I am currently serving in the Middle East until January and I call my wife everyday about three times a shift. We have a four month old little girl. I have called my wife twice now to only get the voicemail. Normally I wouldn't be worried but her friend from highschool is down to see her and they messed around during highschool but never dated. She assures me she wouldn't cheat on me with him or anyone, but those are the only thoughts going through my head right now. I told her to e-mail me when she wanted me to call her and there has been no e-mail from her. Do you think I am too trusting or just think the worst?
2006-10-28 12:59:48 · 19 answers · asked by go_blue34 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have met this friend she is with and even welcomed him into our house and split a six pack with him. I trusted him and had no problem with him coming to see her, but now I wish I would have put a stop to it when I had the chance.
2006-10-28 13:19:16 · update #1
God bless you and keep you safe. Try not to jump to conclusions. There are plenty of reasons why she may not be able to e-mail or answer your call...a power outage, phone lines down, the baby could be ill. Give it time. You will probably hear from her tomorrow and find out then what happened. Marriage is based on trust. If you start accusing her, she will feel you don't trust her. She may also question your love for her. It is hard to be away from the one you love, but that doesn't mean she has forgotten you.
2006-10-28 16:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man... that is a hard situation, and I feel for you. Honestly I don't know your wife, so I can't say. I do know, though, that I would probably be a little concerned as well. That's not to say that she is doing anything behind your back... but we're all human and I'd probably react the same way you are. Unfortunately, you're over there and she's over here, and for a few months there's nothing you can do about that. You've done the right thing by telling her to let you know when she wants to communicate. The ball's in her court. Until you hear from her, seriously try to stay focused on your work. You don't need the added stress of worrying about what's going on at home... not only because your job is important, but because there's not much you can do. Make sure she knows you love her... and try as hard as you possibly can to think the best. It's all you can do. Good luck to you, man.
2006-10-28 13:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Paul T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a pattern that she has developed with you its understandable that you would be concernced, I would be too.
But at this point there is nothing you can do about it but wait until you DO hear from her and ask her whats going on. Her answer is all you will have to go on until you can get home and see for yourself, and trust me if she is messing around you will know it, you'll sense it, but don't go accusing her right off when you get home just use the wait and see method. Trust me all things done in the dark will come out in the light. Good Luck and stay safe over there.
2006-10-28 13:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by jupitor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's American, you should worry. Not all American women cheat, I'm just saying the overall culture of today here is easy gradification, and people are quick to dispose and move on when they can't take the pressure...in her case, the pressure of being alone for a while. Here, it's all about the next best thing, or the quick best thing for the time without thinking about the consequences. And then blaming someone else for their mistake.
2006-10-28 13:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of guys just think the worst. if you don't have those thoughts though, then you don't really show you care. :-) Maybe they went out exploring places and trying to make the best of the time they get to see each other again until however long it will be until they see each other again. I know you can have alot of fun and not realize what time it is, but I'm sure she will say she is sorry when she talks to you next. You know her best. Can you trust her or not? Hopefully if you have a daughter together it's a yes and she is just out having fun.
2006-10-28 13:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by innocentkitty214 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am so sorry for you, I do know how you are feeling. I was a way from my wife for 60 days, and I thought she was cheating, but I believed her. Come to find out she did nothing but lie to me. I can't tell you how much it hurts, I should have followed my gut instincts, but it was denial that led me to stay with her. i only wish I had left her the first time she cheated on me. but I forgave her and she promised to never do it again. then we wed, eight months later she did not come home (again). I moved out...
but missed her so much I moved back with her. only to find the lies and cheating were still happening. I now live in another town, and am struggling to make a new live. it hurts. but everyone tells me that it is possible to be happy again. good luck. And thank you for you service to this country. I am proud to be writing you. Good luck and may God be with you.
2006-10-28 13:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok as you know sometimes the cell phones are not that reialble they could have been out of range if she has not seen her friend in a while they could have decided to go somewhere like shopping or a movie or visiting people and where they went the cell did not work there, dont jump to conculsion just yet if she wanted her friend they would have been together in high school or she could have just some how broke her cell phone and needs to get it fix there could be alot of reason why she has not called you back
2006-10-28 13:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's is why people tell military men not to marry before they're overseas. I have been around military bases since I have family that has served. You will come across some pretty skanky wives. Woman going around fugging other military men while their husbands are serving. Should you be worried? Yes.
2006-10-28 13:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Nerds Rule! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it will make u worry about her since she is not picking up her calls or anything to contact you. Once u get the hold of her you better ask her where she has been doing. Better be a good explanation why not returning your call.
2006-10-28 13:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by ceci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get too upset,i used to work away from home for months at a time,,had simular thingsx happen,,she will allways have a logical reasonable explination for whats been going on,,,,,i never called over once a day,it shows mistrust and makes your mind wander too much,i know its hard,,ive been there,just trust her and calm yourself,im sure everythings ok,,,maybe she had to run to town or something,dont listen to all those peoiple on here who are sure shes cheating,,,cause if you start accusing her and she isnt,one day shell get ired of it and actually do it,,,walk lightly calm yourself and be careful how to approach things
2006-10-28 13:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋