Hi, I need some informaton on what to do..I am 16 my boyfriend just turned 15 and I am pregnant?

Question

Our parents do not know yet we need to tell them but don't know how. can someone help us? Alex and Jonathan

Answer 1

just tell them it will be hard but what i would do is tell them in a public place so then they cant shout at you

Answer 2

Breaking the News to Your Parents

Perhaps one of the hardest parts of getting pregnant as a teen is telling your parents (and you will have to tell them at some point). Speak with the father of your child to see if he is willing to be there with you when you tell your parents. Be willing to do the same for him when he tells his parents. If you think it will be easier, you might want to tell one parent first and then let them tell the other or be there with you when you break the news.

You could also write your parents a letter. Tell them you really want and need their support right now. Obviously, you don't want your parents to freak out, but understand that they probably will. Give them a chance to absorb the news and then talk with them calmly. Explain what happened, whether you made the mistake of not using birth control or you used birth control but it didn't work. If you've made a choice about your pregnancy, tell them about your decision and explain how you came to that conclusion. Listen to any objections that they might have. They might raise a point that you hadn't thought of.

If you have decided to become a parent, your parents will probably be very concerned since you are still a child yourself (at least to them). They do have a right to be concerned. It is well known that teen mothers are at a significant disadvantage in society compared with women who become mothers later in life.

Babies born to teen mothers tend to have a lower birth weight, have a higher risk of suffering from abuse or neglect and tend to perform poorly in school. Only a small number of teen mothers are likely to complete high school and even fewer will go on to higher education. Teen mothers are also more likely to end up on welfare.

But just because these statistics exist, doesn't mean you have to become part of it. There are teen mothers who have gone on to success, through hard work, determination, and a strong support system. And it's not only your parents who can offer you support. Other family members might be able to help you out along with some of your friends.

Also, check out what your community has to offer. There may be special organizations or services designed to help out teen mothers. Check to see if any high schools near you offer daycare services that would allow you to go to school and have your baby nearby. You could also check to see if there are any schools that are specifically geared towards teen mothers.

Being pregnant when you are a teenager can be very scary. Don't be afraid to ask for help whether it is from your parents, your friends, your partner, or from a community organization. Remember, there's a reason for the saying "It takes a village to raise a child."

Helpful Phone Resources
In the United States:
Planned Parenthood: 1-800-230-PLAN to find the nearest clinic
National Adoption Information Clearinghouse: 1-888-251-0075
Independent Adoption Center: 1-800-877-6736
NARAL Pro-Choice America: www.naral.org for detailed information about state laws regarding abortion
Children's Aid Society: www.childrensaidsociety.org or call [phone] for more information about adoption and foster care options

In Canada:
Planned Parenthood: www.ppfc.ca to find the nearest Planned Parenthood chapter
Adoption Council of Canada: 1-888-542-3678

International:
International Planned Parenthood Federation: www.ippf.org lists its entire affiliated offices worldwide, on every continent

Answer 3

Pregnant at 15 is not healthy for you and for the baby. Your body is not fully developed yet so chances are you get LOTS of complications during this pregnancy, therefore the best thing to do is act now and tell your parents. They will be mad at you, they will probably not know what to do, they will raise hell but there is nothing else you can do. You will have to quit school, and since you are still a child you might want to either give that baby for adoption or have some kind of help from your family to raise this child. Your boyfriend's family will have to help too sonce your boyfriend is probably pretty much still playing with star wars toys so in this situation BOTH families will have to figure this whole mes out. I am sorry this is happening to you but at 16 you should know how babies are made.

Answer 4

heres some ways to help u tell yor parents

1) Tell your parents you have something you would like to talk about, and you sit down at one end of the table, and have your parents sit at the other end of the table, and make sure the front door is unlocked just in case you have to run.

2) If you can't tell them verbally, it never hurts to write them a note and leave it for them somewhere they could absorb the shock of what you have to tell them before they come to confront you.

3) Leave the box to the pregnancy test somewhere your mom could find it, that way she would come to you for the info instead of you having to go to her.

4) If you cook make a special dinner for your parents, and then break the news to them after dinner at the table while they are full and happy.

5) If you just have to tell your mom you could clean the house before she gets home from work. Then when she's in the house and relaxing from the day she has had, then approach her and tell her that you need to talk.

6) when your telling your parents you can bring a friend or an adult you trust for support

Just remember that no matter how you tell your parents its not the end of the world, you will make it through it.

Good Luck!
Mand<3

Answer 5

Oh Darling , depending on your parents...you should tell them. If they are hard-core...you need to find nurturing adults to help you through the shock of this. Planned parent hood is always great for counseling... Parents will always be shocked or angry first..that is because they want the best opportunity for you!!! That is just a stage of shock.
If you keep your little creation remember to stay in school, keep your dreams!!!! It will be trying and sometimes plain old hard but your future is VERY IMPORTANT!!!
Whatever you do don't marry each other just because of the baby!!! Save that for when your an adult...raising a baby is hard enough!!!

Best of wishes!!!

Answer 6

You have a few choices. You and your boyfriend can either approach both sets of parents together, you and your boyfriend can approach your own parents separately, or you can ask a counselor at school to help you tell your parents.

You need to have this talk with your parents soon, regardless of your plans to carry or not to carry out the pregnancy.

I know you are scared, but you need the support of your parents to get through this process.

Keep your chin up. I will be thinking about you.

Answer 7

you need to tell them together as soon as possible. They may get upset and angry but dont worry it will pass. You and your boyfriend need to make some serious decisions about the baby and where you are going to live (with your parents,his parents,on your own, a home for pregnant teen moms),how will you support thr baby and whether or not you are going to keep the baby.THIS IS THE BIGGEST DECISION YOU WILL EVER MAKE and it is also one of the hardest. i have first hand experience because i was adopted as a baby and given to wonderful parents who loved me and provided me with evrything possible And when i was 16 i had a daughter who i raised for 1 year and found it too difficult and i then put her up for adoption. It was the hardest decision i ever made but i will tell you that i know my daughter is looked after and has wonderful parents and lots of brothers and sisters. WHATEVER DECISION YOU MAKE it is always hard but this decision is yours to make.
if you need help with telling your parents speak to a school councellor or teacher and they can help you tell your parents or will know someone who can.
If i was closer i would help you tell your parents because i know what it was like for me to have to tell mine (except i was raped so i had to tell them that also along with the pregnancy news).
IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS AT ALL please email me at anytime [e-mail]
GOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE AND REMEMBER YOU MAKE THE DECISIONS NOT ANYONE ELSE

Answer 8

I would suggest that you both tell your parents at your own homes, because this is a very touchy subject and privacy is very important. You could start by siting your parents down, and lead up to telling them. Like, you could say, "Jonathan and I have been together for some time now,......." and so on. You have to be prepared for their yelling at you (if their like that). I hope i haved helped some.

Answer 9

Well you pretended adults so now is the time to grow up and start acting like one. Go directly to both sets of parents and tell them the truth. Yes they may be mad and disappointed but decisions need to be made about keeping, putting up for adoption, etc. The longer you hide this the harder it will be on everyone involved.

Answer 10

sit down and tell the parent you are the most comfortable telling then tell the other parent, then have your boyfriend do the same , but make sure both of you are in the room together when you tell your parents and his...and don't worry whats done is donw, it will be rough in the beginning but you will gte through it and even if you and the father don't stay together then you can be friends and raise the abby that way...get the support of your parents, once they see the baby things will change and they will love hi/her and it won't be so hard, it will be hard during your pregnancy with them looking down on you but once they see their grandbaby things change...trust me i know....

Answer 11

I think you two should sit down all 4 of your parents and tell them the truth at the same time. Probably should happen at a public place so they can not flip out right away.