I have a 12 yr old son and he is flunking on all subjects?

Question

I dont want to lose him in life as a mother I want to help him what is my best opcions I know its not drugs because Ive looked and have found nothing he says his teachers dont like him that they pick on him but I dont know

Answer 1

Start taking away his priveliges till he gets better grades
ex. cell phone, tv, going out
He'll go back to normal then, tell him if he keeps flunking, all his friends will be in a grade higher when he gets held back, just tell him your looking out for him

Most likely he's just saying that as an excuse, go to a teacher parent conference, find out the problems

Answer 2

Having some what of the same experience, and yet coming from a family of all doctors besides my immediate family, parents, my dad took me places where everything was beautiful, such as relatives houses and showed me what they buy and where they go and cars they drive. He said that if you want to be able to do what they do and have the same life style, you have to read a lot of books and pass all your classes with A's and B's. It took some while to click, but after about a year, I began to change. Hit the principal and honor roll each in high school and now I attend a UC (University of California) and on my way to medical school. If this doesn't work out, he will eventually realize that life isn't easy and he'll get the idea to begin working. However, just guide him as much as you can. What your doing now is fine and I'm sure all will work out.

Answer 3

i too have a 12 year old son. Now you don't mention whether this flunking is a pattern or if it's something new. I know my son has always had straight A's without much effort and now that he is in middle school it's a different ballgame altogether. I have to stay on top of his work and try to get him to talk and be engaged with me. I try really hard to start talking about cool stuff with him first like some of his friends and movies or something and then i casually ask about school instead of just nagging him about school as soon as he walks in the door.

Also one thing I did with my 12 and 10 year old kids is we went for a drive through the city. I showed them some run down housing and then we went through some trailor parks and I told them to think about what it would be like to live there. Then we went to the richer neighborhoods and looked at the big huge houses with the ponds and the three car garages and the huge lots. I explained to them that if they want to live in the big houses they need to study now and go to college and get a career and they can have things like that. It really gave them a perspective that just telling them couldn't provide.

The more you hound and push your kids to do school work the more they rebel though. I really feel for your situation.

Answer 4

What you need to do is make an arrangement to meet with his teacher to see what the problem is.. Maybe he is not paying attention in class or his not bringing in his homework. A teacher is not going to fail a child if he is putting effort into his work..

The only way you will know for sure is by going to the school to find out. Do not take his word for it because a child will tell you anything. I am not saying not to trust your son but speak to his teacher first.. Good Luck, it is still early and he could make up for the classes that he failed in...

Answer 5

In order to succeed, your child might need different instruction, not the same things again that didn't work the first time. Parents and teachers can work together to help children succeed. By catching the problem early, there are more opportunities to help children before they have a sense of failure, and there are greater chances for success.
Discuss concerns with your child's teacher. Find out what work your child is expected to do, and what work your child finds difficult. Ask a lot of questions--how does he or she get along with classmates? Does he or she understand and remember to follow directions? Does he or she finish assignments on time? What changes has the teacher tried to help your child? Are there other ways to teach the same material? Are there other books and materials that might help your child learn? What are some activities that you can help with at home to help your child catch up? Ask the teacher for some ideas! And try to find a time to visit the classroom and watch your child at work.
Help your child with schoolwork at home. Ask your child about homework each day. Help him or he to find a quiet time and place to study. Check to see if your child can explain the assignment to you or read the directions. Make sure your child understands that you think schoolwork is important.
Make sure your child is ready for school each day! Be sure your child attends school on time every day, eats balanced meals, gets enough sleep and receives good medical care. Children need to be alert and healthy to succeed in school!

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Answer 6

my 11 year old is having trouble as well. hes in grade 6. you just have to try your best and help him when he needs it. if the teachers aren't helping him then you need to change classes with him or go to the school board. i had to do that once already this year with my son. see if there is any kids that are bullying him. i found out there were 3 that were picking on my son.

Answer 7

My nephew's (12 and 14)were getting bad grades, so my sister-in-law went to school with them for a whole day- to all their classes, sat with them at lunch, etc. She got to see how their teachers treated them and their classmates, how they presented the material (whether it was clear and organized or not...), what they were doing with their time, whether they took notes, etc. She now checks their school work every day and e-mails their teachers once a week to see if they've missed any school work or had late assignments. You just have to be the parent! (If you want to know if his teachers pick on him, ask his friends. They'll probably give you a simple honest yeah or I don't think so.)

Answer 8

I think it's part of being 12. My son is doing the same thing this year. When he says that teachers don't like him, I ask him to re-itterate the situation and then explain to him why they might have had the reaction they did, and that he needs to learn to see the situation from both sides.

Answer 9

hi -
im 13 and im in 8th grade
did he just start junior high ? when i started 7th grade i was failing most of my classes but i raised most of them up to b's by the end of the year. for me it was very hard at first because i had to change classes , all my teachers were mean , and the work was alot harder that elementary work. if he is still doing bad in 2 months then you might have a problem , i raised all my grades up to c's in 2 months.

Good Luck ~ Calvin Z.

Answer 10

switch schools - then if he says 'all my teachers hate me' again you know it not the case. say to him, i am going to put you in a new school and you'll have a whole new set of teachers to start a fresh with.
thing is - teachers usually dislike kids that misbehave in class and stop the teacher from doing their job which is to teach all the other kids that want to learn.
he could even be super artistic and frustrated ad bored by academics, if so put him in an art based school and nourish his skills that will in the end make him feel good about himself and he wont need to misbehave.