2006-10-28 13:12:40 · 31 answers · asked by jo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Happy Birthday....I've crammed too much into my life too young.
2006-10-28 14:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!
I'm going to be 28 next month, I am married but no children.
I thought I would have been married with kids by the time I was 22/23.
I met my hubby 5 years ago and thought we would have kids after a couple of years. We've been married for 3 years but still no interest in having children just yet.
I've found that my goals change from one year to the next!!! Can't wait until the day we do have children but theres so much I want to do first........
Hope you have a great day x
2006-10-28 13:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy birthday to you. I will be 44 next June. I thought by now I would have the 2.2 kids, the house, the car and the husband. I have the house, the car but no kids and husband. I have a good job, a supportive family, and the freedom to come and go as I like. I don't have to share the bed and listen to someone snore. LOL The advice I can give you now is live your life. Take your time. See everything, do everything and meet everyone you can. I'm just now being able to say I"M READY for the marriage and the 2.2 kids.
Enjoy!!!!!
2006-10-28 13:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by geminiidream63 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 33 and still unmarried and without children. I have done a lot of education but still want to do so much more with my life and would really love to have children and a husband but haven't gone out to look for one, so am at a panicking stage! - 25 is still young and you can do so much with your life yet and usually the best things that happen to us are when we least expect them so I am told.
I just wish that we could press a 'pause' button on our lives so that we can do anything we want to for about ten years and then when we have done that, press the 'play' button and hey! you are still only 25 or 33 and still have so much more you can do. This is how I wish life could be if anything because we never have enough time to acheive everything and why we should get rid of age itself as that way, you won't let numbers stand in the way of anything.
Just imagine, if you didn't have an age, you wouldn't have to plan for anything because you would feel immortal and do all of the things you don't because we always let our age determine what we should or shouldn't do. This is societies fault and as a woman I hate saying how old I am because I feel so damn old and 33 is quite young today. I remember leaving school like it was only yesterday and that was in 1989!. I did so much in my twenties though and di want children then, but boyfriends come and go and you end up focusing upon career goals and stuff and then suddenly, you wake up and you are my age.
It's horrid sometimes because I see married men and wives and children everywhere I go and think god! that should be me. It just hasn't happened and hopefully it will but don't have years ahead of me like I did when I was 25. But there is so much pressurre on women to be everything and this stops us from doing the things we want. But the way around this, is to do the things you really want to do and then you will be more happier inside and then this will attract a man who wants the same things as you do.
But, don't worry, it will happen to you as it does for so many and the more you enjoy life, the less worried you will be about it and it will happen because of that reason (that you will be happy) this is how men are attracted to women, because if they are happy and enjoying life, this brings them in flocks and one of them will want to be a parent themselves to a child with you for sure. Keep your options open.
2006-10-28 13:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23, married w/ a "surprise!" of a 21 month old daughter. I'm still in school- I should be done, but changing majors twice and then taking a semester off after having the baby has set me back. I'm still happy w/ my life- my husband has a good job, so I don't have to worry about working a full-time job- I'm a music major- trying to get a piano studio started, so I can concentrate on going to school, taking care of our daughter, and teaching my piano students. And, one thing I'd say to you- I love my family, but there are some days that I just don't want to be "grown up"- I think about some of my friends that don't have the responsibilities I have- they can go where ever they want when they want. Having a husband, baby, and home to take care of is a LOT of work- don't be in such a hurry. Enjoy your freedom while you have it!
2006-10-28 16:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday! My 25th birthday was depressing for me because I thought I would be married with kids too. I wasn't. I'm 36 now, married and have a 2 year old adopted daughter. I look back now and see several reasons why I wasn't married with kids. You'll understand later. And you'll have a ton more patience for children (and a spouse) in a few more years. Just love life and take care of "you". Nobody's going to do it for you. When you love yourself, someone else can then love you too. Sounds corny, but it's just true. :)
2006-10-28 16:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's my birthday too I hope you have a great 1 I've spent the day with family but the night alone even my housemates didnt know it was my birthday :-(
I too am not finished college I too have no kids or man but you know what It doesnt matter if its meant to be it will happen in its own time
But hey you are young and should not worry about what you have not got enjoy being young and getting to know yourself and getting comfortable with who you are have as much fun as you possibly can and just when you least expect it the right thing will come along, smile it's your birthday! Happy Birthday to you and me!
2006-10-28 13:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and still in college. I had some setbacks. I was a straight A student in school and thought by now I'd have a decent job and be starting my life. It'll happen though. Don't worry! People get married and have kids later these days.
2006-10-28 13:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 24 , never married nor have had kids and I want to keep it that way for at least 5 more years. I have too much life to live before being with a husband and children , There is no hurry. I'm having fun and I am happy..
2006-10-28 13:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday sometimes it takes a lifetime to achieve want we most want out of life & if it doesn`t come round well perhaps it wasn`t meant to be,hopefully within the next three weeks some of my goals will finally come through but I have had to work for them to get this far & if it doesn`t work out well I`ll live with it.
2006-10-28 23:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday. I am not there--I am reflection--looking back. I married at 36, had 1 child at 37 and one at 39. I regret none of it. I was older (old enough to be grandma), more mature, I felt like I had lived my youth and now could devote everything to my children (not everything but lots more than had I been younger) So don't dispare, your time will come. Good luck.
2006-10-28 13:33:27 · answer #11 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋