Should I have broken up with my boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and we broke up tonight. We have been living in diffrent cities for 2 years and have gradually grown apart. He was very cold and distant to me earlier this year, but we pulled through. Now although things are better, I feel I have fallen out of love with him. I broke up with him tonight. I feel very sad, should I have done it?

Answer 1

i will never know the full story ( unless you tell me ) but it sounds like you two have just come to the end , never easy or fun but it has to be done

Answer 2

Hi there
Its awful when a couple break up but sometimes it is for the better, the only thing is that at the time you dont realise it. I think if you live so far apart and he has become cold or you feel distant from him maybe it was the best time to split. Just think the new year isnt too far away and who knows whats around the corner. Like the saying goes ' Theres plenty of other fish in the sea' plus you dont want to waste too much of your life thinking whether this relationship is worth keeping, when you could be out having a great, fun time (which you deserve, like all of us do). Good luck what ever happens, You wont feel sad forever, weve all been in this situation and believe me it certainly doesnt last for long.

Answer 3

When any relationship ends you will feel sad and most probably you will think about suggesting getting back together or trying to work things through, however you say you have fallen out of love with him, if this is the case then you have probably done the best thing, you've been honest with him and yourself, you havent done anything wrong, your feelings have simply changed. You may have fallen out of love, but after 3 years you're bound to have some sort of feeling still even if it is just careing for him, so although you're not IN love with him there is part of you that still cares and that is the part of you that will be hurting at this time. The only advice I can give you is keep your chin up and things will get better even if it doesnt feel like it at the moment. When I was in the same situation I found that forcing myself to keep busy took my mind off things and although it was hard and I had moments where I sat feeling sad or upset, things did improve and I felt happy again. I'm not saying this will be a quick process and it probably wont be easy and I know its easy to say "dont worry things will get better" and you probably dont feel like they will but they really do and I'm sure with the support of your friends and family you will get through your sad time. Hope this helps, keep your chin up. Take care. Hope things work out for you. Lou.x

Answer 4

Only you can really answer this question, as its you in the relationship, but I'll give you my opinion, anyway. Yeah, you did the right thing. If you've fallen out of love with him, then there was no point in carrying it on, you could be missing out on someone else fabulous, while you were in the relationship that wasn't working. It's natural that you're going to feel sad, its always sad when a relationship ends, even a bad one. But on the whole, well done for making a decision that is probably best for both of you. Now you can move on and eventually you will be alot happier. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Only you know the answer to that question. Don't be sad, even if you have split up there is still a grieving process because that is the way with all relationships - even if they are bad. It is normal the way you feel.

Relationships run their course and we learn different things from them. Sometimes they help us see what we don't want rather than what we want. Take the good things from it but be bluntly honest about the things you didn't like.

In the past I saw things through rose-coloured glasses. I tried to find good things when they wern't really there. I deluded myself and caused myself a lot of heartache when I should have moved on.

You will know when you meet the right person, it took me many years to find the right person. You will feel totally at ease and at peace.

Peace be with you tonight - have a good cry - be honest with yourself and move on. It sounds simple but sometimes it isn't. Trust yourself.

Answer 6

If you are not happy and in love with him, so what is the point of being with him? I had a bf for 3 years that I loved so much, but I was so unhappy with him that it was not worth at all...
It is normal to feel that sad.... You've been together for quite a long time, you've been through a lot together...
Before making any decision about your relationship, take some time for yourself...
REMEMBER ALWAYS THAT YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY!!!!

Answer 7

you feel sad because you have been together for three years but if you are not happy in your relationship and if you have fallen out of love with him then yes i think you did the right thing but if you still love him then you made a mistake but only you will know what is right for you

good luck i hope thing work out for you.

Answer 8

You did the right thing, if its not working its not working, and its time to move on. When you find the right guy you ll know. Then no matter how far apart you live you will always want to be together.

Answer 9

i think you shoudlve..it was tiem to end a relationship like that..i mean you two were probably gunan end up doing it soon anywyas....it ahrd to keep a strong relationship goign on if you two live so far appart and all...it for the best:)...youll get better eventually too..
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make yourself like a girls night...invite a bunch of friends over...watch a sweet movie..and just chill:)
k going off topic here, anyways,
good luck, hope you get better soon:)

Answer 10

Yes you should have done it..you knew it was for the best..you are bound to be sad just now but you will be happier soon and find someone who deserves you.