She spelled his name wrong and sent it 3 weeks early. Her grandson is turning 4 years old. They are big earners.
2006-10-28 12:08:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that its great that she remembered his birthday. I also think that you are somewhere in the middle and should stop being so greedy about this. I was lucky to get such generosity.
2006-10-28 12:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by James S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's see...given that you don't mention the grandson's name, misspelling it could be an honest mistake. It was early. Would you rather it have been late? You don't mention how far away she lives. Maybe she wanted to make sure it got there on time. The kid is turning 4...$5 is an acceptable gift. Besides, it's the thought that counts. Or are you just trying to raise a greedy, inconsiderate child? The woman made an effort. Get over yourself, say thank you and move on.
2006-10-28 19:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by A 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she was being rude intentionally, but may have just forgotten a few points.
You can just give her a call saying thank you for the gift and for thinking of her grandson and reminding her how to correctly spell the grandson's name.
As for the five dollars... That's probably an appropriate amount at such a young age. Did you expect the grandmother to give her grandson a hundred dollars? Responsibility with money grows with age, you can't expect to get huge amounts of money and then assume it can be spent wisely.
2006-10-28 19:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Silver 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That statement does raise a lot of questions.
One, she did think of the child and did send something.
She isn't bonded with the child,
but she is sending you a message.
She values the child at five bucks,
which as a gift is impersonal and distant.
You need to learn from that.
You can't assume someone owes love, or support.
What happened to relationship between the child of the grandparent? There is the key to this.
What is it that you value from the grandparent? Money?
are you taking the child to visit regularly,
or do you blame them for not visiting you?
You are probably the in-law here, right?
Are the baby's parents married?
if not, then what does that say?
Stop expecting money, and start expecting affection.
To get it, you have to give it.
dj of raleigh
2006-10-28 19:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by dj_of_raleigh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever hear the expression, never look a gift horse in the mouth? I never got a card or an acknowledgment of my birthday
from my grandmother. Grandmothers are from a different way
of like and most probably didn't have a lot of money growing up.
What ever, she did send him something. Be grateful for that.
2006-10-28 20:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi well as you get older you will find out that old people get very insecure about things, health family etc. They feel money may be needed to protect them from the harshness that some old folk have to face. It can be the only useful thing they have to offer (they feel).
It's good to think that they had your son in mind, although a bit early.
Gran probably felt that you would be able to get present with $5 she sent.Also older people have different value to money than parents.
2006-10-28 19:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by dragon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call her and say Thank you. Is it that hard? he is only 4 years old...hes not going to know the difference between $5 dollars or $100 dollars. by the sound of it, you want the money.
2006-10-28 20:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by sparky_butt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How much money did YOU expect?
Did your son expect any money and if yes how much?
Don't bad-mouth Grandma in front of your son!
Is Grandma your mother or your husbands?
Maybe Grandma has left him lots of money in her will
and does not want to spend any of it now.
Go put that money in a special bank-account for him.
Over the years, Grandma's $5 every birthday, Christmas
and other contributions, will add up to a tidy sum of money.
2006-10-28 19:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does money really mean that much? at least she did think to send it to him in the first place...my grandmother doesnt even know my name much less my childrens name and no shes not crazy she just dont care! so be thankful for what you got!
2006-10-28 19:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She actually send him a little something, and made the mistake of sending it early, and misspelled his name? OMG..., burn granny at the stake..., than tell your son that granny hates him, and that you aren't gonna let him have the $5.00..., After all this, see if your child understands what just happened...
2006-10-28 19:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ricardo C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋