A question for white people?

Question

What do you think about most blacks? In particular how do you feel about black women? I know most of you that answer this question will lie, but please, try and be honest. Do you think about race as much as minorities do? I know you have less of a awareness than miniorites because you are the majority and so everything is aimed at your race. When you are a minority, your race is always an issue. Such as myself. Whenever I meet someone new, they always want to know what my race is. It is natural, but sometimes I wish I had more white features so that my race wouldn't always be an issue. I hate being considered black because it sucks to be black. I hate that about myself because I never fit in. I wish race didn't exist but society refuses to put an end to it. You guys have it so good and you don't even realize it. Many white guys don't even look at me because they want blonde white girls first. It hurts.

The problem is that people judge you at first sight, sometimes their isn't time to get to know you first. We all stereotype, all of us.

Answer 1

Not all guys are after 'blonde and white'. I'm (modestly) an attractive white male and for a long time was convinced that my wife/long term would be black. Why? Because I've always found black/bi-racial women to be so beautiful. I can't stand the 'white model types' that have gained so much attention. It probably bothers me almost as much as it bothers you. I cringe ya know?

I'm sorry that things are so hard for you right now.

Answer 2

Okay you say that you wish race wasn't an issue but it seems to me that you are the one making it such a big issue for yourself. By the way you were talking I'm going to assume that you are biracial as am I . I hear alot of biracial children talking like this and I just don't get it. I love that I am half black and half white. I feel like I've got the best of both worlds. I am able to relate well with both blacks and whites. Thats sad that you are ashamed of being black. After all the things that your ansestors have been through for you to even be able to sit next to these white people that you are trying to be like. Your ansestors were ripped from their homes, chained and piled on top of each other on a boat. Once they got to america their families were torn apart and were force to do hard laborous work all while the white man was getting rich off of their blood sweat and tears. We built this country, this country was made rich off of free labor. We weren't even allowed to be educated. Blacks were killed for simply knowing how to read. Our whole culture was stolen from us and we were forced to adopt theirs. If you ask a white person what etnicity they are they can tell you that they are italian, greek, british ect. You won't ever hear a black person say that they are kenyan, or sudanise and thats because that was stolen from us. Maybe you just need to stop trying to be something that you are not. You will NEVER be white. Once you accept that then maybe you can learn to love who and what you are. Let me just say that I am so proud that I come from such strong people and I love every ounce of that african blood pumping through my veins. If someone has a problem with your race, then that right there should let you know that they are not worth associating with anyways.That is sad that you let society make you feel like their is something wrong with you. I hope you can learn how to be comfortable in your own skin.

Answer 3

I think you are a beautiful young lady. You should develop a I don't give a crap attitude towards people who will say hurtful things to you. I find that people who say these things are dealing with their own insecurities and use degrading others as a way of making themselves feel adequate. You will find this is true all throughout history ...every race and every region. if you buy into what you are hearing out there you will give up and make nothing of your life which is exactly what they want you to do so that they can say ..."see we were right ". The way to win the game is to ignore them and make yourself a beautiful life and then you are the winner. God Bless you and keep you and good luck with all you choose to do ...continue to lift yourself up and never let this world get you down. Love yourself always and don't take to heart what you hear others say. Look at their lives and you will begin to see their motives and soon they will become a minor annoyance not worth your time or trouble.

Answer 4

my reaction to people is on a person to person basis... no lies... im not telling you what i think is pc or is nice to say. if someone looks friendly, then they look friendly. it really isnt about race as much as you might think.

race is something that has been on my mind a lot lately... for starters im just finishing my major in cultural anthropology and so it seems like every day i hear how race is a social construct and is not biological... however, when i come home and my black marine husband tells me all of the crap he's gotten that day about being black or being married to a white woman, it's a huge kick in the face. in a way youre right about race not being such a huge factor to white people, but not in the way you think. we do think about it... theres really no way not to... but we just dont have to deal with it personally the way others do. it hurts. bad. i thought i understood when i was younger, but i really didnt. until you experience it you have no idea.

ive never been asked my race, and for someone you just meet to ask you yours is ridiculous and disrespectful. dont ever wish you had more "white" features... you are who you are, and theres nothing to be ashamed of. you just need to find an identity outside of your physical appearance. talk to your parents about it... theyve more than likely had much more experience in the area.

and dont worry-- youre not the only one who wishes society would put an end to race.

Answer 5

I'm white, but I am also a minority because of the culture in which I was raised. A silent minority can be worse.. pple dont look at me see me as differrent, so they make off color jokes in my pressense and think they are being funny.

Personally, I think Black women are beautifull and strong. They dont seem as shallow as a majority of white women I have met. Black women seem down to earth ans speak whats on thier mind and dont care if someone takes offence! (U go girl). i have also noticed that black women age better then white women. I have see 70 yr old black women that dont look a day over 50. Such beautifull complexions, and they dont wrinke as bad. Black women for the most part have great self body image. being curvy is Ok in the black community. If a person cant see you for anything other than the color of your skin... forget about em! they arent good enough for you.

I am personally planning on changing my name soon... I want to be named after a wonderful, bright, attractive, powerfull, smart black woman I knew as a child. MONA!

Answer 6

As a white, I have to admit that I do realize it.

I am sorry you feel like white guys don't look at you or find you attractive. I can't say for sure, but I wonder if they are afraid of you? My perception of black women is that they are beautiful, strong, and about as smart as they come. However, I am intimidated by them because they tend to group together rather than flying solo (understandable in this society, yet intimidating no less) and they seem to snap at you for offending them when you didn't even know you were walking through a mine field.

I don't know that this is the perception that all white people have, just mine. Some of this stems from the fact that my best friend for a few years was a African American of the opposite sex. The black men did not seem to care, but a lot of black women (and a few white men) acted as though they hated me and wanted me to die.

Answer 7

Well, the reason society hasn't gotten over racial differences is because of both racist people and people concerned with their own race, such as yourself. Your attitude is only hurting you. Who cares who the white boys go for? Who cares who the black guys go for? I can only speak as being white, but in my HONEST opinion, black women are the ones focusing most on themselves. Most people I know don't obsess over the fact that they are white, or chinese, or indian. The men I know, despite their colour, don't blame all their problems on their race. It seems that the colour excuse is easier to use when it comes to problems in one's life.
I grew up a minority. Don't know if you've ever been to Toronto, but I was always one of maybe 4 white kids in my class. So using the minority thing has always irritated me. But it is true in my experience that black women will use their colour to win an argument, or make a point. I think that they are holding themselves back. If you could only see past your colour, and learn to value yourself as a human being, a smart, kind person, perhaps life would be a little easier for you.
I hope I've made a point here. You asked for honesty, and I've given it to you. As for people wanting to know your race, it's only because society is mixing, and it is interesting to meet someone of mixed heritage. People often mistake me for being Native Canadian, I don't mind them asking. It's more polite than talking behind my back!
Love yourself, and forget the people who want to catergorize you. You are unique, and cannot be pushed into one single mold.

Answer 8

Wow, can't believe you feel the way you feel, not sure where abouts you are in the world. I'm from the U.K. and I am of Mixed heritage. One of my parents is from Malta and the other from England. You shouldn't be ashamed of who you are. Your race has a lot to be proud of. People who put you down and discriminate haven't got nothing else better to do, they are a sad disgrace to the human race. I think there are far more important issues going on in the world than to worry about the colour of someone's skin. Some people need to travel and open there eyes and use their brains. You should come to england, you will fit right in. Don't be sad, if they don't like you, F**K them. They are the loosers

Answer 9

Oh, Boopie, take if from a blonde, white girl, guys want what they can't have. They don't look at me either! I don't think much about race because I have so many friends from so many other cultures. I want to know about you, the person. The rest is window dressing and matters very little to me. I am sorry you feel that I will lie to you, because I am not a liar. I honestly don't care about your race, I am just more curious about who you are, what your family is like, what you do for fun, what you do for a living, what your goals and aspirations are and what makes you laugh. The best friends can always laugh together. Welcome to the real world, we aren't that different, are we?

Answer 10

I openly admit that I am very much interested in a person's race. Not because I'm racist, just because I love learning about what makes each and every one of us different, unique, special and beautiful!! I am a white girl, with a native step-father, a half-native brother, and a half-black niece. You shouldn't feel ashamed of who you are, or what colour you are. You are you, and you're special and beautiful just the way you are. Imagine, though, that in places of the world where white people are the minority, they probably feel uncomfortable around the majority, too!

Answer 11

No white's don't think about race as often as minorities do. Many white people don't know about white privilege. And minorities see racism each and everyday, whites only think we have experienced racism, or sexism but in truth we haven't compared to minorities. I have respect for all cultures, and people are individuals. The only reason we have different races is because society created it, we as humans always have to sort things by categories, and that's how it came about. It isn't good, but that's how things are. And then some get mad because of things like equal opportunity. Some whites say "everyone is the same regardless of race", but that isn't true either. There are differences, not just in color but in culture. But society needs to be more tolerant and respectful!