his porn addiction. Yesterday morning the radio came on (a Christian station) & the host was interviewing 2 women whose husbands were porn addicts! After the women recounted their stories (both divorced), the show mentioned books and a website to help. This can't be a coincidence. God is trying to tell me something. But what is it? What would you think?
2006-10-28 12:20:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 34. He's 45.
He isn't "able" to have sex. And pls understand, as a Christian, I believe porn is wrong. Hubby said he did too. So advice to "watch it too" isn't helpful.
2006-10-28 12:41:53 · update #1
Let me clarify..He is unable to have sex. He was not fulfilling HIS obligations but instead getting his fulfillment from the porn.
As I understand it, porn addiction often causes a loss of interest in sex - for whatever reason, I don't know.
2006-10-28 12:46:28 · update #2
8 years without sex,tell you clear there is a problem there.Even you do not need thinking about it,it is clear.Men like porn,because that cause them to be on.But when they have addiction,they never get really on,they start to get off.It is like if you eat too much the same food,after you will not want to eat that food anymore.
2006-10-28 13:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Christian, you know theres a spirit behind porn. thats why it is so addiciting. Theres lust in his heart, Jesus calls lust the same as commiting adultry. He's into porn alright and probably masturbating. At the age of 45 his libido is declining every year, this means his refactory period also takes longer. So this is the reason there has been a sexless marriage. If you want to save your marriage, hes going to have to agree to pastoral counseling. and then his source of porn is going to have to go. That could mean getting rid of the computer and dvd players. thats if he's serious about your relationship. Other than that your probably just gonna have to pray and put into Gods hands.
Have you talked to your pastor about this? Most spirit filled church pastors will work with him to repent.(if he;s TRYING) if he's not repenting they'll kick him out. Because sexual sin spreads among people, and as a pastor it is their responsibility to protect the congragation. fromt his type of behavior. or any other behavior that causes dissension among the people.
2006-10-28 20:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by cruizer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very common for men to enjoy looking at porn. It does not mean that they don't love you. You mentioned no sex in 8 years but you didn't give your age. Maybe your husband has a problem with being able to have sex.
2006-10-28 19:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to answer this question but instead request clarification. Your husband has a porn addiction. I get that. But what I don't get is that if he has a porn addiction wouldn't that make him one of the horniest men around instead of not having sex in 8 years? Are you sure that this problem is his? Don't get me wrong, a porn addiction is terrible. Almost as terrible as a wife withholding her physical affection to get someone to change.
2006-10-28 19:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the sex time frame!! It all depends on if you have been praying for him. He has to know that he is doing wrong, and when he notices that, he has to ask god to help as well. For him to stop, you have to let God deal with the problem. Just make sure that both of you are praying about it. Now if all this has been done, maybe there is something deeper to this!!! Good Luck!!
2006-10-28 19:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sex in 8 years? Has he been looking at Porn that long, or is there some other problem? You cant blame him for looking at it if you haven't been making love to him. Not making any excuses for him. Maybe you need to look at yourself too. A marriage is based on two people, not one. So, maybe consider marriage counseling.
2006-10-28 19:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think God is saying that you need to be more careful when selecting your life long mate.
I'd never heard that porn reduces interest in sex. That sounds wierd, but then, I've only had brief ventures into it, and it had the opposite effect on me.
2006-10-31 11:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sifu Shaun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe God wants you to stop putting yourself down. Your husband is in the wrong and Jesus backs that up..
2006-10-28 19:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by wv_country_princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that due to your own situation, your awareness of the talk show topics has changed. It's neither a coincidence nore a sign.
2006-10-28 19:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations, you have joined the thousands of sexually repressed lonely bitter women who post on here. I foresee a long lonely sex free future and loadsof Chips and Cookies and Sweets...oh! and Church Meetings......
2006-10-28 19:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋