Yesterday at my high school we had a pep rally. My girlfriend and me are both 17. My girlfriend is on our school dance team. Durning the pep rally she was with the dance team. a song came on and she was dancing all over this guy. I was feeling really jealous at the time. Is it normal for me to be jealous or not? What do you think
2006-10-28 12:06:13 · 34 answers · asked by TOM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she has never cheated on me.
2006-10-28 12:07:11 · update #1
Please, don't sweat the small stuff, consider it her job, she was supposed to dance with a guy from the crowd, There is tow things you can do, the immature thing would to yell at girlfriend for doing what she was supposed to do, or the mature thing, and realize your the one going home with the girl, she's yours, right, blow it off, dude the faster you get over jealousy the faster you can enjoy life.
2006-10-28 12:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal for you to be jealous! That's human nature. I'm 32, and if my wife was a professional hiphop dancer, I would probably be jealous whenever they do some kerazy sexy grinding move. It's natural to feel that way. If you didn't feel any emotion, THAT wouldn't be normal, AND I would question your love for her.
Now, you obviously know that she's doing this activity as a hobby, and thus, the actions that she is performing is purely professional and she would not let her affect her personally. So if you know her well enough, you should respect her enough and trust her enough that she would not let it affect your relationship with her.
What's not normal though, is if you EXHIBIT your jealousy physically in a unreasonable immature way. These would include things like comments to her that make her feel uneasy and uncomfortable, to any demonstrations such as yelling and threatening the guy that dances with her. Now, it's ok to just tell her that what she's doing is making you feel really jealous. But ultimately, you should not expect her to quit her activity, just because of your personal feelings; just as you wouldn't expect her to force you to quit playing on the football team because she feels that a cheerleader is dancing too sexily at you during practice and games (Always think in terms of how you would feel if she was telling you the same things that you are telling her...) You should tell her that it's making you uncomfortable, but since she enjoys the activity, you trust her enough that you don't expect her to do anything about it. (some girls think it's really cute when guys tell them that they are a little jealous). Then, to impress her, why not buy her a cheap bouquet of flowers at the local supermarket or a box of chocolates (do anything spontaneous that'll impress her). She'll be sooo impressed with the way you are able to handle your inner jealousy so maturely that she'll fall more deeply for you than before! (Plus, this will keep that evil guy from trying to pounce on your girlfriend cuz he has started to build some feelings for her later; Yeah, watch out for that too!).
In the end, if you take care of her, by going out with her often, doing lots of things during your personal time together that will keep impressing her (ask your buddies if you run thin on ideas), then you should have absolutely NOTHING to worry about...
Oh yeah, and don't STALK her or spy on her (That'll p*ss her right off)
2006-10-28 13:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by onomeister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for you to be jealous, but if she was paired up with this guy, and they are both on the dance team, then you shouldn't make a big deal out of it. Just remember that she chose YOU for a boyfriend And from what you said, she has never given you cause to doubt her. But you should be careful, your jealousy could give her cause to dump you. In short, trust your girlfriend until she gives you cause to doubt her dedication to you.
2006-10-28 12:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is not normal and dont believe anyone that will tell you that...jealousy is a wasted emotion! Dont let this feeling overcome you, if your girlfriend has never done anything that would warrant your insecurity then brush it off immediately. It will only cause you big time grief in the future if you act on it. NO BODY WANTS TO BE TREATED LIKE SOMEONES PROPERTY! and thats what jealous people do, they treat their mates like they own them and are controlling. Is that what you want in your relationship? There is nothing cute or sexy about jealousy and it has nothing to do with love.
2006-10-28 12:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie_6234 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. It's like who likes to see their girl dancing all over some foul? Not me, but hey, it's just a dance and at least you know she's with you and not him. Other then that don't stress over it because at some points she has to dance with some guy since she is on a dance team. Be happy your with her and that she does not like some other guy.
Peace out, bro!
2006-10-28 12:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by what_it_do? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal for you to be jealous. As for if it's okay or not, it depends. If it was part of a dance they were doing, then cool it, I'm sure it means nothing. If it was just for fun, talk to her, tell her how you feel but still don't over react.
2006-10-28 12:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Timshel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normal, yes....valid maybe not. It's a pep rally and she was doing a routine? Then it's just that a routine and not ment to show she cares for another. Talk to her about it and note it's ok to be jealous. Just don't go overboard. Some things are just as they look.
2006-10-28 12:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by victoria_ann25 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i dunno about u but id prefer her do it in front of me than when im not there and findin out bout it afterwards coz u know the facts about what exactly happened and not just what she wants to tell u. make ur own decision and follow it. was it her choice to dance with him? if she had to do u think she enjoyed it a bit more than she shouldve? think about what her reaction would b if it was U that danced with another chick-would she blow her lid? no pint gettin all worked up about it in the end a man that can let a woman enjoy life is gonna keep his lover longer than a guy that makes her tell him where shes goin, with who, and when she will b home. i say leave it and next time maybe say somthing.
2006-10-28 12:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need to be jealous because your girlfriend was dancing with another guy your worries should come if she continues after the dance. if you feel offended tell her!
2006-10-28 12:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you, then enable her be attentive to. do no longer carry something in, using fact quicker or later you're able to explode. Its style of regular to be somewhat jealous, yet in keeping with possibility you ought to have long previous and danced together with her, and then she does no longer have been dancing on the different guy.
2016-11-26 01:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋