Ladies: Is ostentatiousness is big turn on?

Question

Is ostentatiousness the order of today's world? Do you have to be ostentatious to be successful? Do you find ostentatiousness attractive?

Answer 1

This is the meaning as defined by Webster Dictionary: "Ostentatious:marked by a vulgar display of wealth and success designed to impress people."

So, with the defenation before us, lets now discuss your question. Now, we are not discussing my own preferance here, but the overall view of today's world. So, in that area, then yes, many are very much turned on by ostentatiousness. It is a sad commentary on our world view, on our expectation of our fellow human being, but it is still the truth nonetheless. Just look at the show "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous", and see how many would tune into that show on a regular basis. Look at how a boy with a car is far more attractive to girls than a boy without a car. Look at how those with wealth are treated differentially and we see how skewed our views are towards those with a lot of financial standing. Look at how many like to go "house hunting of the weatlhy", who drive around looking at horribly expensive homes and slaviate at what they see. (I have been guilty of that, lol)

Our eyes turn towards streach limousines, or how intemindated so many are around the wealthy. We have women and men both looking for mates who posses a lot of material stuff, and do not look into the soul for who the person is. The dating website Match.com and others like it list the incomes of those participating and they send messages to only those who posses an amount of yearly income above a certain amount. They base that as their first criteria, not the second, third, or even fith or twelth, but the first. So, it is obvious that possessions mean a great deal to people and it is a huge turn on. Many people find that a person who possesses great wealth and who advertises that weatlh, very attractive. Those who have expensive cars are very much attractive to others. We, as a capitalistic society, have lost our barometor of what is really worthy, and have lost our compass of what we really should be looking for in a mate.

We need to also discuss another facet of wealth which offers great attraction to many. Wealth brings with it power, and power is an aphrodisiac for many individuals. Often, the wealth is only the means to attain power, a by-product of acheiving what is really desired and that is power. Power is an object which is so desirable, people will spend millions of their own money to attain it. For example are those who spend millions to obtain a seat on the House or Senate. In my state we have a contender for our Senate seat who has spent over twelve million of his own money in his bid for power. Could he do good for our country? Perhaps, or perhaps not, we won't know unless and until he is elected and then shows how he handles himself while in office. So many make campaign promises which they know address many of the citizens concerns, but are not legally bound to keep those promises once elected. This is abhorrant to me, I think they should be bound to at least show an effort to keep those promises of dealing with issues the stituates elected them into office to deal with in ways which they support. I fully understand how difficult it is for one person to make changes in either House or Senate, but at least an honest effort needs to be required in order to keep the Seat. If more elected officials followed through on promises made during campaigning, then we could see a more promising future for our country. Sorry, I got off track here. lol

Yes, Maddy, ostentatiousness is the order of todays' worlld, as sad as I am to say so. It is also not a "big" turn on, but a huge turn on for many, with those possessing power even a larger turn on than wealth alone. It really is a sad commentary on our world society, but it is pretty much the norm and has been for centuries. Down through the ages wealth and power has been a huge turn-on and will probably be such for many centuries to come.

Now, as for me Maddy, I find what is inside a person's soul a turn on, or a turn off. I find those with a sweetness, a gentleness, an ability to be as non-judgemental as possible, those who wish to be of assistance to others, those who try diligently to not allow lifes blows to make one bitter, angry, or vindictive, very attractive. I am one who does not place much emphasis on material gain. I am not saying financial security is not something I want in my life, or that I would turn away from it if I attained it, nor would I give all my wealth away. However, if I were to be so lucky as to win a multi-million lottery, or if somehow I gathered up a fortune from working, then I would indeed us a portion of it to help others. I greatly admire Philip McGraw and his wife Robin McGraw. This man has garnered a great deal of wealth and is being a good steward of that wealth. He uses a portion to truly assist those in need and uses the power his postition of wealth and the doors that it and his career has opened for him to do good for as many as he can. He does not empty his coffers in doing good works, but he, and his good wife, do what they can to help. I do not believe in the wealthy givng away their money. If every wealthy individual gave their weatlh away, we would not have enriched the lives of the world, but only paupered those wealthy individuals. If we spread all the millions and billions the wealthy hold now to the entire world, the entire world would be pauper's. Philip McGraw is better known as Dr. Phil. Dr. Phil and his wife also think a lot like I do. While I do not agree with all he says, I do agree on most of what he says, and hold many of the same beliefs as they do.

The man I am marrying on November the sixth is a hard working individual who is finacially secure. However, I did not know of his finacial status until I had been in a committed relationship with him for nine months. It is not that he hid his status, it is just he does not live ostentatiouly, but rather below his means. When I met him I was attracted to his personality, and as our relationship grew, to who he was as an individual and how he conducted himself and his life. He was so amazed I never once asked him what he earned or what material wealth he had amassed. It never occurred to me to do so. What mattered to me was the man, what he possessed in his soul, not what he possessed materialistically. This was something he says is rare, and something inside me which he found extreamly attractive. He told me he had dated several woman, and when the dating had not progressed to a deeper level and then they discovered what he possessed materially, they were all over him. Those he had conversations with, the ones which never went past the initial online conversations, always asked him how much he earned and what he owned, before even wanting to get to know him.

How sad this is, but it is a fundamental fact of humanity. Most people really are in need of more than simple financial security. They want to be one of those with great wealth and power, with abundant prevlege and opportunities. They are not satisfied with simple security, but crave much more. Our society today has progressed to an even deeper level of avarice. We have such an abundance we become consumer's who are ever wishing for more.

When we place such emphassness on Things, we lose our ability to be content with what we have. We are always wanting more, bigger, better, of what we currently possess. Look at those who buy a television and when six months later a better one is on the market, they are no longer happy or content with the one they have, but wish for the newer model. Look at those who just bought a new house, and went to the model homes for ideas of how to decorate. When they come out of the models they are no longer happy with what they have as the models have better Stuff in them than they currently posses in their new home, such as tile in the bathrooms over vinyl, a double sink in the master bath over a single sink, a larger walk in closet, a three car garage over a two car garage, the list goes on and on. These are the folks who need to purchase Stuff beyond their current standard of living, who is always out on a limb finacially in keeping up "appearances" of having "more". This behavior keeps them back from acheiving true security.

So, while this is all terriably sad, it is a commentary on how our society is today. We live on plastic and beyond our means. We have to flash our wealth or "appearent" wealth to others. We have to show off, keep up with the Jone's, etc. and our youth are miserable with what they have and do illegal activities to gain material Stuff long before and education and hard work would acheive it for them. Our young girls are taught at a young age to look for a guy who has Stuff, who is secure, which has far reacher consequences' within our society. It is all terriably sad and it will lead to great unhappiness and discontent lifelong.

We need to teach our children to be happy with what they currently have, show them true poverty, and make them earn what they receive. Too many parents today just dole out money and stuff to their children, instead of providing a quality healthy relationship. These children do not appreciate what they are given as stuff easily attained has little value. That which is hard earned is greatly appreciated.

It is our responsibility to change how our children view society and what is of value. I am very glad you asked this question as it is an important issue and needs to be brought out into the open on how damaging this is. I like your questions, so please keep them coming. I wish you a great day today Maddy.

Answer 2

ok, properly it extremely is my opinion, each and every physique has a distinctive description on what turns them on. i like dark haired adult males, no longer long hair, no longer bald! i do no longer suggestions blondes, yet brunettes are greater useful, and additionally i like their hair gelled/spiked up, and highlights are good too! Any eye shade will do. I desire them to be taller than me, yet whilst their are not i might nonetheless like them. Tattoos.. i'm no longer overly prepared on them, yet one on the arm is okay, I hate adult males that are tattooed throughout. i do unlike limitless piercings the two, only one ear lobe on the main, in keeping with possibility eyebrow. I desire them tanned, yet any epidermis tone is effective. And sexiest physique area.. ought to be a sixpack! Oh and adult males might desire to have fairly beautiful eyes! properly i'm hoping this helps! xx

Answer 3

I find it tacky.