My girlfriend has just runaway from home and i dnt no wat 2 do. Shes only 16 and she lives 2 hours away from me. Do i tell her to go back home or come to me or wat? Please help
2006-10-28 12:19:03 · 30 answers · asked by England4eva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She has runaway coz she cnt stand living at home nemore and i dont know her parents
2006-10-28 12:27:02 · update #1
im 16 aswell
2006-10-28 12:37:50 · update #2
Tell her to come to your house and then call her parents and tell them she is safe and with you.
2006-10-28 12:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has runaway for a reason and children do not generally run away from home unless there is something terribly wrong at home and so sending her back is not the right thing to do. By all means, let your parents tell her parents that you know where she is, but she cannot be forced back home if she doesn't want to?
She may be being abused at home and/or very unhappy there for other reasons and this is why it is not good to try and force her back into something that may be dangerous for her to go back to.
Tell your parents what has happened and see if you can get her to talk to them or to someone who is an adult she would feel okay talking to, but if she is in a safe place right now and in no immediate danger, this is okay but only for now. I think that if your parents agreed, she could perhaps stay with you but to inform social services that she has run away and they will get to the bottom of why she has and help her to look for a suitable and safe place she can live if going home isn't an option.
2006-10-28 20:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the real reason she ran away. If there is abuse, she has to go and file a report with the police, then she can stay with a responsible adult other than her parents. If it's not an abuse type situation, I think she needs to go back home. I think 16 is not old enough to be out on your own, her parents are legally responsible for her and by law she would have to be under their care. If there are problems at home then she needs to seek out help with a counselor or psychologist or a religious leader like her pastor.
You should be a mature voice to her to help her resolve these problems, if not you could end up making the situation worse for her and possibly your relationship.
2006-10-28 19:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by heart2dance2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wont go back home then by all means get her to come to your house for a few days while you guys sort out her next move. That way youll know where she is and its probably a hell of alot safer than the streets. Once at your house get her to calm down and by all means even if secretly let her parents know where she is and that she is there sorting out her life. This will helpkeep you out of any legal trouble too. Just tell them youre going to keep her there and convince her to eventually return home, and that youll keepthem informed but no one tells her of this arrangement. Good luck
2006-10-28 19:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to know is fairly definite. You need to reel her in. She needs to be off the streets RIGHT THIS VERY MINUTE. Then you can figure out whom you wish to notify and how you wish to proceed from there. The bottom line for all of us in this lieftime is a feeling of personal safety and that includes your girlfriend. Her personal safety is job one right now. You can talk with her, and the two of you can both calm down, and then tell your parents, or her parents, or the man in the moon, but for heaven's sake, get her off the streets, and back with human beings who are kind toward her and do it as soon as you possibly can, right now, if possible. Thank you.
2006-10-28 20:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go home, her parents/parent will be glad you told her to do so. Home is the best place for a 16 year old!
2006-10-28 19:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means try to convince her to go back home.considering her age and yours.if shes found with you by authorities and or her parents.it may be over your relationship before it really begins to blossom.it would be of no benefit or healhy in the long run.if her parents choose to press charges even though nothing physical may have happened between the two of you.plz think before reacting on the situation any further.
2006-10-28 19:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by darleneb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to come to you so at least you know she's safe. Go and meet her if you can. Once she's safe then call her family to let them know. Once everything is a bit calmer you can start trying to get everyone to talk to each and find a solution to the whole thing but the most important thing is to make sure sheis safe first.
2006-10-28 19:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Psycho Frag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her she must return back to her home. She is only 16 and that is what is so frightening. Or have her go to a shelter until she is able to contact someone at home.
2006-10-28 19:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends why she has runaway. tell her to go somewhere she feels safe either to you or a relative if she feels unable to go home. not sure what age you are but if living with parents suggest you discuss with them
2006-10-28 19:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by enamouredphoenix 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know where she is? If you know where she is let her family know and see what they decide. It might be better that she sleeps over for a night or two to let everyone have a breather and reflect why the situation is so bad that's she has ran away.
2006-10-28 19:22:16 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋