do you think people take their marriage vows seriously enough in 2006?

Answer 1

It depends on the reason why someone gets married,how old they are,what they have been through in life and with each other.How long they have known each other and whether they truly love each other.I know I will be getting married next year and we have been through a lot,have and had to be seperated for many months at a time and we will take our vows VERY seriously.We love each other very much and dont feel complete without the other.I will not only say them vown I will mean them from the bottom of my heart and have alreday proffed that to my Fiance numerous times when things went as downhill as they could.And I know he will mean his too because he loves me just as much as I love him.But in General,no I don't think ppl know what a marriage,a commitment like that means.Ppl get married to quick and for the wrong reasons........You should never marry the person you can live with,but the one you can't live without.

Answer 2

I agree with most people here and beleive that a lot of people divorce today because religion has come to disintegrate in a fairly atheist society that we live in.

We are are not feared into staying in marriages that do not work as we were in the past when people really beleived that god would punish those who broke their marriage vows or the reaction from friends and neighbours when we lived communally (divorce used to be frowned upon). It has only been within the last two decades that divorce has become as widespread as it has and so is still a novelty in some ways and many people don't always do it lightly just because of how popular it has been made.

Celebrities and superstars have made it to look popular too because in hollywood for example, it has brought so much acceptance to the rest of the western world, that think there is some element of glamour attached to divorce when say, jennifer aniston divorced brad pitt. It empowers women to feel that they can do it too and because it is made acceptable by someone famous. We are influenced by the media and film-dom and look to popular stars and emulate them so that we feel good about ourselves and divorce has been made popular more so, by many famous people (this is a fact).

But also, we are now more enlightened as people and see that marriage contracts are not binding just because they are legally bound or that god has anything to do with it. Rules are there to be broken and for many, these contracts do nothing to keep people together who do not want to be together. Society pressures have done a lot of damage to marriages as they have liberated people, and so we have our freedom which is fantastic, but this also brings with it, far more instability and chaos because as people, we are inately a sociable people and have strong needs to belong and be conected (this is why even ancient man never left his first wife because his belonging and connectedness is what kept him by her side, not god or contracts) and even today, is why many men do not leave their wives even though they can divorce whenever they want to. Men as women, are by nature, a sociable creature and strive to be connected to another.

The advantages of divorce however is that people can move out of violent or abusive relationships and this is where I agree with divorce. I think people do take their marriage vows only seriously when they are both committed to wanting a marriage to work, once that working together stops, that is when those vows become vulnerable to being broken and people won't work at their marriage if it is all too easy to get divorced anyway. But there is still a staggering number of men who will not divorce their wives because their worst fear of all is loss of that connectedness and belonging that means more to him than life itself.

Answer 3

It's never been about the vows. It's always been about the commitment. Certainly there is a lot of divorce but in the past there was a lot of serious unhappiness. I've been married. 3 times - once for 15 years (very bad marriage), once for 6 mos. (didn't know what I was doing) and now for 20 really great, happy, committed years. We know that in a way we recommit every day.

Answer 4

As opposed to what? 2005?

I think many people have great INTENTIONS of taking marriage vows seriously.

HOWEVER, in this day in age, it's very simple to just give up when the tough gets going, and get a divorce. Divorce is more socially acceptable now.

I think many people who DID stay back together in "the day" may not have been completely faithful to one another. They stayed together because they had to.

Answer 5

When surveys show that actual marriages that are together fell below the 50% mark of all relationships, Id say no. In other words a marriage has a higher chance of ending in a divorce than actually surviving todays world. And I bet its also easier and cheaper to get a divorce then to get married than ever before too

Answer 6

NO... Vows are to Love, Honor and Respect.
They love, only in the good times.
They don't honor, because they don't respect.
A couple that takes there vows serious, is a couple that work through the hard tough times.
Even if someone slips off, they find their way back, it may be tough to regain that trust, but they don't give up.
A wife is the reflection of her husband, so whatever she does reflects on him, whether good or bad.

Answer 7

I did and still do and always will. Married for life. Taken my vows a few years ago. Although the norm today seems somewhat different in general. Too many people shouldn't be together, let alone married.

Answer 8

I don't think so. Society itself has become so focused on self gratification that many people don't think about anyone but themselves. Those few people who still value commitment and actually care for their significant other always get hurt. After a while we learn to be like everyone else. Selfish & cruel.I hope I find someone to help me be the loving caring person I was before I met my ex husband.

Answer 9

I think most people are worried about being left on the shelve. Race up the alter and then realise the person they married was a mistake, they don't know their annoying habits... To many people rush into marriage today and that's why we have far too many divorces!!

Answer 10

Well, I have taken mine seriously every year, I dont see why 2006 should be any different.