She has no idea how I feel. But I actually look forward to going to the doctor! She's not the model type. I just dont know what it is about her. Maybe I'm having a midlife crisis. I know she sees me as a patient and she sees men and women all day long BUT
2006-10-28 12:21:21 · 17 answers · asked by Paul V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like she is just a fantasy..buy your wife a nurse's uniform and "play dress up" see if that cures your aches and pains..lol
2006-10-28 12:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're honest with yourself, you'll realize that this didn't happen suddenly. You're unhappy, disillusioned, dissatisfied about something and this woman listened when you needed to be heard. You may think that you've been talking to your wife but I suspect that since you can't identify this "unease," you haven't been able to articulate it.
If your wife is like 80% of the women out there, she wants to hear your problems and share your pain. What she can't do is heal what's broken inside.
It takes a strong man to look within. A midlife crisis is nothing more than looking at your situation as a problem rather than an opportunity.
P.S. Do a search for "male midlife crisis." There are tremendous resources (forums, blogs and such) online. Much has been written about this phenomenon.
2006-10-30 00:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by nicibee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....guess she rubbed your prostate gland the right way huh LOL Just kidding. It could be a midlife crisis....but you must remember no matter what....you are married and have a loving wife at home *S* Lets face it both men and women at some time in there life look at someone and think....gezz I wonder what life would be like with him / her. The big difference is how you handle it...me I just think...na it couldn't be any better than what I have at home now *S*
If you are really fantasizing about her that much...I would suggest you get another Doc...some Old fart....with Sausages for fingers LOL
Remember you have a loving caring wife at home
Best of luck...and by the way...the crisis doesn't last tooo long.
2006-10-28 12:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you have a crush on your "doctor". There is no age to stop having crushes, if that were so, the movie industry would be in trouble because actors/actesses bank the $ on your ticket buying because you remember your favorite actress in some hot role when she was younger and vice versa for the women.
Find yourself a new doctor-no explanation needed to wife or doctor. And I dont believe in "midlife crisis" there is temptation all through your lifetime, you just have to know how to deal with it. Good luck to you-get a male doc this time.
2006-10-28 12:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal...she's in a position of power and listens to you. Has happened to me in the past (married 18 years) and quite confused me as I do love my husband and don't wish to destroy my marriage.
I would suggest changing doctors or telling your wife.
If those aren't options (weren't for me) I found that distancing myself from the person helped tremendously as well as every time I thought about the person I would force myself to think of something else. In the end, it's NOT worth the pain you will cause.
2006-10-28 12:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, your wife of 20 years is going to roast you like a hunk of pork.
Yeah, your just having an infatuation.
Idea, do to your wife what you want to do w/the doctor.
I hope your going to be okay w/this as it would be so embarrassing to say something to the doctor and she just busts up laughing.
Best of luck.
2006-10-28 12:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably going through a mid-life crisis and that is very serious and heavy emotions. Just give it some time and don't act on any wrong urges and they will pass over.
2006-10-28 12:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but your married and going through a mid-life crisis! plain and simple don't be stupid and ruin 20 years of marriage
it is okay to fantasize and have desires don't act on them think about something to spice up life with your WIFE
bad boy! tell your wife what your thoughts are --let her slap some sense into you :) or pretend to be your doctor -- I'd check your temperature if i were your wife :)
be smart
2006-10-28 12:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of a Mini counts as a activities motor vehicle..... Does that propose I must be jealous? i attempted to get my husband to discover a girl buddy as the thank you to act out his midlife disaster. we can't have the money for a activities motor vehicle and that i do no longer decide for him killing himself on a motorbike. It appeared like the in basic terms top option. EDIT: I ought to show, he would not decide for it.
2016-10-03 01:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to burst your bubble, but your are a patient. She is going to be kind, because she is a caring, health provider...You are reading more into it, than you should. FLorence Nightingale Syndrome........Your getting paid some attention, and are mistaking it as if she thinks about you at night...when she probably won't remember your name.......Your loins are needing to go somewhere, that you should put that much energy with the one your with, the one you said "I Do" to...You can't have your cake and eat it too...
2006-10-28 12:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
but you belong to someone else. But you can look and day dream all you want as long as you don't touch and tell that whats get you in to trouble with your spouse. Or think about this is the person someone you want to lust or to make a family with and take home to the parents.
2006-10-28 12:29:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋