I'm separated from my wife of 18 years. Just after our separation I slept with her sister, a bit latter with the oldest of her sister's girls, she's 19, then 3 days later the younger of my wife's sisters girls, age 18. Now, my wife wants to reconcile, should I tell her?
2006-10-28 12:49:12 · 31 answers · asked by diablo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you are full of $hit.
(funny though)
2006-10-28 13:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is getting even.. give your head a shake... Are the women in that family easy or just stupid... why on earth would they do such a thing to a sister or aunt.???????.....
I find all of the behaviour appalling...
You had better tell your wife before someone else does, because they will....maybe even her lovely sister!!!!!!!!!!!
I can't believe this.
what did you hope to gain by tearing this family apart and disrespecting your wife and all her family????
You have now created a really big problem, this will devastate her.. I hope you do not reconcile, because she deserves much better...
2006-10-28 19:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is deep, so you slept with your sister in law and your nieces? You said that you were married for 18 years and the nieces you slept with were 18 and 19.
I hope you weren't around them while they were growing up, like a real uncle? This is gross. I don't think your wife is going to like this when she finds out, and she is bound to find out if not now then later. And when she does there are going to be lots of hurt feeling, anger and animosity. There is going to be hell to pay.
How are you going to feel at family functions now that you have tapped the whole entire family? Whooo, this is deep!
2006-10-28 20:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there...
Even though it's been long long time ago, and separated for 18 years, my advice is to be clear and honest with her about it from the beginning. If it wasn't some one in the family, then it's your own private business, but since it her sisters, she needs to know. She might accept it or not, she might even say that she knew about it. Take the chance.
2006-10-28 19:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Rached N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were her, I wouldn't. First off, QUIT THINKING OF YOURSELF, and YOUR NEEDS!!!! That's probably the big reason that your seperated. Because she got tired of you thinking of yourself, and not of her, her feelins and her needs.
Second, your sick for sleeping with her sister, then your nieces. You make me sick. You don't deserve such a good woman in your wife if you treat her like that, cheating on her. YES by you having sex with others even when seperated is cheating. I don't endorse divorce unless in extreme circumstances, but I don't think she will reconsile if you tell her about what you did. Sleeping with your wife's sister and her daughters will hurt your wife, especially if she's close with her sister.
Grow up.
2006-10-28 20:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mess you've made! If you tell her, you will hurt those three women. You would need to get their OK to tell her or you will cause a split for her. Do you love her? If so, then get back with her and make up to her for the ways you have hurt her. Don't hurt her futher by telling her and making her lose important relationships in her life.
And I am a big fan of telling the truth. But in your case, telling the truth might hurt so many people it isn't worth it. You need to carry your burden and forgive yourself. The loving thing to do is to keep it to yourself and never do those "getting even" kinds of things again.
2006-10-28 19:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Maia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if you want to reconcile.....i dunno...this will definately put the "wierd" factor into the relationship dynamics with her family...
looks like you've slept with every female member of her immediate family....are you sure you want reconcilliation? if you tell your wife bout these peole.then the sister will know...and the daughters will know... be prepared for the worst
2006-10-28 19:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think in your gut? Would you want to after what has been done? If she does not know then maybe you just ought to leave it alone and just be friends with her. She might just know or have found out and wants a second chance to yes, get even. LL.
2006-10-28 19:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is picking on you, what i want to know is what is wrong with your wifes family? i think you most definitely should tell her and then move out of the trailer park!
2006-10-28 19:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by lepeka_w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you should tell her so she can kick ur A** like you deserve.... if you loved her you wouldnt do something that would hurt her that much..... honestly if i was her i'd put a hit out on you.... so my advice is if you do tell her watch ur back, cuz hopefully you'll get whats coming to you
2006-10-28 19:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by becky89_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..omg this is like jerry springer...so u slept with her sister and then that sisters daughter then her youngest sister? did i get that right? thats disgusting....ur disgusting
2006-10-28 19:53:01 · answer #11 · answered by bonna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋