Okay my ex swears out that he loves me I believe him but then his ex is always around doing stupid **** trying to break us up. He tells me he don't have anymore feelings for her but I think diffrent. Then I found out they kiss he said she kiss him first. I forgive him cause I wasn't there but any ways. When I went bowling I came back and found out he went into her room I asked him he said know. Then I found out it was true but he said they didn't ****. She said they did so it's back and force he say she say. So I decide to break up with him. When I see him I pay know attention to him. I went to the movies with this guy and he was dancing with her at I dance. He write me and e-mail saying that he love me to death and that he wants to be with me. And sorry for lying that's the big issue cause now I don't know if he's telling the truth or not about her. I do want to be with him but this b**ch is always in my way what would you do
2006-10-28 12:05:10 · 8 answers · asked by Scooby_doo06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have to agree with what most of what has been written. This guy has lied to you, which violates trust. First of all, when he took up with you, his ex should have long been gone. There should have been no ties with her whatsoever. Having her around will just keep the drama in tow and you don't deserve that. If he is with you, he should be spending time with you, not having you wonder if he is kissing/screwing his ex. This is ridiculous. He needs to be a man and stop trying to have his cake and choke on it too.
Breaking up with him was a wise decision. You need a man who will totally commit himself to you. Commitment in a relationship is not difficult to do; obviously you were committed to him. Why can't the same be from the man who wants to be with you? Never expect anything less.
Unfortunately with this guy, forgiveness has been done when you learned of the kiss. Nothing wrong in turning the other cheek and letting bygones be gone. But he continued to have his ex hang around and play with her. Then he decided to lie to you and only admitted to that when you guys broke up. TRUST is very important in a relationship. If he is going to lie until his nose grows longer, you definitely don't need to put up with that. Yes, he will do it again if you you take him back. Also, like you said, what if the ex continues to play in the shadow of your relationship with this guy - who needs that kind of drama. If he really wanted a relationship with just you, the ex would be just that, X!
2006-10-28 12:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that with the drama and the Bull ****, on top of the lieing, kick this one to the curb. You totally can do better than that with someone who will respect you and your feelings. If he knew she made you uncomfortable, and he cared about you, he would avoid her totally, or if he did happen to see or talk to her, then he would tell you right away. This guy was doing it behind your back, and then lied about it, and little bits of the truth came out, after little bits of lies came out. I don't think you really can continue a healthy relationship at the point with so must trust lost. Best to find a real man who has morals and knows how to treat a woman with respect.
2006-10-28 19:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have 2 problems:
(1) Your bf might have cheated on you and lied about it, and
(2) his ex-girlfriend is always trying to break you both up so that she can get him back.
You need to first decide for yourself what you believe happened with him, and then decide if you feel like you can trust him again. Part of your decision should include how far he is willing to support your wish to have the ex-gf completely shut out. For your relationship to survive, you need your bf's full cooperation in this.
No one can really evaluate these matters better than you can, since you are the one living them. I hope that you make the choice that feels right to you...whatever choice that may be.
2006-10-28 19:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by curlygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me I'm 47. If he lied to you once, he will definitely do it again. she won't be the only b**ch in the way. Move on with someone you can trust.
2006-10-28 19:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, make him prove to you that he really does love you to death by letting him confront his ex, telling her to stop bothering you both. Let him do that infront of you. That is... If he really loves you to death.
2006-10-28 19:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wants bother of you. the other girl just wants to bother you. she probably doesnt even love him. men are very weak. if you can take it. wait until they break up. be careful. he will find out what shes all about sooner or later.
2006-10-28 19:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by nidia r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him alone, lies continue and sometimes u have no clue. he cant be trusted. find someone who really cherishes you
2006-10-28 19:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by jusprettynsmart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you put up with his sh*t anyway? if love=happiness, this is not love so DUMP HIM
2006-10-28 19:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by whoami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋