You take your boyfriend out for a family meal and he disappears for half an hour. The next evening he tells you he asked the barmaid for her phone number, he got it and it wasnt hard. After the arguement he says he was only joking, he really didnt ask for any phone number, it was to find out what your reaction would be? Do you believe him? Is he lying? Did he really do it? Do you dump him and walk out in disgust? What would you do? How would you react?
2006-10-28 12:26:28 · 34 answers · asked by nikxnakx2 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
A half an hour is a long time to be gone, so the question is where was he during that time and what was he doing? I suspect he might have been chatting up the barmaid and even had gotten her phone number as he had said. He might have figured he could have told you about it, then told you he was only joking and thought you would believe him.
The question is what do you believe, and do you want someone who is going to be playing those kind of head games with you? If they are playing those kinds of games now what is it going to be like later on, and do you know if you can ever trust anything they say?
Back to the half hour that he was gone. Where did he say he was for the half hour after he said he was only joking? If he said he was in the restroom that's an awful long time to be in there.
2006-10-28 12:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by JSalakar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what he was doing, disappearing for a half-hour during a family meal was rude. Then you have his "excuse": if true, he's either two-timing you or playing games with some poor barmaid; if false, he's still lying to you, either to "test" you or to hide what he was REALLY doing for that half-hour. Take a good look at this guy. Can't you do better?
2006-10-28 12:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd assume he was telling the truth about getting her phone number and dump him. But then, I've been burned before and don't necessarily react in the most rational ways!
Does sound like he gets off on playing mind games though, I'd be very wary if you don't decide to dump him.
2006-10-28 12:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by lauriekins 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a wazzock DUMP him now do it the most ignorant way you can by text how could he disappear from afamily gathering and humiliate you for half an hour??? and then had the nerve to come back!!!
Get rid of this imbecile he is a selfish dirtbag
you are worth way more respect and he deserves none from you now
2006-10-28 13:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a bit of a joker, a person like this will always have you guessing, you will never know if he's joking of being serious, be prepared for a long and turbulous roller coaster ride...i doubt if he did ask for the barmaids phone number, he just enjoys winding people up...If i thought i could handle him and join him in his mind games i'd stick with him..if not i'd show im the door..
2006-10-28 12:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by Susie2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the 1970s, my date disappeared at a rock concert when he left to get me a soda! Being an idiot, I drove around and around the Cap Centre afterwards, to try to find him. He jokingly told me that next day he met a girl, then he told me no, he .... gee - i can't even remember the lame excuse. Anyway, friends of his finally told me he did met another girl and leave with her.
I think the excuses, jokes, reasons are unimportant. The bottom line is your bf, like mine, left when he shouldn't have. You'll make better decisions by focusing on behavior and deciding whether the behavior is up to your standards.
2006-10-28 12:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah dump him! oh ok it depends on a few factors first, like how lolg you have been involved and how you feel about him and ofcourse how he treats you when there's no one but u and hima and also infront of friends and family.
it seems to me that ur boyf is very insecure and immature maybe as he's either really got an issue in his head or whether he is infact just playing with your emotions so whatever you decide to do,... just take care and know whats what.
2006-10-28 17:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by madgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN dont Walk to the nearest exit. If you put up with this, next thing you know, you'll be living in a trailer park, 4 kids, eating Salsbury steak TV dinners and watching Jerry Springer re-runs.
2006-10-28 12:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Logicnreason 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A guy here...
Your boyfriend has all the basics in place for being an abusive, controlling a&&hole jerk. It's one thing to flirt and play around (bad enough) but he made a point of terrorizing you with his activities. He did it in front of you and your parents.
So, how would I react? I'd break up with him. Bonus points if you go to counseling to find out why you were attracted to him in the first place, and (more importantly) why he was attracted to you.
2006-10-28 12:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by geek49203 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is the only time he does some thing like this forget about it.
But if he does this often, forget about him. If he is looking for some one else you don't need him.
It's one thing to be friendly but not to the point of getting a phone number.
2006-10-28 12:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by Floyd B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋