A bunch of people made fun of me becouse I hung out with the "popular" girls, and thought I dated 1 by 1 and dumped them. It ruined my rep.! And when I deveploped feelings for my best friend, no one took me seriosly. Expecially her, we didn't talk as much.She was scared to hug me or tell me she "loves me(as friends)" becouse she thought it felt un-confortable. She started avoiding me completely after that. I wanted to fix things so I still said "hi" and "nice new shirt" She came around and acted like it was the same but I could tell she still felt wierd. It seemed like she was looking for any reason to hate me. And I said "If you don't want to be friends than lets not be." She wrote me a note saying " Hey.. This year I want to stay out of trouble and be out of the drama. So leave me alone!". I did. I made new friends but she always says " look at his new possy" and giggles.Does she want to be friends still&thats why she wont let me move on?And shes making poeple hate me w/should I do?
2006-10-28 12:50:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok I didnt get it all in last time, see I really want to be her friend just not when shes acting like this, and yes we are in jr high. I think she might just be going through a faze(she started her period a few months ago) And I think if it get to out of hand then after she snaps out I still wont be able to fix it. see if I strike back then she wont go "What have I done?"Shell think im an *** hole. I almost want to forget her but everything reminds me of her and things weve done in the past
2006-10-28 12:51:49 · update #1
You need to forget this evil b itch...you are better off without her..she has changed..you dont need her in your life.
2006-10-28 13:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. Hold it. Exhale slowly. SERIOUSLY. Do this five times right now. I'm not kidding. humor me. Do it.
Ok.
Jr. High and High School are tough times. Most of us survive them but I gotta tell you, if I had the chance, I wouldn't want to go through with it again.
There is an important saying that will help you out a lot during this time:
"To thine ownself, be true".
Here's the thing. There is NO SUCH THING as a NO DRAMA life during this period of your life. If you get caught up in it, it will be crazy and you'll probably lose a lot of friends. If you completely ignore it, you'll probably lose a lot of friends. Do you notice the theme... you'll probably lose a lot of friends. And then you'll gain some back.
Everyone matures at a different rate. It just happens that way. But here's the thing. If you stay to true to what you believe in, whatever that is. If you live your life in a way that makes you feel good about what you're doing. If you are honest and, for instance, hung out with the "popular" girls because you really thought they were nice rather than trying to get seen... If you do that, you're gonna find a funny things happen.
First, you're going to find out there are other kids that do that too and you're going to find out that these friendships will last you all the way through school and probably throughout your life.
Second, you're going to find out that some people "Peak" earlier than others (This is really true about hight school) and so while some people seem like they have it all, 10 years later, they won't have changed and you will. I can't explain this one more than that... you'll experience so don't worry about it beyond the fact that just because someone is popular today doesn't mean it'll be that way tomorrow.
So... lighten up. Don't pursue your friend right now, let it go. In 3 months, 6 months a year, or never, it will come back around. You'll have a chance to talk about what was real. It's just not today. Let it go.
Also, my friend, one more piece of advise. Don't be in such a hurry to have girlfriends. Start by having real friends. People you have stuff in common with, who you can simply have fun with. I have two sons. Both were busy in school and were popular at different levels. We always talked about having good friends and not worrying about when a friend would become a girl friend because, it would just happen. They both found girlfriends later in high school and have kept these girlfriends. Slow down. Have a lot more fun with real friends and you will have a LOT less drama.
I hope this has helped.
Take Care,
TBG
2006-10-28 20:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by techbankguy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are so in the clique thing. Oh and its OK to say asshole. Listen and take my advice, this is coming from a college student. All that matters in life is your family, your dreams, and your heart. All that you describe is absolutely nothing when you put it in perspective to the rest of the world. You are wasting productive youth years playing a game. I know you are probably not a nerd, but seriously, you need to focus on you advancement through life and on the things you want to change in the world and enjoy the freeloading process of being a teenager at the same time, but save yourself from the girls. I know because I am one. I didn't graduate HS a year early and complete two years of college in one year because I spent time dealing with men. I did it because I knew my priorities. You need to re asses what is important.... Your "image" or your "future" In the end, all this crap you are dealing with means absolutely nothing. Stop worrying about it and go to school with your head held high and your heart where it should be.... you decide where that is.
2006-10-28 20:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by hopeisathingwithfeathers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's an @ss. If she liked you then she wouldn't mind of what people are saying and she wouldn't make people hate you. Other then that forget her. It's her loss and later she will regret it for acting like an immature b.i.t.c.h with you. Sorry if I offended you in anyway by saying this about her, but hey it's the truth. Just ignore her and move on. Next time she says, "look at his new possy" Just say," Yeah and so what? At least I have real friends."
Anyways peace out!
2006-10-28 20:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by what_it_do? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey why do u hurt ur bestfriend only. See, surely she didn't like ur behaviour and the other thing u didn't even said her sorry. What if she hangs out with some popular boys and don't even talk to u. i think u shud keep urself on her place and u need to apologize. Thats only if u really wants to be her bf.
She thinks that u have changed. try to make her remember some memories oh well just say a sorry
2006-10-28 19:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you were good friends before she will come round. If you weren't then you need to prove that you are nicer, better person now. Don't try any stupid ideas thinking that you might win her back, just be nice to other people and she will hear about it soon enough and want to be your friend agin, then you just take it from there. If that doesn't work if you ever get her she will be one of those people who are hard to hold on to.
good luck xx
2006-10-29 09:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by little_teapot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting a feeling that she's making fun of you for a reason, because she doesn't want to be friends with you.
Don't worry about her, you'll move on. Give her some time, when she's ready to be friends with you again she'll let you know.
Slowly build up the relationship, starting with being friends.
2006-10-28 19:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by punjabi007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well. im sorry about your problem. and i have gone through the same thing except with my guy friend...
well i would say that she doesnt "like" you anymore...but it could also mean that she really likes you but she is too scared to move forward in a boy/girl friend relatoinship. and by turning you away she knows that she can't be hurt by you, if she doenst accept you....
so the whole thing with the "look at his new possey" i cant really explain.
so i dont really have any advice for you, i just wanna let you know that even though you apparently really like her that you can do better, cuz either she doenst like you or likes you way to mcuh.
and i know that doesnt make any sense, but that is girls for you.
PS
im a girl, i would know.
2006-10-28 20:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by ?Victoria? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be nice but move on. She obviously would prefer to be friends with you but she's too scared or confused. Have fun with your new friends and if she ever comes around, then great, if not, then be cool and let it go. You've got a fresh start with your new friends. Enjoy it.
2006-10-28 19:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by kim b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh God, I didn't understand teenage angst the first time round, and I'm really none the wiser now.
My advice is to forget all about them. The minute you're not interested, the girls will wonder why and come flocking. Ignoring also works, they soon get bored of it.
2006-10-28 19:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to sound like a cliche adult, but she will come around eventually and realize that you guys were great friends. Or it might not happen sometimes friends just grow apart. It happened with me and one of my best friends from elementary school. When we got to jr. high I acted like a total biatch to her. And to this day I am so sorry I did. Kids are dumb sometimes.
2006-10-28 19:54:47 · answer #11 · answered by shortstf00 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋