2006-10-28 12:45:28 · 13 answers · asked by wab 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be supportive,listen, and if you can seek help!
2006-10-28 12:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by princessbuttercup59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sweet of you to care enough to ask. I am the one in my marriage with depression. The most important thing I would like is compassion. For him to listen when I'm hurting and to realize sometimes, I just can't make the bed, do the dishes or whatever.
That being said, the most important thing you can do for yourself is make sure you aren't around the deepressed person all the time. Get out, have fun and laugh. Living with a depressed person can suck the life out of you.
2006-10-28 13:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it was really hard on me when my husband was depressed cuz it affected everything from work, social activities, and of course our sex life. And really your probably not the person they want to talk to no matter how much you tell them you'll be there when they want to talk. If it's really bad, then they probably need help from a psychiatrist. We went to one, and it was great. We went seperate for a while. It really helped to talk to someone that knows nothing about you and get their view of it. Anyways, I know I didn't help much but there's one option. Good Luck! I'm hear if you need to talk! I've been thru alot.
2006-10-28 12:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by phucked_up 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patients is the key. that is the one thing that i have needed as i have struggled with depression. my husband will sometimes try to "fix" what is wrong with me. but until i am truly able to take a look at myself and work on me there is not a whole lot that my husband can do. be there and when things get hard love harder.
2006-10-28 12:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kelli N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got chronic depression. the best thing you can do for yourself and your partner is educate yourself about depression, and find an outlet of support for yourself. depression is an absolutely devastating illness. you will never be able to 'fix' or 'cure' your partner. your partner will push you away and hurt you repeatedly, but please know its unintentional. i never want to hurt my loved ones, but i'm often in so much pain when i'm depressed that i'm unable to see how i'm affect people around me. please look after yourself. it's the best thing you can do for both you and your partner.
2006-10-28 12:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by ally 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eventually I left, rather than live with the rage and the misery.
Since then he has recovered and has a new life with a new wife.
I wish he could have solved his problem while we were together.
I was as supportive as I could be, but I could not fix his problem.
After years of living with someone whose behaviour was just not acceptable, I decided that my life was worth more than that and I moved on. I'm not responsible for saving anyone's life. I'm not sacrificing my life for someone else's. I'm not killing myself to save someone else.
For me, leaving was the best decision. It made him realise that he couldn't go on like that, and he pulled himself out of the hole and got on with his life.
2006-10-28 19:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try To Let him be he can go to this site www.kabbalahcentre.com it explains why we get depressed sometimes , just be there for him by being get him tea :) God Bless!
2006-10-28 12:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage your partner to seek medical help,be supportive and understanding.Depression is an illness.
2006-10-28 12:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by blushlilac 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to a doctor he should be able to prescribe some depression medicine
2006-10-28 13:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a sounding board and let him/her you are there for conversation or whatever support is needed.
2006-10-28 12:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋