Why do physically attractive people have better social skills?

Question

I think it is because people unconsciously don't like staring at an unattractive person.

Answer 1

Because they get more positive feedback from a very early age. I can't tell you how many times as a teacher I have witnessed "mature" adults in a room full of pre-school students say how pretty or good looking a particular child is- directly to them & in the full hearing of all the other children. While it is human nature to be drawn to beauty it is human weakness to place a higher value on the presence of those deemed most beautiful by the customs & norms of whatever culture they are in.
These children are inadvertently given more opportunties for a positive social response and increased learning opportunities for social interaction. They are also more easily accepted even by their young peers, who learn early on to value style over substance.
And that doesn't even begin to address the issue of the beautiful airheads/jocks who haven't bothered to aquire a sense of empathic social interaction, as it is easier to just skate by on good looks.
Brings to mind the phrase that while man judges based on outward appearances, only God sees into the heart of a person. Look for the heart in others, to see what type it is, and seek God with all your heart to be all that He has for you to to be in godly character & the things that are truly valuable.

Answer 2

Probably because there attractiveness gives them more opportunities for interaction. People tend to pay more attention to attractive people, and seek them out. Also physically attractive people are cut more slack than the unattractive, so even if they say or do the wrong thing the consequences are less. This tends to make them more confident, thus re-inforcing their positive social skills.

Answer 3

I don't think that's true at all. I have found plenty of highly attractive people to have disgusting, rude and vile personalities and social skills... as if they deserved things because they were better than the rest of the world. I have also found some of the most unattractive people to be extremely kind, sensitive and polite... as if they know that to make up for their looks, they need to supersede social expectations.

Answer 4

Not all attractive people have good social skills. And not all unattractive people lack them. Social skills are a learned behavior. I think you may be over generalizing a little bit here. And besides what is attractive to one is not to another. God bless

Answer 5

They are more confident in themselves.

Yes I do agree, that unfortunately in this world, unattractive people are not nice to look at. They are not given the same opportunities as attractive people. The funny thing is, is that when you get to know an unattractive person, you look past that. So bottom line is it is not the package but what is inside that package that counts. It takes many kinds of people to make this world - we are all beautiful inside.

Answer 6

This is only true sometimes - but when it is true it could be because attractive people don't have to try very hard to get others approval which makes them feel as if there is little they can do wrong. That is what gives them their confidence. But I have also known very attractive women who had almost no confidence because of their upbringing mostly.

But I have met many many people who are average looking who have no problems socially and some who do. It just depends on personality too.

Answer 7

I do not think it is a matter of social skills. I think people who are attractive are received and treated well. But it is a two-edged sword. Sometimes people assume that an attractive person is not very bright. Career wise, this can sometimes create barriers. Also sometimes people you are interested in will not approach you or take you seriously feeling you will be conceited or will not respond to them.

Answer 8

What kind of question is this? I have Aspergers and I've been told that I'm quite attractive. There are plenty of cute aspie boys as well. The syndrome has nothing to do with it. There are attractive and unattractive NT's, as well.

Answer 9

People usually react badly to defects.
Physically attractive people are not always the best looking if you look them close enough. What they have is self-confidence. They know how to do the best of what they have. You can be very attractive yourself if you find inside you what to reflect to the surface of yourself and then you can be attractive too, and develop your social skills.
We can be our worst enemies.

Answer 10

That's not true. I am attractive, but I'm very shy and have a hard time talking to others. I go to a college that has many pretty girls, yet most of them are about as social as a wall. They are very petty, talk like valley girls, and really have no clue how to socialize. I'm not sure where you got your information.