There are times that I think to myself "man, i could be out getting drunk.........", but now and days, I'm very happy being home. It seems like I feel better when my kids are with me rather than some baby sitter. I mean it's O.K. to go out every now and again, but I'm much happier at home
So really my question is, Do most of you parents out there feel the same way. Have I finally grown up? lol...................
2006-10-28 13:29:30 · 20 answers · asked by the one who knows 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First Dad, I would like to say, way to go and I say that with a full heart. I unfortunately, was brought up without my dad, a few stepdad's here and there but not such great deals. I married and had my first child in the 70s so am probably old enough to be your Mom but I still no how important time with you children is. When my kids were little, it was not "cool" in our group to be a caring, loving father or to be a father at all. In fact I divorced my childrens father for that reason mainly, he had nothing to do with my ,then,2 year old son, my daughter a little more attention but they always had to beg for it and it made me sick. To this day, he and his son have not spoken for 14 years and nothing I can do or say will change that fact. His lack of involvement in their lives left a scar in their heart. There are times now that I too wish I would have and could have spent more time with them, they are the best gift a person could ever be given..I would give anything,anything to see my son right now, I saw my daughter this morning, but my son lives 700 miles away and I can not get to him,,I miss him more than life itself..
So to you my friend, like one of the others said, by your actions and by your speaking out about how you have chosen the lifestyle of going out and partying all the time with the lifestyle of time with your children, speaks volumes. It not only shows you have grown up, because age itself has nothing to do with it. I shows your character, it shows that your priorities are straight, it shows you are a caring, loving man no matter what age you are. There are too many men out there in their 40's plus who have never grown up and never will, you are an inspiration to others , yourself and especially to your children. Take lots of pictures, write down the wonderful feeling you have with and about them, along with the wonderful memories of their childhood they will also be able to see and read when they are fathers and mothers that you truly loved being with them, what a legacy to pass on.
I would be proud to say you were my son! and that says a great deal knowing how I feel about my son..
Magnolia
2006-10-28 13:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by magnolia813 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually posted a question about this very same thing tonight. I LOVE spending time with my kids and I often get dumped on because of it. I have my siblings and friends telling me I'm lame because I don't like to go out or drink anymore..I understand once in a while needing a break- but I rarely ever actually do need one. I can't stand to be seperated from them- some people worry their children will be scared to go away to kindergarten without mommy.. I'm worried about what mommy's gonna do when her babies start school and leave her behind at home!
2006-10-28 20:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup! Congratulations to adulthood.
My favorite times are the weekends..when we are all together at home. Movie time with popcorn and blankets, working on the house together, art and craft projects with the kids, baking cookies, dinner time all around the table
Its comfort and relaxation. Its a feel of...I have arrived.
Its knowing you don't have to go far to find happiness.
Since you are a man stating this, may I say..I am proud of you and you should remember to set an example for all the other men around you.
2006-10-28 20:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you have grown up when you decide to brings kids into the world it stop being about having a good time partying getting drunk, we have to grow up and be responsible kids first are they will end up in these foster homes and we dont want that so we put every thing a side a devote all to the kids, they will grow up before you know it
2006-10-28 20:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,you are now a mature man,and a man in all the meaning of the word.Congratulations.My parents were feeling the same way with me , my brothers and sisters,and now I feel the same way with my children.I do not drink or smoke,and really we do not need that stuff.We can be happy men with wives and children better,if we make time to be with them.Congratulations!!!!!
2006-10-28 20:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear you have finally arrived. Treasure times like this Take the time to be with your little ones Time goes much faster than you think and before you know it those kids will be grown and gone. I would give a great deal to have my children young again and here with me tonight. You enjoy yours while they are still with you. God Bless
2006-10-28 20:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love being home with my kids. I have three. 2 boys and a girl ages 7, 4, and 1. My husband and I rarely go out without them. We have our occasional date night, but other than that we spend our nights together. And yes to answer that question........that classifies you as being all grown up lol.
2006-10-28 20:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love to be with my kids too. Mine are now old enough where not only am I entertaining them, the are entertaining me. It's awesome to see that other parents feel the same way about hanging out with their kids that I do. I'd much rather be with my kids than out getting drunk.
2006-10-28 20:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my friend, I think you have finally grown up. Our children are our treasure, we only have them a short time and their grown up and gone. They are your responsibility and they need you every minute of the day that you can give them. I promise you the sacifrice WILL pay off. Keep up the good work.... Good Luck!
2006-10-28 20:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing better than being home with my kids. The best time of day is right after dinner, when I just sit and play with them until bath time.
2006-10-28 20:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋