radio out to where he is and even if you sit in a chair while reading a book as long as your out there with him will make a difference, maybe dont say anything just go out there and do your thing near him, or simply tell him can we pick one or two days a week to do things out of the house and tell him what it would mean to you and see what he says try it all he can do is say yes, or maybe no but yes GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-28 21:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl. I have found it necessary in marriage to be completely selfless at times. Compromise is what makes a marriage work, along with love and other things. I suggest to throw on a cute t and some old jeans the next time he is working on his cars. Join him. Try to talk to him and tell him you want him to be part of your life. Talk to him about his tools, ask him questions about cars. Guys like to talk about things they like to do. Be a sweet wife and hopefully in return he will want to be around you. Make sure you are being likable and lovable. Don't be afraid of what it means. The second you start thinking he doesn't want to be around you because he doesn't love you it will lead to bad things like divorce. Love him as sweetly as you did when you first met. Cook him a good dinner, give him a glass of wine, wisper in his ear how much he means to you, and rekindle your love.I encourage you to not give up easily if you love this man and truely meant your vow that you would love him through the good and the bad. I hope this helps and hope you and your hubby work things out. Marriage is so wonderful when two people try to make it work.
2006-10-28 20:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be one of three things.
#1: you are a harpee dog.
#2: he likes cars better than women
#3: he is a complete dumbass that is married to a woman that would rather ask a question like this on yahoo! rather than sit his sorry @ss down and tell him what's bugging her. Here's a clue -- men don't take hints. If you want a man to know something you have to TELL him. Try this and if it doesn't work THEN you have a real problem.
2006-10-28 20:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how long you been married. But try taking an intrest on what he wants to do and see what happens. The in passing one day just try and get him to do something you would like to do. Take him to dinner at his favorite resturant or even if he likes to fish go with him. He may just need something new also find something niether of you has done and give it a whirl.
2006-10-28 20:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by riverrat6900 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him time. Don't push him. Step back and let him have his space. What did you do before you got married? What things did you like to do? Maybe you could help him with the truck.
2006-10-28 20:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by lovedietdp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing with my husband. He'll spend time or do things for everyone else but me. You really need to get him to understand how you feel that's what I'm trying to do.
Good Luck!
2006-10-28 20:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the main key, make him think that you love his job and want to share with him.... He will love you for that
2006-10-28 20:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband the facts of life...
He can make time for your marriage or he can start
looking for another wife....
2006-10-28 20:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋